Guys, Do guys like a childish girl?

[Anonymous]

I’m 23, but people often think I’m 18 or 19. I get why. My face, my body, and how I behave

I don’t mind having a young-looking face, but my body makes me feel like a child. I’m thin (though I have a bit more fat now, so I look “more like a woman”), small waist, medium butt for my weight, and small boobs. I’m petite but not short, I’m 5'5

I’m also not sexy at all. I know I’m not hot. Nothing about how I move, talk, or act feels “sexy"

I also behave younger. The way I speak and my mannerisms, like sitting with my legs swinging if they don’t reach the floor, probably add to that. So I can’t fully blame my appearance

I don’t think I’m ugly; I think I’m pretty (not gorgeous or hot, just pretty). But I don’t feel very “womanly”

I’m not into casual dating or sleeping around. I’ve only been with one guy, and I don’t see more than one person at a time

I just feel like most guys won't take me seriously. The way I approach dating feels kind of “childish”

Could guys keep up? I don’t like bars or alcohol. I prefer coffee shops. And I wouldn’t sleep with anyone until a lot of months have passed

There’s nothing wrong with that, I know, but I can’t help thinking guys see me as not mature enough because of all these things

I would take seriously someone like you

I wouldn't even be interested, because I'm into mature women

I don't think you are exactly inmmature

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[Anonymous]

Not everyone is going to like it, needless to say. But I'd find it endearing and plenty of other guys do too.

It's natural to ponder or sometimes even worry. But ultimately, it shouldn't matter what guys think. Even if it might be difficult to find men who are interested (which I don't think is the case), you wouldn't want to artificially change who you are to fit the desires of others. Don't change yourself and have a man date the lady you're pretending to be, find a man who likes you for who you genuinely are. You'll both be much happier.

[Asker]

That's really nice, thank you
I wasn't planning on changing myself tbh, but I do wish I was able to just... naturally be different, I guess hah
I understand men can be interested now :)

[Opinion Owner]

You're more than welcome. And yeah, I understand where you're coming from. Best of luck.

[DryGermanGuy]

Not too much, no. I've just had this experience with someone nominally in her thirties, but often behaving like a moody, angsty teenager. Prefer not to repeat such encounters.

[ProbablyClueless]

Innocence can be quite charming, to a point.

If it's a constant thing, I do find it a little exhausting eventually though.

[Asker]

Okay, I do understand! So innocence is okay unless it's constant. May I ask what "constant" would be?

[ProbablyClueless]

No need to make it more complicated than it is; just read the room and have contextual awareness. You know that coworker you have that can't stop cracking jokes on the job and even though you probably like them, sometimes you wish they'd just do their job?

It's like that.

Just recognize when the situation calls for more mature behavior. That's all. You should be good if you do that.

[Asker]

Understood

[shortster]

I like younger women, but not childish girls. The way you described yourself doesn't sound all that childish to me.

[Asker]

Understood. And thanks!

[shortster]

You're welcome

[Staximus]

It sounds more like you are just being overly critical of yourself

[Asker]

Hah, you might be onto something

[TheInvincible]

Swing legs if it doesn't reach the floor is common. No? Most of the other things you mentioned make you sound mature enough.

[jahaims]

If you find a mature guy around your age he will appreciate you

[NAILS0816]

You seem to be very self aware. That is a very attractive trait.