Why did my friends with benefits encourage me to find someone else?

[Anonymous]

The sex was great. The conversations were always amazing. He did beg me for a 3 sum but I wasn't interested. Then he kept telling me how I need an alpha male and how im alive and well and capable to find someone. Im lost

[bowenw]

He may be hoping if you find someone else you will agree to a threesome.

[Asker]

I wrote my question weird. He suggested me to date someone else... not for the 3 sum

[bowenw]

I was wondering if he suggested you date someone else so you would have someone else for the threesome along with him. lol

[Asker]

No because when he suggested I date another person he described a man and he didn't want to do mfm... he wanted ffm

[bowenw]

He could be wanting to move on and find a girl to be in a serious relationship with, not only friends with benefits.

[Asker]

Oh okay. I was wondering why he was rejecting me. Sex must have not been good

[bowenw]

I get the impression it's not about sex.

[Asker]

What do you mean? He just didn't like me?

[bowenw]

I am just speculating with limited information. He must like you but thinks you should be with someone in a serious relationship. He may also be hoping that person is him.

[Asker]

Damn...

[bowenw]

I suggest asking him to clarify what he meant.

[spartan55]

Lost about what?

[Asker]

Why is he encouraging me to see other people?

[spartan55]

Who knows, why does it matter?

[Asker]

I feel rejected kind of

[spartan55]

Why, you should have just ignored him. He rejected himself.

[Asker]

Who does that when we were already doing it a few times

[spartan55]

Who knows, but you sign up for bullshit when you do friends with benefits

[Asker]

I guess

[spartan55]

Keep doing friends with benefits, it's not a good scene

[Asker]

Its just sex all i want the other stuff is just noise to me.

[Asker]

No one wants me in my state so..

[spartan55]

Obviously it's not just noise because here you are griping about it

[Asker]

Im not looking for more thats what I meant. Im just confused why he's rejecting me or im so ugly im not even good enough for the sex lol

[spartan55]

You don't know if that's why. You are 100% guessing

[Asker]

Im okay with that tho I got nothing else...

[spartan55]

That's pretty pathetic

[Asker]

I guess...