Should I end my friends with benefits and find someone else who fits my needs?

[morgaan_madison]

I've been friends with benefits with the same guy for on and off for 2 years. He's becoming too selfish for me recently and doesn't do what I want him to do to me. I'm always the one doing what he wants me to do to him. Have to hook up when he's in the "mood", but when I'm in the mood and text him he just ignores me. When I try to ignore him when I'm not in the mood, he would call me several times. I tried talking to him about it but he would gaslight me. Is it time for me to find a new friends with benefits to fit my needs and ditch his ass? The weird thing is when we hang out in public he would go do his own thing talk to other girls, but when he sees me talk to another guy he will interrupt my conversation with that guy. Its weird and don't understand why he does that?

[GreekLorrd]

It sounds like your current friends with benefits situation is no longer meeting your needs and is causing you frustration and discomfort. It's important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being in any relationship, including a casual one like friends with benefits.

If you've already tried to communicate your needs to your current partner and they continue to ignore or gaslight you, it may be time to consider finding someone else who can fulfill your needs and treat you with the respect you deserve.

Additionally, the behavior you described of him talking to other girls but interrupting your conversations with other guys could be a sign of possessiveness or jealousy. This type of behavior is not healthy in any relationship, even a casual one, and should be addressed if it makes you uncomfortable.

Ultimately, the decision to end a friends with benefits relationship and find someone else is up to you. Trust your instincts and prioritize your own well-being.

[morgaan_madison]

eh if he's acting possessive and jealous when I'm talking to other guys, does that mean he's started to get attached to me or acting like a selfish asshole?

[FilmGuy93]

I would say that it's time to end things, yes. Passed time, actually. Friends with benefits need to be actual friends. You aren't supposed to treat each other with disdain and contempt.

[EpicSnail]

Lol that relationship doesn't sound one-sided at all

[morgaan_madison]

what you mean? friends with benefits is supposed to go both ways not beneficial for one person

[EpicSnail]

Yes, and like you described, that is clearly not the case here. He is being selfish.

[Anonymous]

Yes it's time girl. Move on and drop him.