What are the chances of me finding a guy who wants a serious relationship?

[Cherrylicious]

Whether online or offline almost every guy that I meet is never interested in a relationship it's usually "casual dating" or "friends with benefits". I have heard many men admit that they aren't interested in relationships because they don't like the "responsibility of a relationship" and they believe that relationships are too complicated and that they do not want to be tied down to one person and all they want is sex and nothing more so it is safe to say that women are more interested in relationships than men because most of them just want to sleep with you.

And there are even some men out there that pretend that they want a relationship just so that they can sleep with the woman so that he can discard her like trash I personally have never met a man who is interested in me for a serious relationship or interested in a serious relationship at all but are only interested in swinging and having Flings so my question is what should I do on my end to find a guy who believes and love and relationships or should I just settle in just date multiple men at a time?

Or do you think that most men settle for serious relationships and monogamy because they know that that is what most women want even though that is not what most men want themselves?

[Greyestofgreys]

First off, the post and the comment section here reeks of "I've tried X, Y, and Z, but all men/women are ______". Every person is unique and has their own ideals, thoughts and desires, so its unfair to put everyone under an umbrella based off of a select group of people.
Secondly, to answer your question, there are tons of men (and women) out there looking for serious relationships, and there are tons of people just looking for sex. I'm in a serious relationship because I love my girlfriend and would do anything for her, its because of the bond we share. We're friends, we always make eachother laugh, we help each other whenever we can, etc. We got together because we were great friends and decided we wanted to deepen our relationship. We are together because we enjoy every moment of being together.
Thirdly, a solution to your conundrum, if you keep doing the same thing and keep finding the same type of guy, mabye its time to change your plan of attack. If you can't catch anything where you're fishing, you need to either change your bait or your location. Mabye try meeting people someplace else, a park or a library rather than a bar or a club or vice-versa (these are examples, don't take them too litterally), or mabye use a different app. Or, change your strategy, make it absolutely clear that you are looking for a serious relationship (not that you haven't already) or tell them that sex won't be on the table until X amount of time in a relationship (or hell, not until you're ready) this could help filter out the people just looking for another notch in their bed post. Try your best to be yourself and be open with them and have fun, being in a relationship is supposed to bring you joy, so stay positive and keep an open mind.
Either way, keep trying, being in a serious relationship is truly something magical, and it can be hard to find the special someone, but it'll be worth it when you do.
I wish you the best of luck.

[rebeliouse]

@Cherrylicious
do you have a list of what you require from a man and the relationship? thats best place to start then ask the world for that guy.

why not date multiple men then you get all the fun with no hassle. if one is being a pain you have backups and you get more love than just from one guy. more perks less hassle sounds a winner to me

[rebeliouse]

@Cherrylicious
follow me for more help

[Greyestofgreys]

You also need to be willing to make comorimises as well. Its unlikely the the perfect prince charming will just crawl out of the wood work because you asked for them, just be open, honest, and willing to give it a try even if they don't check off all the boxes. Men have standards and desires too, so if you don't fit all theirs, its unfair to ask them to fit all yours. That's where compromise comes in, you need to work together in a relationship to make each other better people. Relationships are a roller-coaster, there's many ups and downs, and while the downs can seem scary, they are to be expected. And just like a roller-coaster try to enjoy it, that is why you got in after all.

[Hanrej]

I think your chances are good. Keeping him happy and willing to stay in that relationship for any length of time is gonna be the real challange.
Most men who still believe just need a bit of time in a serious relationship to realize that's not what they want. Why would they? Relationships carry nothing positive.

[Truthatanycost]

What will a serious relationship with you bring to his life?

[Cherrylicious]

What makes you ask such a stupid question?

[Truthatanycost]

That is the question many men will ask themselves when considering whether to move forward..

[Greyestofgreys]

He means that relationships are two way, a guy isn't going to want a relationship with you for no reason. If you want a serious relationship, show him that you're the one to complete him, make him laugh, have fun together, be open about yourselves, if spending time with you isn't enjoyable, he obviously won't want a serious relationship (make sure to be yourself, because if you aren't, everything will fall apart the moment you drop the facade).

[rebeliouse]

@Cherrylicious
its not a stupid question

[Dchrls78104]

I'm a guy that wants a serious relationship, but unfortunately the modern woman doesn't give me much to work with.

[Guardian45]

Your experience is quite common... until you meet The One.

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”

- Wayne Gretzky

[ImNoOne111]

Depends on the age group. If 16-19, around 40%. Above that its way too likely

[loveslongnails]

Same as it ever was.