Is it okay to move on from a boy who is failing to give me closure?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy who didn't give me any closure because we lost contacts with each other. We don't have a mutual friend. We don't go to the same workplace anymore. There is no other way to get back as we aren't connected on social media either. The guys who know him have crushes on me who are trying hard to break us apart. They are not helping us each other to get back with each other even though they have the chance to help us both in finding back each other. I don't like these guys. I just don't have any closure from him and neither he doesn't have a closure from me. We lost contacts of each other since his phone was stolen in which my mobile number was saved by him. He can't guess my mobile number without seeing it is my new number through which we were connected for a very less time. Now his mobile doesn't work when I try to call him. I don't know where he stays. He doesn't know where I stay. We lost contacts as soon as his mobile got stolen. I have no way to get closure from him. Shall I move on without any closure from him? Or should I wait for him hopelessly until he might find a way? Or should I try even more hard by crossing all the possible limits to get back with him?

[melanieeeB]

Yes of course, not everything needs to have a closure. Plus no official closure, is still a closure lol
Move on, from reading everything and the comments it seems like you didn't really even know him that much, he is probably not even stressing out about this at all.
If he really wanted to get to know you, he would have got to know you in that short period of time you both talked, he didn't tho.

And he is definitely not the guy, you probably pictured him to be in your head. It's all not worth it.

[OlderAndWiser]

You said that "We don't have a mutual friend," but then you explained that "the guys who know him have crushes on me who are trying hard to break us apart." It sounds like you have mutual friends.

It doesn't sound like it was much of a relationship. You don't know where he lives, where he works, or any of his family and friends, and he doesn't know where you live, where you work, or any of your family and friends.

[Asker]

I don't call them as our mutual friends because they are behaving more like enemies than friends. So we can't consider them as our friends. Yes, I don't know where he stays, his family or his other friends. He doesn't know where I stay now, my family or my friends too because we never cared to share about those people between us. We always cared only about ourselves selfishly and yes, he loved me so much. I don't know if he still loves me or not. Now he doesn't have a confirmation from me about my love on him. We were in a situationship. Now after his mobile got stolen, things went like this. What can I do? Wait for him hopelessly? Or move on from him without any closure because there's no certainty in our love and future?

[OlderAndWiser]

Did you and he spend any time together in person?

[Asker]

Yes, we did. But for a very short period of time

[OlderAndWiser]

How did a short term encounter become so important in your life? Was he your first romantic or first sexual partner?

[Asker]

Yes, he was my first and I was his first

[OlderAndWiser]

Romantic or sexual or both?

[Asker]

Only love and feelings. Not physical

[OlderAndWiser]

A first innocent love always either leads to a long term commitment or serious heartbreak!

[Asker]

I know! I don't want to break his heart. But I don't know how to reach him out

[Guy13]

Yes as it is plain that he is not serious or has no intent to move forward in the relationship. It is time for you to move on as well.

[Asker]

But he still loves me. I know this. But he don't have a way to find me. So what will be your advice in this situation?

[Guy13]

It sounds like it is now outside of human control? I do not have any idea... this is way above my pay grade. Maybe one of the super techies on here?

[Smoothing]

Have you tried googling him, I am sure he us on social media you can Google. Send him a friend request and you can regain contact form there.

[Asker]

What if I can't go with this option?

[Asker]

Any other way?

[Smoothing]

Well, I don't see any 9ther option since you don't know where he lives and you don't have his contacts.

[In_Trance]

yes; closure is overrated