Honestly this is a very offensive and generalized question. Not all women don't care about a mans feelings. Yes there are women like that, only in a relationship for themselves, but there ARE good women.
Nobody is perfect and women do mess up as men do too. But the only time a woman would derive any pleasure from emotionally hurting a man is if he hurt her and she got revenge or if she is a sociopath.
Men and women are equal, we are all fucking human beings and that won't and can't change.
Men sometimes do the same thing to women but I would never say ALL men do this. Not ALL men are sociopathic towards women feelings.
You are just meeting the wrong type of women and my friend, I think it's time for you to look elsewhere for your women companions.
A true woman would not want to hurt a man emotionally and definitely would not derive pleasure from it.
It is NOT hilarious for a man to get emotionally devastated, EVER. The same goes for women, it is NEVER funny for women to get hurt.
Yes SOME women believe it is but also SOME men believe it is too.
It is double standards you're talking about when it comes to this because it is just women you're talking about.
If in your personal experiences women have hurt you time and time again, it is because you are letting them. You are befriending and/or dating the wrong type of women honey.
Find a woman who is loving, caring, nurturing. No one is perfect and women who are loving and caring will not be perfect either but they'd never want a man in emotional pain.
I myself would die a little inside if I hurt someone I cared about.
I would not care however, if I mildly offend some random man on the internet simply because he disagreed with my opinion.
I love and care for my friends and most of my family, and in the future I will love and care for my SO. If I marry a man and we end up divorced, I would NEVER want him to be in any pain, The only time he and I would divorce is if he cheats on me or he is unhappy with me. I would never hurt a man like that. I would want to be the one to make my husband smile, having insanely amazing sex, have a good meal and cuddle till he and I fall asleep. There is only one man I would wish any pain upon and that is my father because of what he did to me, my life and who he is as a person. My ex boyfriend broke my heart and I wouldn't wish that type of pain on him although he inflicted it upon me. Please sir, try to find a good woman. Don't overgeneralize an entire sex ok?
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When I see homeless men in the street, who other fellow men blatantly ignored, I talk to them like they're actually human beings. I ask how their day is going, I smile at them, then I give them a dollar or 2.
But you're right, I don't care about men's emotions/feelings.
When I work at my bar, there's a homeless veteran who everyone (that includes his fellow men), ignore because they think he smells too much and that he's gone mad. I greet him everyday. I talk to him more than just "what would you like to drink". I listen to his stories. I've seen him shed tears, I've seen him smile from ear to ear.
But you're right, I don't care about men's emotions.
When I see a cause, like donate to men's prostate cancer research. Or men's shelters. I give money.
But you're right, I don't care about men's emotions.
When my brother was sad and crying because his child was in the hospital, I consoled him. And we hoped that my nephew would get better.
But you're right, I don't care about men's emotions.
When my other brother was happy that he was able to turn his life around and graduate high school with very good grades, I took him out to eat and celebrate his accomplishments.
But you're right, I don't care about men's emotions.
Human beings are complex. Many women take pleasure in seeing men in pain. Why? Because they've been hurt and get their revenge out on every man they meet. They are vicious, cold, dramatic. You seem to live surrounded by women who haven't shown you what real love is like. What it is to be cared for, nurtured, loved by a tender, soft woman. Freedom is important, freedom to feel and express what you feel. There isn't something more important than freedom, at least to me. And I find it intolerable to have love without freedom. To me, it doesn't matter if someone says they love me but then hold on to me hard and suffocate me. Love is something full of light. When someone truly loves you, they will let you be free. Free to feel, to express, to be. I assure you the world isn't lost and women aren't all vicious. Just don't give up on finding a woman who will love you tenderly and let you be free to be yourself, and to express your feelings as immensely as you want to. Don't let anyone take away the right you have to your freedom.
I do give a damn. I give a SHITLOAD OF DAMNS.
i agree with you bro, I've went through this last year more then i could wish for. My ex girlfriend, haven't seen her over a year now. When she miscarried our child, she became very distant, cold and extremely hateful towards me, and i never figured out why. Even during the pregnancy she was very hateful, hormones or not, it's not nice of her to tell me i will never get to see my child without any reason, i never got any closure from her, just insults. after that i dated a girl briefly but she was moaning about her ex boyfriend who treated her like crap. then her mom started hitting on me, nothing happened between us, she was a married women, however i did like her a lot, so she went out clubbing with some other guy who was hitting on her, the same day i told her that what she is doing is wrong, it was on a mothersday as well. that guy kissed her in the neck and when her husband saw it she told him that i had grabbed her neck firmly, which i never did. later she texted me that i had ruined her life when i told the guy the truth and that she wanted to ruin my life. i never did her any wrong. then i dated some girl, and she was just crazy. her demands were crazy, i had to break up with a female friend who i wasn't romantically involved with, her feelings were the only ones that counted, not mine. she acted like i was some cheater and whenever i dissapointed her she would make sure i get to know. then i stayed single for few months till i dated another girl, it went great but it soon stopped. she would let me pay for everything, i would do stuff but she kept saying a relationship was 50/50 well it felt like 80//20 i was doing stuff around the house, playing with her daughter who i really cared about, and when we could have had some alone time she just wanted to get drunk, letting guys aproach her, and when i stood up for because some guy was all over her she was pissed at me. she would take me for granted, she would betitle me, insult me, criticize me, and our last fight was about her sending me home the day before around 11 in the eve, she was tired, and then she called me around 2 in the morning, and had drunken guy friends over at 4;30 in the morning, she couldnt get why that upset me. she threw my stuff out when i confronted her about it, and she saw me sitting with tears in my eyes and she couldnt care less, she just shut the door and that was it. later we tried to talk things through and she would claim i still owed her money which i never did.
I think it is because you are too giving, too available and you don't stand your ground. I think that is why women treat you like that man. I don't know about you, but i have learnead that in order for girls to respect you, you have to be sort of a dick to them, otherwise they will get tired of you and call you needy and desperate.
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Why don't any girls give a damn about guys' feelings?
Likely the same reason I find most guys don't give a damn about gals feelings. Such as using manipulative and deceptive tactics to have sex rather than seek mutual attraction and desire/consent. Or treating every gal they find attractive like a sexual object or eye candy ala catcalling and approaches yet not grasping gals may find it offensive or not want to be disturbed. In those cases I find most guys rather than listen to gals feelings will talk over gals.
That reason being I find most people tend to be quite self-centered only or mainly caring about their own feelings.
Are all women sadistic psychopaths who derive pleasure from human suffering and despair?
They're not as I find there are very very few character traits that apply to all members of a group. And sadism and psychopathy are not common going by psychological studies.
Or is it just that they perceive men to be lesser beings, mere beasts rather than actual humans?
I doubt this as I find it has been males that historically perceive gals to be lesser beings. At a time gals seemingly were regarded as property and in current times it is seemingly a commonplace norm to use a derogatory insult like bitch interchangeably for the general female population. I have yet to see males get similar treatment.
Why do only females have freedom of emotion?
Probably because in society it seems only males have the freedom of logic. Most things gals say or do may be easily dismissed as her pmsing, overreacting, or being emotional while a male's words and actions may be seen as the token truth because males are oh so logic.I will try not to generalize too much, because I know each of you little snowflakes out there are individual and unique. BUT... that being said, men have a filter. Women do not. We just let it all out. Guys are a little more, um, 'refined'. They hold back some things.
For the most part, that's a good thing. We could stand to take a few clues from y'all on that one. And I agree with you that society should really relax it's standards with guys on showing emotion. Absolutely.
But is it really all the woman's fault, or is it more an issue of bullying? I think a$$holes in general (of both genders) are more to blame than women are. Do men feel emasculated because they are taunted by their peers for showing emotion in the locker room, or on the soccer/football/baseball field or basketball court? Or in the military out in basic training? Or with their buddies on a road trip? Yes. Hell, yes.
That's guys doing that to each other!!! Not just a girl thing. Yes, some women expect their men to be tough all the time. And that is total B. S. Ladies, I am calling you out on that: if you're like that, stop. Stop it now. Bottling things up is unhealthy. And you guys that are coaches, youth leaders, higher ranking members of any organization; you should stop it, too. Just put your foot down and be the one to say, "it's okay, man". That's all we have to do.The reason why men are told to restrict emotions (and this is what it was originally, never where they forced to pretend they did not have them, merely have control over them) was because emotions get you killed, historicly speaking. Lashing out or speaking out in anger historicly would result in a duel to the death, not being able to handle stress or getting into such a melancholic state that they did not wish to get out of bed would result in starvation/accidents from not being focused. That was really what it was all about being able to push everything aside and focus on the task at hand in order to ensure not just their survival but the survival of their families.(a man could not succumb to fear while in the midst of protecting his family for instance) It was the womans job to nurture the man in order to relieve him of this emotional burden once the deed was done (so to speak). Unfortunatley what has happened is women are no longer the emotional outlet, the nurturers they once where since society has descided that this much needed task was "oppressive" to women. The end result is that men push aside emotions but have no means to cope with them, eventually having them spill over in ways that are not traditionally masculine. Inevitable really. This results in a back lash from both men and women, but I think more so from women because they are still wired to be attracted to that more traditional male while other males being in the same situation are a bit more understanding of the issue. Women never had to push aside emotinos and there fore have many emotional outlets (like their friends) so to them they do not really understand what the issue is simply presuming you to deal with it as they do (or in some cases simply excpecting you not to have emotions to deal with at all). So the issue is both parties are wired to act differently when dealing with emotions and expecting the other person to act as they do.
I'm not sure the assumption there is true: the female comments here so far certainly suggest otherwise!
I don't think the urge to hide our feelings helps, though.
Back at school, Becky (a girl I'd fancied, but thought way out of my league) asked me out (and I said yes, of course). The next time I saw her, two days later, her best friend was complaining about being "desperate for a new man" - and Becky replied "me too".
I cried, of course: it was horrible - but not until I'd got back to my room, so all she'd see was me walking away.
A week later, people still thought we were 'an item' - only her friend had seen that exchange. So, I told a friend that it had ended (and, to my shame, didn't word it at all well).
That afternoon, I was told off by another girl for being so cruel: how could I have dumped her like that, she was really upset?
(I never did find out for sure. Was she really telling the truth, and I'd somehow misunderstood - or had Becky really asked me out just for the "fun" of dumping me two days later, then pretended to be upset by me to twist the knife? I never quite believed either option: apart from this, she seemed like one of the nicest girls I've ever known - but how could "I'm desperate to find somebody else" possibly be misunderstood?)
Either way, just being more open about my own feelings would have avoided at least half of that mess! (The tiny silver lining to this cloud is that it was another 14 years before I got dumped again...)There are definitely girl's who care about guy's feelings. I know when I am with a guy I care more about his feelings than mine at times. I am very selfless that way. It's kind of a flaw and I think it causes me problems in relationships. But I am trying to work on that.
I just feel like I try to treat people as best as I possibly can, There is no reason to be mean or hurtful towards people.I agree that society should cahnge and let men feel ok if they are emotional. I like men that are emotional and show that they care. Heck, I like people that are that way. I'm sorry this is your experience but there are girls that do care. I just think that it's not the girls that you have the problem with but both genders - people. Personally I think most people doesn't give a shit, that is the sad reality. You'd think all girls care for other girls? No man, it depends on a person and you character.
You definitely found the wrong girls if that is your perception of ALL GIRLS! It's either you lean towards girls who have no interest in you or just manage to piss them off! Whatever you are doing to develop this perception needs to be changed (sorry to say it)
I'm sorry for the shitty girls that you have dealt with, but not all girls are like that, I'm DEFINITELY not like that and I'm sure lots of other girls are like me as well... Its definitely not fair for any girl to not think about the guys feelings, coz that is just so freaking selfish ! Another thing, about the emotions , I have no idea why people keep saying " a real man doesn't cry " that's b***s*** , guys, no matter how tough they are or how tough they are supposed to be, they are still human beings, guys also should cry when they feel sad, and no one should tell them that they aren't " men" for it 😒 and always when its not too much... Crying too much isn't nice nor on girls or guys.. But yeah, not all girls are like that
Guys are really, reeeally tolerant as people and you act like you don't really care about a lot of things so we just assume whatever we say or do won't affect you as much as it actually does.
Sadistic Psychopaths though? That's a bit strong. Calm self.Funny, I thought Men were the "cold" ones: the ones Who can feel free to act like jerks, treat women Who express feelings like trash or inferior being.
I feel sorry That society has taught That Men should not express their feelings like women do. However, it has to be acknowledge That having feelings and emotions is part of human nature.
Just remember That if someone really likes you, he or she is going to accept the real you.That's odd. In my experiences I find women are more empathetic and sensitive than men. Plus they tend to be more open to discuss and share deep thoughts and emotions. Which is why I like hanging out with girls more than guys when I'm feeling down and need someone to talk to.
Boys and girls are taught from a young age that being feminine is a bad thing so when men show emotion (which is considered to be a feminine thing) both genders get uncomfortable and women can be especially cruel because they are led to believe that their emotions are more valid than those of their male counterparts. It is a very common and underplayed form of sexism that needs to be targeted in order to prevent all forms of gender inequality. I don't know there are women out there who value men's feelings just like there are men who value women's strength though these people may be few and far between.
I think there is a difference in perception in how people (men and women) react and how it perceived by the opposite sex compared to how it actually is. I think both genders do care, it is just show completely different and they misunderstand each other. You should check out my blog post.. I wrote about this issue and how men and women don't see eye-to-eye... and why we don't.
kgranada.wordpress.com/.../ I hope you find it interesting! :-)You can't say ALL women are like that. Yeah, ALL the women YOU are going after are like that but not ALL women are like that. The problem is we live in a world where most people have been brainwashed to believe that if a girl doesn't look like Megan Fox or Amber Heard, she is not beautiful and that a guy needs to be bad boy that a girl can change to be good just for her. It's bullshit really. My suggestion to you would be to stop hitting on girls that are your type and maybe change your approach and attitude.
Most of the girls are full of shit so only their feeling matters to them. They just want to do what they want never ask the guy, even when having sex they run away sometimes by saying "i am feeling bad". Sometimes i wonder "Fuck the girls, break up with girlfriend, go to whore house and fuck whoever i want because i can choose anyone but still i can get herpes so then again i have to leave my thoughts for next time and get to my lovely girlfriend." Most of girls are bitches because they think they are smarter and shit but they are not. Females have a small hearts and they are sensitive and they have lovely thoughts for each other's future so i think some girls are great in every way and they should have freedom of emotion.
What? How can you generalize women like that? Just because there have been women that have hurt you in the past does not at all mean that we are all beasts. Just like when women generalize men... it can go either way. I care a lot, probably more than I should, about every male in my life whether it be a romantic relationship or a family member. I am very nurturing and have been like that my whole life and I always thought that it was annoying because all the guys I like turn out to be assholes that don't give a shit about me and want sex. But I KNOW that not every guy is like that. There are good men and women out there.
Or maybe you're hanging out with the wrong selection of women...
As a woman I can say that I care about others feelings more than I care about my own. However, I have met women who are- simply put- assholes. Its a hit or miss no matter who you go after in the dating pool or friendship wise. I think it really depends on their upbringing as well. Or what they've been through. Men can be dicks. Women can be bitches. And sometimes there's no in between whatsoever.
Try surrounding yourself with different people. It sounds like the specific women you encounter are just pathetic.Yeah, I'm not one of those girls that dares to suggest that you being a man makes your feelings girly or unjustified because I'm not a sexist asshole.
You need to leave. Seriously, I'm assuming that you've seen that culture for a while now, and I will tell you out of experience that if you do not appreciate the way you are treated in an area, you will not be happy. You can trick yourself for awhile, but inevitably you will still feel trapped. Women aren't all mean, there are a ton of great ladies out there. A good tree will bear good fruit and a bad tree will bear bad fruit (or none at all). You can assume that where there is a lot of bad fruit, all the others are not likely to be good either. I had seen a lot of what you are talking about, and if you stand up for yourself, instead of being labeled confident, they say you are mean or weird. I got it from both sexes, and it's a completely different story where I am now. I can't tell you how uplifting it feels to be free from that. If you can't move, take day trips on weekends; you meet your best friends in the most strange places.
I know what you mean and i thought the same thing about men, the actual problem is that you have met a lot of shitty woman who obviously represent every woman in your mind, let me tell you this as a woman i only treat boys like "shit" if they really deserve it , like when harrassing me or just simply having a disgusting attitude but if you're a nice guy i have nothing to say and am being nice, if i do have some thing to say or being rude towards then I'm a f*cking bitch and you shouldn't waste your time with me, I'm sorry that you end up thinking that way because you've apparently met a lot of woman but i thought/think the samesame thing of guys :')
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