My boyfriend doesn’t accept that he’s gay — what should I do?

[Anonymous]

In front of his family, friends, etc., he pretends to be straight and says homophobic things, etc., but when we meet in secret, he is super cute and kind.

[bobalife]

It’s hard… even I haven’t open up to my family I am Bi. Talk to him about it and see what’s the best for the both of you, safety, and love. Wishing you all the best 💖

[Zack-Bann]

Tell him it’s more gay to do this than it is to just own it.


Who knows maybe some twisted reverse psychology would work

[OneViewpoint]

Why do you think you need to do something? This situation is not yours to control. Your choices are stay or leave.

[DuSith]

Would his family approve?

I had a gay friend come out to me and admit he loved me. This was VERY dangerous for him, but he trusted me. He tried to tell his mother, but she actually disowned him. It took years for her to wake up and realized, gay or not, he was still her son. Even I caught it over this, and I'm not gay. Some people are dense. He may have very good reasons to be this way.

It might be kind of pointless, but you might try looking up a book called "Loving Someone Who Is Gay." I think that's the name of the book. Anyway, it covers a lot of things that we might miss today because it is so much more accepted.

For what it's worth, I knew guys who never came out to their families. One, who did to his wife, found himself cut off from all sides. His own daughter, who worked for the Social Services, outed him so he couldn't get help as he was dying.

Just be there for him and let him know you care. That can do a lot of good.

[Kabluie]

There is the whole maybe the family doesn’t know or he knows they won’t take it well. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t accept.

[guywithafetish]

If he doesn't accept it that probably means he is not gay, maybe just BI

[In_Trance]

You shouldn't do anything per se.
This is not your circus

[qwerty2469]

You shouldn't put up with that. If "gay" wasn't involved would you put up with anyone treating you like that?

[captain_voidwalker]

You should stop bieng gay also

[Biscoff3030]

Break up with him immediately

[snermcger]

LOL!!!