How do you tell if a guy is lying?

[Jasmjn]

I feel there’s a guy shit talking me but I can’t tell because he asked to hang out with me twice recently where he purposely missed school to be with me and you wouldn’t shit talk people you ask to hang out with so I’m confused

[MontBlanc]

Look for patterns, not one big sign.

Inconsistency is key , stories change, details shift, energy feels off. Defensiveness or overexplaining can follow.

Most of the time, your intuition notices first.
The real test is whether his words and actions align.

[MrOracle]

Bingo!

[ohsheeT]

You look in to his eyes as you are speaking watch his body language.. pay attention when you are talking how many times he changes the subject whatever it is you're talking about
But most people , when they're lying , they will tell you the truth of the same sentence , sages don't know the they're doing it that you have to really pay attention

[MisterPandemonium]

A guy can hate you, and also want to have sex with you. It's actually pretty common.

Does he seem to have your best interest at heart? Or is everything he tells you all about what he can get out of you?

Why do you think he's shit talking you?

[Jasmjn]

Guys might be really immature if they have sex with someone they hate😭He didn’t ask for it or like give any hints. We have done a bit dirty stuff but it’s not like he’s just doing this and that as soon as we are together. It doesn’t seem like that’s the only thing he wants. Usually I’m the one starting it by kissing him and then he starts grabbing my butt or my tits. Get out of me? When we talk and I ask him about his day he tells me and says what about you and then he actually asks me about it.

I think he’s shit talking me because he screenshots my stories without wanting to tell me why. Maybe he thinks I’m weird because I post weird dirty stories (I just make dirty comments to TikTok’s) after I stopped sending him TikTok’s and posted them on my story instead he screenshots them more

[MisterPandemonium]

@Jasmjn He might be saving your dirty comments for jerkoff material.

It sounds like you two are getting along well. If him screenshotting your dirty stories is the only reason you're worried about him shit talking you, you probably don't have anything to worry about.

Is he boyfriend material?

[sage2021]

The thing about someone lying to you is when you find out they were lying to you.
Then what?

Do you:

Confront them?

Do you ignore that they are a liar?

Do you ever believe them again?

A liar is a liar is a liar. Their spots never change.

[Jasmjn]

Great way to say it!

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂

[RavVid]

I wouldn't assume that you wouldn't be shit talked about because he has asked to hang out with you.

Lets assume he wants to get into your pants and there is another girl and he also quite like to get into her pants too. He might well put you down to her in order to elevate her and make her feel more chosen.

Girls do this also. I was with a female female friend and she did this in front of my face. She clearly liked a guy and doubtless wanted to make it clear we weren't romantically linked - that was OK. But she took it a step further to elevate him relative to me. Not OK.

Overall I don't think it would be that uncommon. People do do this for a variety of reasons.

[DuSith]

Are his lips moving?

Trust your gut. Most women, even girls, can feel when something isn't right. Most guys can't get lying right. Most don't care enough about the details and end up messing up little things. If you pay attention, you can catch these. Or, if you're really a sensitive, you will pick it up by their non-verbal clues.

[Cyfris]

If you have to ask that question he is porbably lying. Is he lying to you or to the others he's is dogging you to.. both are possible... The putting you down to others is unfortunately a real thing most people do.. People we think higher or better then us we will try to bring them down to our level.. Usually because we want to be closer to them..

[ElenaSeluna]

For me, my intuition is always right about the person if he’s lying

[ElenaSeluna]

And he’ll get defensive all the time

[Nikki1989]

When his mouth is moving with most men.

[new-person]

The first question is how do you know he is sh! t talking you?

After you tell me that, I can tell you.

[Jasmjn]

I don’t know if he’s shit talking me but he screenshots my stories

[Jasmjn]

And I have two of his friends on snap and they always see my story right after he did

[new-person]

Hmmm this is a hard one.

In my experience, if someone is taking screenshots of you social Medea posts it could be one of two things.

The best is to start being careful on what you post and have this in mind (can someone twist or use this to blackmail me) and read the post over asking that 1 or two times. It is best to only post general things with not to much detail in the post about you.

Example: "got a job today, it great"

Now it could be he just really likes you.

But hears the dark side, it could be he could be taking screenshots to remember to use later like blackmail or to control you some how. Example: someone with NPD will take screenshots of texts and post to twist and use to make them look good and you bad to protect their image. Keep in mind they will only do this on things they can use to twist the truth and they know they can use later. Example, someone with NPD might ask there girlfriend to stay even if she says she could lose her job and life if she dose. (This they will not keep) But then after they lose everything they text you "maybe you should go home" then you text back saying "it's better now I stay here". This they will keep and show people later saying they did not ask you to stay, but did suggest that you go back home. Mean while no one knows the first conversation and truth that he asked you to stay even when you said you could lose everything.

I would be extremely careful and get away from him ASAP. Yes it could be he just extremely likes you and driven to you, but the question is why is he doing that, for what reason. It is safer to stay away then risk being a victim. And only post general things with no details!!!

[heruncommonsense]

males always lie if they think it can get them sex

[David318578]

What was the "shit talking"? guys will tease girls they like

[Jasmjn]

No idea if he shit talked me but I just have a feeling that he did/does as I tend to overthink EVERYRHING😭one of my “friends” told me that him and his friend agreed that I was weird but since that bro asked me to hang out twice. He even wished me merry Christmas. Very sweet of him. He screenshots my stories and doesn’t wanna tell me why. No way that’s a way of teasing me for fun. It’s definitely a bad sign but I just haven’t done anything differently since last time we hung out. I’ve posted more dirty stories about him but I’ve done dirty stuff with him where he smiled a lot so why would he shit talk me about that?

[Jonezey101]

Girls do it to

[David318578]

@Jasmjn if you have no idea if he is shit talking about you then why do you think he is shit talking about you?

And what do you mean you have posted dirty stories about him?
And what "dirty stuff" did you do with him? Did you have sex with him or give him a bj or something?

[jahaims]

If there was a way to know if someone was lying or not, don't you think they would use the technology? Lol

[beefcakebradybatson]

If it's Trump, when he speaks !!!

[Jasmjn]

LMFAO you got me giggling

[jazzy34]

Actions don't match words.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Did you try asking

[Jasmjn]

Yeeee I did twice. First time he seemed to be very chill and second time he got a little annoyed because I asked the same question again because it shows I don’t trust him and maybe he wish I did because maybe he’s telling the truth. I mean if someone asked me a question and I told them the truth i would also find it annoying if they asked me about it again when I was honest the first time

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It's hard to say but it fits the pattern of someone with low self esteem who socialize with lots of people.

If this guy is the type I'm thinking of, they tend to gravitate toward people who are authentic, especially if they identify with your story. But they're insecure with a social network so they'll throw you under the buss for not a hearing to what they precieve as social norms even if you're not doing anything anyone would notice.

But this is a pretty big jump even for me. It could be a lot of stuff. That's just the one I know the most about.

[Vampirelover_12]

It's all they do.

[Unycorn]

Direct.

Men need direct speaking.

[LiamS95]

Time will expose any lying it always does.

[Bobby248]

Ask cross questions and ask same questions

[Jasmjn]

I did and he was very chill the first time I asked him. Then I asked him again to see his reply again (so I could maybe tell if he was lying) and he seemed a bit annoyed probably because I ask him the same question because it means I don’t trust him and maybe he wish I did I don't know. But the second time I asked he also kept the conversation going about that topic and he also replied like kinda quick

[Jasmjn]

So maybe that’s a good thing but it’s suspicious that he screenshots my stories without wanting to tell me why. Also I removed him from my snap story

[LunarEclipse433]

His lips are moving

[wkhan_87]

Difficult to tell

[Anonymous]

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