Guys, Would you stress over what ring to get your girl?

[DishLady]

A guy friend started asking questions about types of rings -- knowing the type of ring to get his girl... knowing whether to splurge on a real diamond or to get a lab-generated diamond... whether a girl would care which one she got... etc.

I smiled. These aren't casual questions and my young friend was mentally preparing to start shopping around. Luckily our other friend and I are NGD (non-gold-digger) types, so we said go for a good quality band and whatever stone suits the gal's personality... Look at the things she likes already and match the style. I know the girl. She's understated. She won't want a hulking solitaire on her tiny, spindly little hand. So I recommended possibly a flatter smaller cut and setting that will rest snug as a bug on her finger. The other gal agreed.

We also argued for the lab diamond (unless she's a gemologist, which she's not) bc the point is to have something she'll wear every day to remind her of the love of her life. (Teacher/social worker with a giant rock on her hand isn't a thing she'd enjoy.)

He still seemed chagrinned, convinced that something lager and fancier was the way to go... and we both chuckled at him. I then told him about a lunatic who went into Harry Winston guns blazing to replace her "pear cut diamond" with a "princess cut diamond" -- which when you look at the size of the hulking ring in question you wonder what type of crazy the lady actually IS.

It made me wonder a little now many of you guys made yourselves dizzy wondering about this sort of thing.

[Orion84]

I've only ever bought an engagement ring once, but I never stressed over it.

I feel that, if you know the woman well enough to propose to her, then you should at least have some sense of the type of ring she'd like. I did, and so the choice was relatively easy for me; it was just a matter of finding the type of ring I had in mind.

It turns out that it wasn't difficult to find, at all, and I located the perfect ring at the second place I shopped. I thought it was perfect for her, and she was ecstatic when she saw it.

[DishLady]

That’s what we told the kid but he was still skeptical. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Static_In_The_Attic]

AS for a ring the only ring I’m buying are onion rings, no stress on this end.

[DishLady]

😂😂😂
#FiveGoldenRings

[Twodogs0525]

I had my mom pick it. The lady at the jewelry store thought it was "so cute" that I took my mother to make the decision. I didn't know that it was that unusual! Anyway, my mom picked a middle of the road ring, as in, it was expensive but not ridiculously expensive. My wife absolutely loved it! She really isn't a material type person to begin with but I wanted to get her something nice and I knew my mom had good taste.

[DishLady]

The mom-MIL picking the ring IS rather unusual, but shows she LIKES the girl you picked and shows she thinks YOU ALSO had good taste. 🌷

[exitseven]

My future wife and I were saving to buy a house so we did not buy an engagement ring. We did buy gold wedding bands. My ex Boss had friends in the jewelry business and we got good deal.
After we were married for 10 years I bought my wife a gold ring with inlaid diamonds. I saw somebody wearing one and it looked like something my wife would like.

[DishLady]

Aww. See, that's sweet. Yeah, my grandparents did something similar bc GP was broke when they were young sweethearts.

[exitseven]

spending thousands on an engagment ring just seems foolish.

[DishLady]

Agreed

[worldscolide]

I did stress over it. Not because she was picky, far from it, it's because I wanted something worthy of her.. Fun fact, she hates diamonds. She wanted a sapphire. A good sapphire costs near as much as an equivalent diamond lol. But I got her an arrangement of sapphires in varying levels of blue.

[Staximus]

I'm pretty sure most guys are worried about if a girl is going to like the ring if they are going to ask her the big question, I would be. I would go up to the mountains and get the gold myself and maybe even make the ring if I found a girl crazy enough to marry an old slacker like me.

[HawkPerception]

I already have an idea of the type of ring I'd want to get the girl I marry one day. Of course, she'd have to like it too, so when we're planning on getting married soon, I'd consult her for her opinion on what kinds of rings suit her taste. But I don't want it to just be something only she likes. I want it to represent me in a way. It should be symbolic. That's my opinion anyway.

[DishLady]

You wouldn’t SURPRISE her?

[HawkPerception]

I would with the proposal, but she'd know well in advance that I'd want to marry her and somewhat of a guess as to what kind of ring I'd get her.

[Alex-Snow]

I would stress on how I would be able to afford it.

[DishLady]

That’s the other thing… some rings are nearly a year’s salary for some people!

[slatyb]

No, I would have told her when I met her that I wasn't doing that. It's a ridiculous custom invented by the DeBeers diamond cartel along with the whole white wedding thing.

[Spencer10]

Yes I would... I would want her to love it so its a important choice a guy has to make.

[AgentG111]

Kinda did a few times last time I just bought her a firearm. Way easier and simpler.

[LiamS95]

No, as it would be custom made.

[spartan55]

DishLady... your NGD Jewelry Consultant

[DishLady]

Lol. Someone’s gotta be. For me it’s more about the thought to offer something valuable to a woman you love that shows you cherish and understand her. It’s not about the size of the bling…

[spartan55]

It's not the size eh?

[DishLady]

Of the RING…