I don't think it is necessary. Unless he has horrible taste or thinks about buying a plastic ring it will be ffine. I suppose someone wanting to marry you would have an idea about what you may like. I mean, i would probably tell my man I don't like gold or super chunky or old looking stuff. I would make sure I go jewelry shopping at least once in that relationship before it gets to the point when we would think about marriage. This way he can also get an idea about the size you may need in case you don't have proper fitting rings for your ring finger. Just go ring shopping once and make sure you try one that fits on your ring finger and be vocal about what you like or not like. He may remember that moment when it is time to buy you a wedding ring.
Now, if the ring is not perfect that is another story. You should accept it as it is, it is a symbol of love above anything else. As long as he did his best to pick something he thought you would like and didn't do a terrible job it should be fine
Are you talking Wedfing Ring or do you mean Engagement Ring? Because Wedding Rings you shop for together since you both wear a Wedding Ring and the Engagment Ring he usually buys & this is where Your Faith and Tryst in Him begins!!! If you can't Trust that he knows you well enough to pick the right Engagement Ring for you how is the Marriage going to work?
My husband chose my engagement ring and I helped him choose the wedding band. I also picked out and bought his wedding band. I was concerned that maybe I wouldn't like what he chose, but honestly the sentiment is so much more than I expected. It grew on me so fast.
I had a girlfriend who not only led the way but also paid for it too. Yes that was uncomfortable for me. On the flip side though, I think when a couple are wanting each other to be involved is awesome for me. Its a huge turnoff for a girl to get out and look for something way over budget just to fulfill her selfish goal of impressing her friends. Nah
If you're going to pick expensive stones (which don't actually do anything) and expect me to pay 3 months salary (or whatever bullshit that men are expected to do these days) then yes, I would be offended that the relationship is only worth the ring that you get out of it.
Otherwise... well, I'm not sure.
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Honestly if your partner isn’t proposing and you both have agreed to getting married then picking out the ring together would be just as meaningful
But if he’s planning to propose this is something he should do, obviously if he’s proposing picky or not you should be grateful for what he chooses because he is putting in effort and thinking only about you when he’s looking maybe just keep that in mind
I certainly have strange tastes when it comes to jewelry so it would seem like picking my own ring might be preferable, but I actually care an awful lot more about the symbolism than the ring itself. I think it means more if he chooses it. You’re being asked to love him, to join him, in the family he is creating, so it means more if the ring is representative of who he is and what he likes. Then you say yes and wear that symbol.
That is the most narcissistic thing I herd in my life your basic saying I know your going to fuck it up please just give me tens of thousands of dollars to do it myself if the ring is that important to you then your getting married for all the wrong reason and will be pawning it for a tenth its value in 5 years max
She will have to wear it for long time, I would really need her to get involved in choosing it as I'm the worst person in choosing something like that.
I have no rings see no point in them (wedding one is different story ) and I'm not the best person for that task...
I never have really thought about that. But no if we are going to spend eternity together I think she should have every right to go with and us to choose something together. It does make the entire proposing area and cost difficult but i think its best both parties are involved
Absolutely not, if she’s going to wear that thing through thick and thin for the rest of her life she should be able to choose it her self.
But as her man you should know what she likes and you have most likely fished the answer out of her through the years.
I'd hope she trusted me enough to know I know what she likes and pick out something she'll love. However, my intention is currently to ask her with an ornate dagger rather than an engagement ring and to save the ring for the wedding.
Personally, I wouldn't mind at all. If the purpose is for her to have it forever, I would want to be sure it's something she actually likes. So I'd be all for her picking out her own. Takes a little pressure off of me to not fuck it up.
Offended? I am the man for my partner, i buy her engagement ring after i asked her what she likes (and know her well) so the wedding ring is totaly her own dicision on her own. There is nothing to be offended for
extremely. i have the perfect ring for her-i would hate it! www.zales.com/.../V-20012939 nontraditional, simple-yet beautiful-like her-and, it matches her eyes. i put a lot of thought into it.
I couldnt care less what the ring looked like. All I want is to be married to the man im in love in, and want to grow old with. So many women are picky as hell. They should be grateful they have even got a man who wants her as their wife.
How would you suggest he ask her, without a ring, and then suggest she pick hers out?
I'm not against the idea, and she should LOVE the ring, as it is forever, but the logistics vex me...
I don’t know. I think part of getting engaged is surprising the girl by asking her and I’m not sure how you ask without a ring. But on the flip side I think if your relationship is at that point, you should be dropping hints about the type of ring you do like.
Personally by that time, I would have already tried to learn the general style preferences of my fiancèe, so I would try to pick it out based on that. I'm not always so good at matching that though, so I would keep the receipt making sure I can refund or trade back, so that if she does say yes when presented, she can go pick one out for herself
Me personally not, but it can come into conflict and possibly be perceived as a woman attempting to "drain the bag" or a "gold digger" if your female companion is constantly trying to pick and choose when it comes to expensive gifts, I say have a talk with her or leave her, she just wants the bag homie.
Not at all. I would honestly take them out to do that anyways, because have to pick the right size ring to fit their finger, as well as something stylish they love.
While I think it's a bit weird, I don't mind if she chooses her ring; as long as she stays within my budget (no, I will not accept her adding her money to my budget).
i would prefer it to be a complete surprise, but at the same time future husband make sure you get me something with a black stone lol
I imagine he would know my preference by that stage though..
Not really. I mean eve though a part of me would like to pick the ring instead for the gesture, at the same time who would know her taste in rings more than her. so no i would be cool with that if it was how she wanted to do it.
I don't really mind, but then in my culture the ring isn't even important. It's more of a recent thing introduced by Hollywood than anything else
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