I don't think it is necessary. Unless he has horrible taste or thinks about buying a plastic ring it will be ffine. I suppose someone wanting to marry you would have an idea about what you may like. I mean, i would probably tell my man I don't like gold or super chunky or old looking stuff. I would make sure I go jewelry shopping at least once in that relationship before it gets to the point when we would think about marriage. This way he can also get an idea about the size you may need in case you don't have proper fitting rings for your ring finger. Just go ring shopping once and make sure you try one that fits on your ring finger and be vocal about what you like or not like. He may remember that moment when it is time to buy you a wedding ring.
Now, if the ring is not perfect that is another story. You should accept it as it is, it is a symbol of love above anything else. As long as he did his best to pick something he thought you would like and didn't do a terrible job it should be fine
Are you talking Wedfing Ring or do you mean Engagement Ring? Because Wedding Rings you shop for together since you both wear a Wedding Ring and the Engagment Ring he usually buys & this is where Your Faith and Tryst in Him begins!!! If you can't Trust that he knows you well enough to pick the right Engagement Ring for you how is the Marriage going to work?
I don’t see the point of getting an engagement ring and wedding ring so whatever people want to call it is fine, but basically I mean the ring I’ll wear that shows we are getting married or are married.
But what does he wear. The Wedding Rings are supposed to match your ring to his the Engagement Ring is separate.
He still has a wedding band. I don’t see the point of the woman getting two rings.
Then forego the Engagement Ring and the 2 of you shop for the Wedding Rings tgat you don't put on your finger until the Wedding... It will look really odd you wearing your Wedding Band as an Engagement Ring showing it off then when you 2 get married people want to see the ring and their going tonlook at you like really? And I guarantee you all the Women will say he was being Cheap that's why you only have the one ring one will believe and they will all be whispering behind your back "poor girl she's stuck with his cheap ass..." You can swear up and down they will never believe you.
My husband chose my engagement ring and I helped him choose the wedding band. I also picked out and bought his wedding band. I was concerned that maybe I wouldn't like what he chose, but honestly the sentiment is so much more than I expected. It grew on me so fast.
I had a girlfriend who not only led the way but also paid for it too. Yes that was uncomfortable for me. On the flip side though, I think when a couple are wanting each other to be involved is awesome for me. Its a huge turnoff for a girl to get out and look for something way over budget just to fulfill her selfish goal of impressing her friends. Nah
If you're going to pick expensive stones (which don't actually do anything) and expect me to pay 3 months salary (or whatever bullshit that men are expected to do these days) then yes, I would be offended that the relationship is only worth the ring that you get out of it.
Otherwise... well, I'm not sure.
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Honestly if your partner isn’t proposing and you both have agreed to getting married then picking out the ring together would be just as meaningful
But if he’s planning to propose this is something he should do, obviously if he’s proposing picky or not you should be grateful for what he chooses because he is putting in effort and thinking only about you when he’s looking maybe just keep that in mind
I certainly have strange tastes when it comes to jewelry so it would seem like picking my own ring might be preferable, but I actually care an awful lot more about the symbolism than the ring itself. I think it means more if he chooses it. You’re being asked to love him, to join him, in the family he is creating, so it means more if the ring is representative of who he is and what he likes. Then you say yes and wear that symbol.
That is the most narcissistic thing I herd in my life your basic saying I know your going to fuck it up please just give me tens of thousands of dollars to do it myself if the ring is that important to you then your getting married for all the wrong reason and will be pawning it for a tenth its value in 5 years max
No, I’m not saying that. I doubt he’d get a completely terrible ring but some people just aren’t good at picking out clothes and gifts for others and I’ve always preferring choosing my own things. I don’t care who pays for it and I’ll even pitch in or buy it myself. A wedding ring is something I’ll wear every day that symbolizes our relationship so I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want the right one.
Lol a wedding ring doesn't symbolize love it symbolizes ownership like branding a cow it basically just tells other men back of she's mine ether way it's his choice to make not yours
Yeah, they also let other people know the person is married. But for me they are a symbol of love and our relationship.
You still dont get to choose it make peace with it and move on
Why not? No one can force us to do a traditional proposal.
Because you boyfriend will be ridaculled to the point of suicide for pulling such a bitch move it his friends will lose all respect for him and his parents will probably disown him
It’s not that big of a deal, and if he chooses to associate with the kind of people who would ridicule him for not picking out his wife’s wedding ring I doubt I’d be attracted to him in the first place.
Well you clearly don't get the gaint imbalance of power your putting into your relationship so its pointless to continue
How is it a power imbalance?
You're basically saying you can't buy me a gift without my permission
And he can choose whether or not he wants to give me a gift in the first place or buy the one I ask for. It’s fine.
The ring is the gift your far to controlling have fun dieing alone
She will have to wear it for long time, I would really need her to get involved in choosing it as I'm the worst person in choosing something like that.
I have no rings see no point in them (wedding one is different story ) and I'm not the best person for that task...
I never have really thought about that. But no if we are going to spend eternity together I think she should have every right to go with and us to choose something together. It does make the entire proposing area and cost difficult but i think its best both parties are involved
Absolutely not, if she’s going to wear that thing through thick and thin for the rest of her life she should be able to choose it her self.
But as her man you should know what she likes and you have most likely fished the answer out of her through the years.
I'd hope she trusted me enough to know I know what she likes and pick out something she'll love. However, my intention is currently to ask her with an ornate dagger rather than an engagement ring and to save the ring for the wedding.
Personally, I wouldn't mind at all. If the purpose is for her to have it forever, I would want to be sure it's something she actually likes. So I'd be all for her picking out her own. Takes a little pressure off of me to not fuck it up.
Offended? I am the man for my partner, i buy her engagement ring after i asked her what she likes (and know her well) so the wedding ring is totaly her own dicision on her own. There is nothing to be offended for
extremely. i have the perfect ring for her-i would hate it! www.zales.com/.../V-20012939 nontraditional, simple-yet beautiful-like her-and, it matches her eyes. i put a lot of thought into it.
I couldnt care less what the ring looked like. All I want is to be married to the man im in love in, and want to grow old with. So many women are picky as hell. They should be grateful they have even got a man who wants her as their wife.
How would you suggest he ask her, without a ring, and then suggest she pick hers out?
I'm not against the idea, and she should LOVE the ring, as it is forever, but the logistics vex me...
I don’t know. I think part of getting engaged is surprising the girl by asking her and I’m not sure how you ask without a ring. But on the flip side I think if your relationship is at that point, you should be dropping hints about the type of ring you do like.
Personally by that time, I would have already tried to learn the general style preferences of my fiancèe, so I would try to pick it out based on that. I'm not always so good at matching that though, so I would keep the receipt making sure I can refund or trade back, so that if she does say yes when presented, she can go pick one out for herself
Me personally not, but it can come into conflict and possibly be perceived as a woman attempting to "drain the bag" or a "gold digger" if your female companion is constantly trying to pick and choose when it comes to expensive gifts, I say have a talk with her or leave her, she just wants the bag homie.
Not at all. I would honestly take them out to do that anyways, because have to pick the right size ring to fit their finger, as well as something stylish they love.
While I think it's a bit weird, I don't mind if she chooses her ring; as long as she stays within my budget (no, I will not accept her adding her money to my budget).
i would prefer it to be a complete surprise, but at the same time future husband make sure you get me something with a black stone lol
I imagine he would know my preference by that stage though..
Not really. I mean eve though a part of me would like to pick the ring instead for the gesture, at the same time who would know her taste in rings more than her. so no i would be cool with that if it was how she wanted to do it.
I don't really mind, but then in my culture the ring isn't even important. It's more of a recent thing introduced by Hollywood than anything else
I would expect her to be involved in choosing the ring. I would not give her carte blance, as I might not be able to afford what she wants.
I would feel offended and call off the engagement
But that just has to do with my mom picking things out for me and family
Im not trying to marry my mom
I’d like to give him hints as to the style “engagement” ring I’d prefer but we’d pick the “wedding” rings together.
When you find someone that you truly love, you won’t care what kind of throng they give you. As long as they want to be with you, you’ll love whatever they pick out.
That's the point..
If wedding..
If your partner can go in shop and from whole bunch of 100 rings can pink the ring that you will pick.
That means you are ready for wedding..
Wedding... ring?
I think it's time to say "thank you" if she wanted to enslave me with marriage.
I’m never getting married so this will never be a problem if she wants to buy herself a ring that’s chill
I don't want to choose it. The only advice I'd give is I don't want it to be too big so it doesn't get in the way.
I'd say hell no but their still libel to see one they like better. When a man picks it they seem to have more attachment to it and less likely to forget the bond it represents
Yes. The ring bonds the two of you and it's his symbolic gesture to you that he has to pay for. I'd be stressed AF if the girl was choosing out of my pay area because you can't just say "No I can't afford that".
@morimeme1 It's not just about the money. It's about knowing you've made the right decision and chosen a symbol of your dedication. Real talk a marriage can end days after the wedding and he's making a decision factoring those ideas in
Ungreatfull bitch needs to be happy someone is willing to give their resources to her
I would like to pick my own as I would have to wear it for the rest of my life 😅
I would take her to any place she wanted to go to pick it out
Sire pick out what you want. Niether I or my wife wear wedding rings. We find them pointless and a waste of money
Isn't it better to choose them together?
To begin a marriage by making separate decisions makes me wonder if it makes sense to marry at all.
Absolutely not. I would want her to go with me to pick it out. She's the one who will be wearing it.
Lol your too young to think about this!!
But yes, a wedding ring.. is a token of his love for you. He should be able to choose, and not be judged on it.
My girlfriend picked a few out a few months ago maybe a year ago that I saved. So I will choose one of those. I would much rather that, than pick one on my own.
More relieved. I don't do jewellery or clothing or anything like that.
A red flag for me. It's fucking stupid and undermines the value of exchanging rings.
In no way would I be, it's on her finger so I would want to know the type of ring she would look at and love.
Nope. You have to have a really tiny and fragile ego in order to find that offensive. Some guys are simply very pathetic.
Of course not she has to wear it I mean I might feel abit of a sting if she didn't like what I picked for her but overall I'd be happy to let her choose her own
Not really, but I would worry she was to interested in appearances, marriages are not about the party, nor the ring, nor the dresses.
That doesn't mean we can't have nice things tho
Honestly, I'd prefer that. I don't know anything about rings and it would take a lot of pressure off of me if she chose her own.
Its actually a good idea. To pick your wedding ring with your husband to be. Just the engagement ring woild be picked by the fiance possibly.
Yeah, I think I would have a problem with that. It feels a little entitled.
No. I’d be happy less stress for me in finding the “right one”
Another entitled special snowflake. Good luck on getting any guy to put up with all that bullshit.
It depends on the price, if she is willing to pitch in for an expensive ring, sure!
No, but I get to choose mine and she's paying for it.
Isn't that like the majority of females? Lowkey a little offended.
I wouldn't mind picking one out together, but I'd still pick one on my own first to propose with.
You should honestly be glad you get anything. If I'm getting married again I pick the ring and she don't like it she is gone
No... in actuality, you're supposed to pick the ring out that she likes... the wedding is actually her day
I give you a price range. Find whatever you want within it, not an euro above it, and i'm fine with it
It would be a little weird, but I would go along with it.
Nope. She has to wear it for the rest of her life. Its better to have the rock she would prefer
No that's being efficient with my money. Bonus "wife" points for that 😂😂
If she has a problem with that she can marry someone else.
@kim45456 The man has to pay for the dates, the child support, the alimony, spousal support etc, and then he can't even choose a wedding ring he paying for either.
@kim45456 Then pay for your own wedding ring.
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