As a woman would it be considered rude to show a boyfriend the kind of engagement ring you want?
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Well depends. If you are expecting a ring as such because of how expensive it is, than yeah it's pretty presumptuous and gold digger of you in this sense. However, if you are just showing him rings based on look and style, to give him an idea of what type of look you like in a ring, than I don't think it's a bad thing at all. It will help him to actually find one you will like so he doesn't end up wasting his money on something you won't or don't want to wear.
But, can I advise you (and every other woman out there dreaming about the perfect ring, engagement or otherwise) that it's just a piece of jewelry. As in, the ring does not make the marriage. Even more pertinent to this subject, it's an ENGAGEMENT ring, not the big deal marriage ring. It's the one that is a temp for the real thing really. Usually people forget long after about the engagement ring when you get the wedding ring (and band). It usually gets put into the dusty part of your jewelry collection until maybe you want to give it to your son (if you have a son or kids) for him to give it, eventually, to his SO. It's really not THAT important to the overall picture. It's just like when I hear that people spend THOUSANDS on their rings and wedding dress and catering and entrances and on booze and the locations and all this junk. It's an important day, yes, but it's ONE day. You want to waste all this money on ONE day and then have to pay interest and a debt for the rest of your life for that ONE day, just so people could say something about it? Perspective here folks... Why don't you ask him to get you something nice, maybe even let him spend the bucks on the wedding rings if you want. But the main spending should come after the hoopla and illusionary garbage of the "perfect wedding", when you want to look for a place for him to take you over the "threshold" of. Or if/when you guys have kids, paying for those little brats. That's where the real spending comes into importance. Also, engagement is nice and all, but let's face it, it's no real guarantee of marriage. So if he spends god knows on a ring that you might not want and at some point will NEVER need again, what a waste of money that could have been used to go to something more important like food, clothing, car payments, mortgage, savings, education, insurances, down-payments, trips, rainy day funds, etc., etc, etc, etc,...
Oh, yeah, it's not a bad idea to give him ideas of a nice ring you would like.
@Astoriana Hmmm didn't know. Then you're looking at those engagement/wedding ring sets I suppose. But really, the wedding ring is more important (if that visual importance is necessary at all in validating to everyone else you're someones).
@Astoriana Yeah but comparing a house to a ring isn't valid. You loose a ring, you don't have to worry about where you're going to sleep at night. Also, I put way more value on life investments than investments that are purely materialistic and cosmetic.
@Astoriana Sure, valid points yeas. Still, you put a ring as of the same importance of a house?
Material possessions only have the value we ascribe to them. A house is less important to me, because I know that I won't be able to afford one any time soon. There are plenty of housing options: apartments, condos, boats, etc. A diamond ring, as a small one-time investment (as opposed to a 40 year mortgage) is far more attainable.
@Astoriana Ah I see now where your head is at. Fair enough. Just don't ge caught up with the wedding hoopla and find you can't afford a mortgage because you're still paying off the wedding.
@Astoriana Shouldn't you actually be thinking of trying to make things better than just throwing shit away because of "our generation"? Also, marriage isn't as easy as it looks. I agree, marriage isn't as valued as it once was, however, maybe marriage was just a construct that was created to serve a purpose in a lifetime where it was better suited, and now, because of all the changes in social aspects and careers and new views of gender roles and such, marriage isn't as useful or ideal for this stage in our evolution as humans? But, if you are planning on marriage, you should be going into it with more of a positive attitude. Better yet, marriage is just to gain some government benefits and to make sure that there is a more structured environment for family rearing. However, it is not needed as much I don't believe. As long as you are in a solid and loving relationship, it's all that matters.
It's one thing to show your tastes, but you are literally shopping for the most expensive store brand there is. Only very wealthy people are going to be able to buy a Tiffany engagement ring - some of which cost more than a house.
Unless you are wealthy and run with the wealthy crowd, you are setting VERY unrealistic expectations for a guy that he has no hope of meeting. And would you seriously expect a man to buy you a ring that costs $50,000-several million? What a huge waste of money that could be put to so much better use.
Can he expect a Ferrari for his birthday, or for you to stay at 115 pounds for 30 years, no matter what?
in my opinion, Tiffany rings are fantasy land for most people, and reeks of Princess Syndrome to me. But admittedly I am from a lower middle class family who had to work their asses off just to make it. Still, that would be a huge red flag for me.
I worked in a jewelry store and it's actually very common. Some people are assuming because you have a style you like that means you have picked a specific ring. Most guys who come in have pictures of the type of ring she likes. If someone is going to be spending $1500+ on something you make sure it's what you want.
You can have pictures of the style you like and he can find one that looks similar. Some couples come in and choose the ring together, it's more a matter of talking about what you both want/need/ can afford.
So if you are talking about marriage, showing him the Pinterest is a good way for him to know where to start.
Coming from someone who worked in a jewelry store, a lot of guys need your input as I used to get 'I don't know' all the time from guys. Those ones usually came back with the girls mom/sister/ or friend to help him.
So, it's not so much an issue for you at the moment because you're single. However! Going ring shopping together is a thing that engaged (or soon to be engaged) couples do all the time! It's a good idea to go together, because you should love your engagement ring, especially as it comes with such a hefty price tag. A man that feels threatened by your bringing up ring ideas that you like (at a suitable time in the relationship, such as when you start to talk about marriage), is not someone who will be a good life partner. So, essentially, if he gets weird about it, don't marry him.
Awe poor guy.. that's not even rude it's just kinda mean tbh. I would never show my love what ring I wanted, unless he asked or was poking for information on my style. If anything, if we had seriously talked about marriage & knew a proposal was in the near future I would leave my Pinterest board nonchalantly open where he might notice.. so if anything I'd be subtle. But tbh, if my man found the ugliest ring in the world, one that wasn't my style at all I'd wear it every day bc it's the symbol that's the most rich & precious.
No it's not. Rather that then having a engagement ring you hate. I don't see what is wrong with giving suggestions. Is it wrong to give a partner suggestions when asked about what type of gift they want? No not really. So I don't see why a engagement ring should be any different. I'm sure everyone would want their partner to be happy with their engagement ring.
... it's not great. TBH I would be scared off by this and I'm not even a guy. It sounds really demanding and you're 20! And never had a boyfriend? Girl. No. You discuss these things when you discuss getting engaged. You don't just throw this at your boyfriend one day in the hopes it'll happen.
unfortunately it sounds like she may be pretty close to taking a tranquilizer gun and a net to find a husband... i dont mean that to be rude but I've see women that wanted to be married so bad they took the first toad that hopped by and ended up in a horrible loveless relationship that they felt they couldnt get out of
@bigj1986 ohh No If you read it careful you would see that I did mention this would only be discussed after we have talked about marriage and also after we have been together for a prolongued amount of time. This is just a random thought which passed through my head that I wanted some input regarding. Of course I have to complete my degree and travel and hopefully find the right guy.
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It sounds like you have a fantasy of what a relationship and engagement would be about but you have never had a boyfriend. You are currently in love with the idea of being in love. That makes you susceptible to falling for the first guy who comes along and gives you some attention, and it also means that you might subtly pressure him to become more like the fantasy idea that you have.
When it comes time for engagement, you two should go shopping together, you should discuss the budget for an engagement ring, and a good jeweler will show you things that are within your budget. That is the time to talk about your preferences in engagement rings.
Don't get the cart before the horse!
This is exactly how we did it. I didn't plan my wedding at 18 or whatever the American girls grew up doing.
Both my older siblings eloped. By the time I came, it was his family who suggested that its time to get marry. So we both went to diff. jewlerlers and got educated, because i never knew about getting engaged or being married or having kids. We were just loving and enjoying time together...(the purpose of a loving relationship that the op seems to be missing at the moment)
But he wanted the best of the best. And thats what he picked out. I picked out the setting :)
To this day, I still wear it for decoration, not put away like some said here.
I dont understand the hate from those who can pay for large amount
I personally don't think its rude to give ideas or show your taste :)
Then again... If your man wanted to propose to you then she should know ur tastes by now. I just feel like a ring should have some elements of his taste in it too cause he wants to be with u for life and since he is the one who is buying it.
I do agree with you that u could show him some ideas only if he asks for it cause i can imagine this could potentially hurt his feelings
I don't think so, as long as you both discuss the price range.
Mind you: not too early, yeah? Don't get ahead of yourself.
I get the feeling you don't really understand the value of money so let me set up an example to show you how ridiculous it is to hope for one of these things. Let's say that the ring you want is 250,000 dollars.
Now let's say that you have a boyfriend who makes 25,000 dollars per year after taxes. 250,000/25,000 = 10 years of work. But that number is deceptive. It doesn't account for bills, rent, paying off debts or anything, so let us say that your boyfriend is extremely frugal and sets aside 1/3rd of his pay every paycheck, without exception, and manages to live off the remaining 16,667 dollars every year. Now that ring is accounting for 30 years of savings. Take into account everything that can go wrong in life, every medical problem, buying a decent car, buying a house, raising kids if you want any, now the guy will without a doubt have to choose between retiring and buying you a piece of jewelry. If you can't agree that it's ridiculous to expect this, then you don't deserve to have a boyfriend. If you aren't dating a multi-millionaire, forget that Tiffany engagement rings even exist because you will wind up being disappointed if you don't.
I think giving subtle hints is okay but literally showing him what you want isn't okay. It puts him in an awkward spot because if he doesn't have that kind of money, he feels inadequate and like anything else he picks out won't be good enough for you. I have ideas of what I want my ring to look like, but the way I will do it is to drop hints. I have very simple taste and most people in my life are aware of that. My clothes, car, house... all very simple and not elaborate. If once and a while you're looking through a magazine or you see an ad on tv with something you like say "I would definitely wear that it's so pretty and classic!" and if it is something you would hate, say, "I wouldn't wear that... it's too flashy/big/untraditional"
But make sure to give the reason why you wouldn't like it so that he knows what to avoid.
Perfect answer right here.
@qwertyKitchen thank you
I hate expensive items that don't really matter apart from not being shamed by others for not having as much or to make others jealous.
Determine if you'd rather have a $3,000 dollar T-bond that will have a return investment of $10,000 or if you just want a ring to do one or the other of what I stated above.
Adjust the price how you wish according to your class... I went with 3,000 because that's what I did in real life. Recently had convo with her about the ring now 10 years later, she says it get's ohhhs and ahhhs, but I still don't see the point. She still cheated, had many pointless fights with me, and all the rest... that ring is just for her ego.
Is that what your ring is for you?
@tyber1 It wasn't the end... just half way through. The ring has been there all the way through... symbolizing shit except for her ego with her friends. For me the rings symbolized our vows to each other... I no longer wear mine nor care to. It has diamonds and all that bullshit too... but I'm a dude and just don't care about dudes being jealous of me and could easily put a guy down for trying to do that to me (that's a bitch move). It matters to her... I guess that's all that mattered from the start.
Okay, so my fiancee did this actually. I found it extremely annoying, because she wouldn't quit forcing these ideals on me. What I suggest is, it's fine to give him an idea of what you like, but not point out specific ones. Tell him whether you like gold or silver, circular, solitares, etc...
In the end, I ignored what she wanted and got one I thought was great. She ended up loving it despite hating gold. I think you'll grow to love whatever you end up getting, kind of like getting a child. It probably becomes precious no matter how it looks. But if your boyfriend is more sensitive about the matter than I was, he might narrow his search down for what you want.
Also, the ring I got was $1,999 marked down to $300 because the store was going out of business. It was the best one left at the time, too. So I jumped on that.
If i was getting married i would like to see what type of rings she liked to help me make a decision, or if there is a ring she wanted specifically (as long as it was within my budget) she could just straight up ask for that ring and i wouldn't be offended. A lot of guys like to keep it a complete secret that they plan to propose right up until they get down on one knee, but i dont see the point in that. Obviously i wouldn't tell her on the way to the place i plan to propose "im about to propose to you" but id definitely tell her that i wanted to marry her well before even looking into engagement rings. And id only do that if it was clear to me that she wanted to get married as well.
Honestly, people in setious relationships talk about this. They even sometimes go ring shopping together. It's common. Peoole have this idea that a proposal needs to be completely out of the blue and if doesn't. Actually it shouldn't be, as there are many important things to discuss about what a marriage means to each party.
Exaclty. Completely agree
Did you know that the whole ring with diamond thing was invented by De Beers? The ring has been around for a long time but the diamond is an ad.
Don't put too much value into the ring. It's a waste of money. It has a really low resale value. The whole point is to make your partner pay a lot of money. You are better off just burn the cash.
Sure you can ask. Sure a good boyfriend or fiance is going to oblige to your wish. However, that means you are as shallow as the price tag on the ring. You are paying a piece of your future together for an overpriced rock on a piece of overpriced and worthless metal.
If you put $10,000 into the S&P 500 then that 10k can become 30k in 20 years. You can put that towards retirement or house for your kids.
I know when I was going to ask my f2f to marry me. I asked if she wanted to go out to the mall. I made sure to bring a watch of mine that breed a new battery. so when we stopped in at the jewelry store while they were fixing the watch we were looking around. I asked her what she thought of this and that rings. she told me the one she liked. I even had the sales girl talk her into trying it on. all prearranged and we found out her size. When I paid for the watch there was an extra few bills excluded and I went back a few days later and picked up the ring
Pinterest is a tactful enough way to do this. I think it's rather tacky to choose or point toward the exact ring you want, but to give an idea for your sense of style and taste is, simply, helpful. If he loves you and you're dating long enough, he will at some point google you and find it on his own. No need to leave any signs more than that. Tiffany & Co, huh.. interesting.. yeah, unless you're only going for a certain economic class, or your dad has a CEO job lined up for your future hub-to-be, might wanna try and catch the beauty in a gem in a slightly lower range...
Succinctly,
A range can't hurt, can it? You still get the option of a no after all.
Love, A
I don't think it's rude, as long as you leave him a little bit of freedom. I have told my boyfriend before that I prefer silver over gold and have hinted at certain cuts that I like; however, I am still going to let him pick the final product out.
I think there is nothing wrong if you at least mention to your boyfriend someday that you really like rings from Tiffany & Co. There is nothing rude about stating what you like as long as you don't push it down his throat & make him feel like he has to "fit inside a box" for you to say "yes".
not at all why would your man want to go and invest in something. you would not like. mind you that the actual and setting is within his budget. I think its three months salary. that can't be right. myself could not afford 8 g's, even now. I spent $2500.00 and I saved for a year. the setting was combined into the wedding ring. I got a band and she got the bling. As it should be. just take cost into consideration. you don't want your man feeling like a loser when you show him a 10 g ring when he makes less then 2g, s a month and supports himself. I remember when your housing should be equal to one weeks pay. where I live its two plus. and its not LA. so please go easy on him. He loves you and does want you to be happy ! Good luck and wish the two of you the best !
yes it is rude let him choose it dont be the one you really are waiting for but it will be the one he choosed. don't be a control freak (not insulting) also read De Beer's Cartel scam to see why wanting Tiffany and ridiculously expensive rings is caused by you beeing a basic brainwashed DIVA who has a pinterest page about engagement rings... You seem cool though good luck
I get showing him what you like and dislike. that's important, as it is something you'll hopefully wear forever.
personally, I would have a close friend/ sister / mom know exactly what you would want so if he has them tag along they can be like yes that's perfect.
but I also think it's nice that the guy would know you well enough to pick out the perfect ring on his own, ya know? like he really gets you and your style and to make you feel special in this way
I think its appropriate to show him say a picture and say "oh i like the way this looks, I like the square shape/circle/oval with the gold/silver" whatever... something very general. I think if you pull up a ring with the brand known and a price tag its demanding, especially if its more pricey than what he would've had in mind. Remember, its just a rock. It doesn't actually symbolize your love or anything. You'll be happy just to have one in the end.
Once the subject has come up of getting married someday; there would be nothing wrong about sharing that Pinterest page with him. The only warning/hesitation I would give is to make sure he realizes that you are showing him the style of ring you like. It is still up to him to pick it out. Once you have done this leave the topic alone! Nothing is more annoying than the significant other going on about something that has already been explained and talked about.
I don't think it's rude to share ideas of what you'd like in your engagement ring, but picking out the ring is special for the man. He gets to choose the thing that you'll wear every day to show his love for you :) that's incredibly meaningful for them. So it might be rude to show him the exact ring you want.
I don't think it's rude. You are the one who has to wear it, so it should be something you enjoy as well. I made an entire Pintrest album of all the rings I liked and let my SO look at them.
He picked on that was a combination of a couple that I really liked. It was perfect.
remember he is the one paying for it. not yoi
@Mr_President Indeed and I didn't say that he had no choice, but as with the marriage, the ring should symbolize the bond between two people, not just the one who is paying for it
i don't think it's rude. i think it's just giving the guy an idea of what you may like. as long as you don't have extremely specific desires especially ones that are expensive or over the top i think it's fine
a guy spending a bunch of money on an engagement ring should want it to be something his partner will love, so it's not necessarily bad to clue him into what you like
depends~ if you guys are serious, you should both already know where the other stands on marriage. if you've discussed it and have decided that a wedding is in your future, there's nothing weird about showing him rings.
my other half and i have looked at rings together, and he's asked me what style/cut i want... i've shown him some pictures, and he knows i don't care about the cost. as long as the ring comes from him and never belonged to an ex, i will love anything he gives me.
only if it's an idea of what the Rings should look like not exactly what the ring should be because if it isn't as expensive as you're claiming it is then that's really harsh on a dude especially since they're just blood diamonds people died to put that rock on your finger
No, some guys would even ask you. But waaaaaay ahead of time. Before he and i were even official, we discussed engagement rings. He gave me a price range and i showed him a picture. After we made it official, he asked me my ring size the 2nd month of dating. Lol seems soon, but he's just preparing ahead of time. I dont see him proposing until next year sometime
Rude perhaps but certainly premature.
When the time approaches it is apropos to educate him in your tastes that begin with admiring a ring another is wearing, then pull her ring hand into his view to point out its attractive attributes.
Then later it is time for him to discover... in your drawer, etc. ... a photo of THE (not many - never this) RING ideal you have. Thereafter it's up to him to shop for something close that he can afford... there are formulas to research based upon income.
All men are different. Some men won't think it's rude because you're the one who will be wearing it but don't show him rings that he will never be able to afford. If you do that then he will feel bad and like he's not good enough. It's ok to tell him what you like but you need to be realistic in the one you choose.
Others won't like the idea and might be insulted and feel like it's their choice. As long as she chose one I could afford I wouldn't mind.
First I wouldn't show any man I just started dating a page of engagement rings until he has hinted the desire of marriage with me. Otherwise he'll probably think you are crazy and obsessed with the idea of marriage. So the talk first, then the style picking. Also you may find a guy who already has a family ring gifted or planned to be gifted, I suggest you find out that too. If the guy loves you, he'll probably appreciate the input, but don't forget to let him know that what's most important is your love and the page is just a preference in case he has no family ring to be passed on (which in any case should be the most beautiful thing you've seen even if you hate it).
i think after you Have a boyfriend and after you know his financial status, Then only you can decide whether to show him ur dream ring or not. If he's wealthy and can afford, there is no reason for u to not tell him about your taste.
but if he is average middle class, then dont even mention it. it might hurt his feelings, that u r asking for something he will never be able to buy :)
Personally I wouldn't mind but I can see a problem with it if you're showing it to them a bit "too early". I mean it depends on where your relationship is at the moment, and if the guy isn't really thinking of marriage (at least not yet), it could be a problem. But I'm sure it will be okay for most guy because hey if they really love you then they'll be happy when they hear you love them too (showing wedding rings is an act of saying that you want to marry them, right?)
You should his have a say in everything that pertains to you and your relationship. With regards to a ring, that's going on your finger, that you are going to be wearing, I would say, it wouldn't be rude to make suggestions as to styles you prefer.
The element of surprise is nice, so letting him pick it out, from his heart is nice, however if he's proposing, he should know you well enough to know your style.
I'm a Woman, personally how he treats me if more important first. Yes the size of the engagement ring matters, but for me the size of the Engagement, Wedding rings matter a lot. I do expect large rings. But before all that, I will also see if he can afford it. Not only that but is he a good man, character, etc.
so I've long term been with my boyfriend and it came up kinda jokey, we where on holiday and looking at ridiculously expensive rings in a window I laughed and said "you could propose to me with a haribo ring and I'd say yes" then he was like nah I'd do it proper 2 month salary. to which I was like don't bother with that what I would like is...
*were
ugh nm was right the first time 😂 been a long day
True story: my husband proposed with no ring. We looked one up a couple months later for $100 online. It came and it was ugly, I wore it until I got my wedding ring which we got together for, $1000. I thought it was a bit pricey and continuously thought about selling it but decided to keep the thing. It's just a piece of material.
Depends what kind of relationship you guys have. For me for example me and my fiancé went shopping together, we didn't buy anything but he got an idea of what he wanted to buy me. I wanted platinum but im glad he chose the ring himself because it means more
No not if y'all have talked about marriage. After the topic of marriage came up with me and my boyfriend he asked me what I wanted so I told him nothing expensive but I'd love an aquamarine as it's my fave stone and it's my birth stone. He went to the pawn shop and actually found an aquamarine so he bought it for me and spent under $150!
I think where are ways of doing it. If you two are just sitting around and you show him something you think looks really nice. I think most guys know that a lot of girls "plan their weddings" all the time lol
It wouldn't bother me if it was just to show me what you liked. Would probably take away some of the pressure if anything
Not at all hopefully it will be worn for life haha What I thought a woman does is drag the guy to look at the rings in the window with the excuse to replace a ring for your mother And then start looking at the ones you want God I'd love a ring like that
It's not something that should come up early in the relationship or as a specific. If you had been together with someone for a few years and had discussed marriage as a future plan I'd throw the Pinterest page in conversation and leave it up to him to find it. If he specifically asked I'd show him styles but not brands so there is no pressure on cost
I don't think it's rude untill you force him to buy the kind of ring you want. Just give him subtle hints like show him the pic, talk about your kind of ring, when you go for shopping look at the window display and point out that you like that ring etc.. so if he thinks he can afford it he will buy it , if he doesn't then don't be sad at least he is proposing you.
let say that the roles were revered and u buy him the ring
would u like he told u i want that ring
u dont now his budget or how did work to get that money u ungrateful bitch
An engagement ring is a ring he's chosen for her, and it symbolises his desire to spend the rest of his life with her.
You telling him what ring you want, even when would be suitable to propose (and it happens) completely goes against the gesture
Seems nothing is sacred anymore, everything loses meaning
Wow. I think I'd be running in the other direction for someone thinking about rings when they haven't even met me yet. lol
Someone told me the general rule is 2-3 months gross salary I think? Maybe that's only if the bride's family is paying for the wedding?
Anywho... kind of hard to make the proposal a surprise if you drop the hint your looking for input on rings.
Wow wow wow. Find the be first, see if you've got a future together first and then burn that bridge when you come to it. By the time your ready to be engaged your tastes will have changed trust me. Everybody changes through stages of their lives. You can't plan life like a meeting it's got a helluvs way of throwing curveballs up like it enjoys ruining our plans. Just go with the flow
personally I'd suggest it, but I wouldn't force it or anything. I'm sure whoever you marry can figure out your tastes, but don't show a future boyfriend. that's just insanely clingy and a bad sign. suggest when you feel that you're ready to be married and so is your partner
i think its kinda rude but i think its ok to say what type you want but you should be happy with whatever he gets you money doesn't come easy if i bought a ring for a women i wanted to marry only for her to get mad at it cause its not the one she wanted instead of appreciating it for what it symbolizes id leave her
I think it's one thing to show him the style ring you like but to use specifics "rediculously esxpensive" specifics, would be improper, offensive and tacky
I don't understand why many women are so fixated on the type of ring. Like, aren't you supposed to value the guy more than the ring? If you have to ask something like this online.. Then I don't know, maybe your priorities need to be straightened up
I consider that sort of rude. However, I am not the kind of person who cares about the price of the ring. I wouldn't give a shit about that in general
I would probably break up with the girl. It would seem like you value the ring and the monetary value of it more than the guy.
The most I would spend would be around $300 because if she is concerned with the price, then she is too greedy for me to like her.
I wouldn't find that rude. I think it's understandable. Maybe if he had several templates to look at (on your Pinterest wall) then he can pick something he likes out of the bunch
Not exactly rude, but showing him engagements early in the relationship may scare him off. You should hold off engagement rings until marriage has been added in the conversation naturally by both of you.
Agreed.
Yes it is. The engagement ring itself doesn't matter, it's the meaning behind it. However, I do agree, we all have our tastes, however, he's your boyfriend, he knows your taste without you even having to say it.
I don't think it's a problem to give a long term boyfriend an idea of the kind of ring you'd like. That is, assuming you see an actual future with him.
I think it screams crazy to show a boyfriend of under a year this page of rings.
You're a 20 year old university student, never had a boyfriend, and you think a guy is going to get you a tiffany ring?
Last I checked most guys refused to even get married anymore let alone buy tiffany rings...
I'm here to read comments cuz i do the same. and also I love Tiffany and Co classic engagement ring. showed to my boyfriend and he said 'oh wow im not sure' and i was like 'it's okay' and he said 'I'll save money for that, you'll get the ring' 😌
No, not at all. I don't have a clue what she might want. I would assume, though, that she would probably show me something that is a lot more like her dream, first, then hopefully something more realistic, later. . .
if you're getting to the stage you both want to get married then there's no harm saying you like this ring or that ring, but just subtly mentioning engagement rings would probably cause issues, especially if they're not even considering marriage yet
I wouldn't find it rude. Guys can sometimes be oblivious to jewelery. You are going to want something to go with your style and personality and when the moment comes tine for that special moment, you aren't going to want it to be tarnished by some hideous thing, you are going to want something beautiful to match the occasion.
Rather than rude, I think that it is common sense.
Were I to be in a position in which I considered marrying a woman, I would have her design or choose the ring.
She has to wear it, after all. She should have something that the likes.
That's a bit overt. I picked out her ring based partially on what I knew about her and what she does (her ring needed to be practical, she used her hands all day) and also by looking at what she already has and what she likes.
Show him the look style colours etc but anything after can send a wrong mesage and money will come in very quick so if a few choices were on the cheaper aide it might be of a benifit to you in the long run.
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