in this current economy, marriage is hard, divorce is harder, and dating is expensive as hell. why would your woman not expect a huge rock is beyond me. if you're proposing somebody to start a new life, shouldn't you have common sense to do so grandly? mind you, many people get married only once in their life.
I honestly truth I had a man who told me I have to earn myself a ring which doesn't seem right because one the female he actually cheated on me with even after my father had talked to him man to man during that whole 8 years he had been cheating on me and the only reason why he stopped dating that female after he domestic assault charge and in a domestic battery. Which I never had been at all physically hit or abused by him and all of a sudden he has changed which is odd from that female who demanded him and told him lies about how she needed to prove her friends that she was in her true real relationship so they claim did she needed to have him by her at least four different rings since he was stupid enough to believe that she's lost any of them but it's okay he told me I had to earn it my ring? And actually all I asked was for Christmas was a Pandora bracelet and the one ring I found out actually turned out to be an engagement ring which cost $499.00 and had lied about everything to his own family that he and I broke up which he never said any of that cuz if that was truth why did you speak to my father which my father passed away from stage 4 lung cancer 2017 which the ex-boyfriend now actually tried crawling back to me after the charges were pressed against him in January 2020 and he actually told he and started dating again back in 2018 which was complete why anyways towards him. Which there was another ex-boyfriend of that woman we actually did say he was also mentally and verbally abused by the same woman that my now ex-boyfriend has been because she uses her disability to her advantage which is sad I'm not trying to call any people with any mental illness wrong what she tries to play the card because I have never known him be at all abusive because I've known him since 2012 before this female came around which he such a coward to even hit me while I ask him to be sexual with me and he actually was turned off by that even though we had already bought the sex toy and we could not return the item at all.
🤣 petty and salty and nvm. 🤣 sorry but not sorry. but that’s just the truth. I’d rather put that $ on savings towards our house when we get married or to our honeymoon! Rings are just part of the dream, the fantasy of fairy tales. The thought that a man actually wants to spend the rest of his life with me is way more priceless than a piece of jewelry on my finger. I’m not just saying this. Be realistic. But if he really wants to get me one, I won’t say no but he doesn’t need to! Ask me if I want one, I’d say no. Put it towards our new house instead, sweetheart. 🥰
It is petty for a number of reasons. Diamonds aren’t actually rare. Their prices are artificially controlled. They’re not really even all that spectacular. There are a number of truly rare gems with real abilities to produce spectacles with light. Most diamonds are either blood diamonds, products of a bloody territorial dispute dating back ages, or created artificially. So you’re spending a lot of money to perpetuate a war in a third world country and/or for something so common that some people have compared it to water for its abundance on the planet.
Also, most people do not get married only once. More than half of all marriages end in divorce and 70% of divorced people are likely to remarry. This is actually a declining trend; down roughly 10% over the last 50-60 years.
So only an ignorant and petty woman would demand a large diamond engagement ring and only a fool of a man would marry such a woman. In fact, i’d argue that it’s petty to demand a ring at all. Frankly, it’s petty to expect marriage! Ell oh ell! Only stoopid men are still getting married.
A lady who truly loves his man will marry him with her will before you even begin the marriage ceremony to show off to the world and the guy will sell all his fortune to his women and kids but whatever he can give should be more valuable to you because it came from love which doesn't has a price tag you'll only want to know the market price if you only live to show off to society and run after money and cool things but reality is way different from this, we have to make a whole life together and spend so much on eachother not just money but spend our life on each other a person devoting life to you and you to him which is worth more then anything in this world so yeah it's not a good thing to measure your partner of the life by a diamond you will look like a kid asking for a bigger chocolate, being said that i understand we only marry once and it should be celebrated and if he really loves you he will give what he can and save for your future too this is the way at least a way of a smart person, he should gift you love expect that🫰
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u Yes, it is. Nobody needs giant engagement rings. Heck, you don’t even need a ring at all to propose to someone. You don’t even need to get married at all.
Guess it depends what you want. Personally my husband and I got a $150 silver ring for him and a small discreet ring for me with a tiny diamond inside the band.
We chose this largely because we were investing heavily into our property, buying up acreage on all sides of us, and fixing up the house in different ways.
We also bought me / us a big new truck since we moved from town to mountain.
All these things considered we thought it would be a bad idea to spend thousands on a diamond, however great investment a diamond is, and we do like to invest generally speaking.
If we'd stayed in our little house in the small town we were in few years ago, we might have bought a huge rock I think
So generally I think it depends on your situation as a whole
Yes I think it is petty. I'm not marrying him for the rock. I'm marrying him because I love him. I honestly would really adore an engagement ring with my birthstone or some other pretty gem and I feel like that would be more meaningful than a diamond. Something less expensive than a diamond. Topazes are really pretty. I honestly think diamonds are kinda meh... They don't look any different than the fake ones to me.
Anyway at the end of the day, the ring doesn't matter, it's just a rock on a piece of metal.
I'm pretty sure spending many thousands of dollars on a ring and thus having less money for actual practical things like buying a home / saving up for a rainy day or kids is the opposite of common sense.
An engagement ring historically had no jewels, also known as a betrothal ring, is a ring indicating that the person wearing it is engaged to be married, especially in Western cultures. A ring is presented by a partner to their prospective spouse when they propose marriage or directly after a marriage proposal is accepted. It represents a formal agreement to future marriage, it was never a 'gift' but a symbol of that formal marriage agreement it remains the property of the husband.
Diamonds in engagement rings are a result of an ad campaign pushed by De Beers Consolidated Mines, Ltd in the 1930's
I think it's more so the thought that counts than the diamond size. If you're only able to afford a $500 ring then pick put the BEST $500 ring, the one you think will be the most beautiful one for her. Expecting a huge diamond from a man that isn't making huge money is kind of unrealistic.
Yes.
Who cares? That has to be the weirdest thing to care about in the world.
My parents didn't even have a wedding really. They married super low key in a courthouse and went out to a diner with family afterwards. That's it.
They instead saved that money so 8 years later they could afford a house worth 3x the value 10 years later.
What do you think is the better investment?
When I get married im going to be adamant against anything massive or crazy. It doesn't make sense and it's a headache for no reason. I'd rather spend that on the best honeymoon ever 😎
Ok I'll be fully honest, if he constantly treats himself with nice things and gives me a cheap ass ring then I wouldn't like it because for me it shows that he treats me less than himself. But in all honesty, I'd rather he just gives me the money and a cheaper ring.
I don’t know about others…I was never into that stuff till he told me I have to have the most perfect diamond. And he insisted that it has to be bigger because he didn’t like the one carat the sells people showed us.
you have to meet the man who you will have a life with. And that both are there for each other aside from the ring and stuff. Be good to each other.
yes, and no. I think the ring doesn't matter if you love him. BUT if he is cutting costs and being cheap, it can be a reflection on his thoughts of the value of you AT THE TIME! I say at the time meaning he may be 20 and that is the best he can offer and is proud of how hard he worked for it. OR 45 and it is whatever. Only you'd know his heart and that is the most important.
Nah, she would be getting a $60 ring or some shit. I know the origin of diamond rings and it is so companies can manipulatively make money off of people by expecting men to spend months of their salary on a fucking rock.
Like, are you fucking kidding me?
This is one of the reasons, I some times think the modern generation has lost the plot. Is a proposal about the value of the ring, or about the intention to commit oneself to a person for the rest of one's life?
I actually see the importance af a rock on the ring as shallow and unnecessary show off. If the guy can afford it, so be it. If not, why should it matter? Even if he can afford it, why do you want something that could either get you robbed or your fingers or arm cut?
They grow diamonds in labs now, so come 50 years times diamonds will be meh.
Yes it's petty, tradition was the ring was to cost a month's salary, that tradition has gone and its been replaced by greedy girls with fake talons and plump lips.
The type of woman who likes diamond rings has a specific type of personality.
Me getting a woman a diamond ring is not the problem, the type of woman who desires a diamond ring is a giant red flag for me.
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The whole diamond ring thing only came about because of a marketing campaign by the De Beers corporation who, at the time, owned a monopoly on the diamond market.
So yeah, generally I think the expectations of expensive rocks is petty, but a pettiness grown and perpetuated by society at large.
Not "petty" but ungrateful and shallow, maybe.
What if they can't afford it? Isn't it the thought that counts?
Why a diamond? There are so many other beautiful stones out there, much more beautiful than diamonds, and rarer.. Zircon, for example. 😍
Simulated diamonds too, have come a long way in the last 10 years!! 💯❤️
As a guy I totally cannot relate to certain things women think. One of them is a woman's obsession with engagement and wedding rings. But even though it seems completely alien to me, I love when they feel that way. It's attractive and something I see as very feminine.
If I'm gonna get a girl a huge diamond it would be to wear at home and be able to enjoy in the comfort of sipping a hot drink out on the deck or porch. I ain't gonna give a girl a rock that gonna end up getting her hand lopped off for. HELL nah.
s for me personally, the ring doesn’t matter much, how big/small it is as long as it’s something he picked out with tons of love…
and I don’t like big flashy jewellery anyways, I’m more into small and cute…
the price also doesn’t matter as long as the ring lasts our lifetime together…
Am I weird for wanting the honeymoon. The ring can wait but the honeymoon is where the honeymoon happens
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