As a woman would it be considered rude to show a boyfriend the kind of engagement ring you want? (Page 2)
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depends~ if you guys are serious, you should both already know where the other stands on marriage. if you've discussed it and have decided that a wedding is in your future, there's nothing weird about showing him rings.
my other half and i have looked at rings together, and he's asked me what style/cut i want... i've shown him some pictures, and he knows i don't care about the cost. as long as the ring comes from him and never belonged to an ex, i will love anything he gives me.
only if it's an idea of what the Rings should look like not exactly what the ring should be because if it isn't as expensive as you're claiming it is then that's really harsh on a dude especially since they're just blood diamonds people died to put that rock on your finger
No, some guys would even ask you. But waaaaaay ahead of time. Before he and i were even official, we discussed engagement rings. He gave me a price range and i showed him a picture. After we made it official, he asked me my ring size the 2nd month of dating. Lol seems soon, but he's just preparing ahead of time. I dont see him proposing until next year sometime
Rude perhaps but certainly premature.
When the time approaches it is apropos to educate him in your tastes that begin with admiring a ring another is wearing, then pull her ring hand into his view to point out its attractive attributes.
Then later it is time for him to discover... in your drawer, etc. ... a photo of THE (not many - never this) RING ideal you have. Thereafter it's up to him to shop for something close that he can afford... there are formulas to research based upon income.
All men are different. Some men won't think it's rude because you're the one who will be wearing it but don't show him rings that he will never be able to afford. If you do that then he will feel bad and like he's not good enough. It's ok to tell him what you like but you need to be realistic in the one you choose.
Others won't like the idea and might be insulted and feel like it's their choice. As long as she chose one I could afford I wouldn't mind.
First I wouldn't show any man I just started dating a page of engagement rings until he has hinted the desire of marriage with me. Otherwise he'll probably think you are crazy and obsessed with the idea of marriage. So the talk first, then the style picking. Also you may find a guy who already has a family ring gifted or planned to be gifted, I suggest you find out that too. If the guy loves you, he'll probably appreciate the input, but don't forget to let him know that what's most important is your love and the page is just a preference in case he has no family ring to be passed on (which in any case should be the most beautiful thing you've seen even if you hate it).
i think after you Have a boyfriend and after you know his financial status, Then only you can decide whether to show him ur dream ring or not. If he's wealthy and can afford, there is no reason for u to not tell him about your taste.
but if he is average middle class, then dont even mention it. it might hurt his feelings, that u r asking for something he will never be able to buy :)
Personally I wouldn't mind but I can see a problem with it if you're showing it to them a bit "too early". I mean it depends on where your relationship is at the moment, and if the guy isn't really thinking of marriage (at least not yet), it could be a problem. But I'm sure it will be okay for most guy because hey if they really love you then they'll be happy when they hear you love them too (showing wedding rings is an act of saying that you want to marry them, right?)
You should his have a say in everything that pertains to you and your relationship. With regards to a ring, that's going on your finger, that you are going to be wearing, I would say, it wouldn't be rude to make suggestions as to styles you prefer.
The element of surprise is nice, so letting him pick it out, from his heart is nice, however if he's proposing, he should know you well enough to know your style.
I'm a Woman, personally how he treats me if more important first. Yes the size of the engagement ring matters, but for me the size of the Engagement, Wedding rings matter a lot. I do expect large rings. But before all that, I will also see if he can afford it. Not only that but is he a good man, character, etc.
so I've long term been with my boyfriend and it came up kinda jokey, we where on holiday and looking at ridiculously expensive rings in a window I laughed and said "you could propose to me with a haribo ring and I'd say yes" then he was like nah I'd do it proper 2 month salary. to which I was like don't bother with that what I would like is...
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ugh nm was right the first time 😂 been a long day
True story: my husband proposed with no ring. We looked one up a couple months later for $100 online. It came and it was ugly, I wore it until I got my wedding ring which we got together for, $1000. I thought it was a bit pricey and continuously thought about selling it but decided to keep the thing. It's just a piece of material.
Depends what kind of relationship you guys have. For me for example me and my fiancé went shopping together, we didn't buy anything but he got an idea of what he wanted to buy me. I wanted platinum but im glad he chose the ring himself because it means more
No not if y'all have talked about marriage. After the topic of marriage came up with me and my boyfriend he asked me what I wanted so I told him nothing expensive but I'd love an aquamarine as it's my fave stone and it's my birth stone. He went to the pawn shop and actually found an aquamarine so he bought it for me and spent under $150!
I think where are ways of doing it. If you two are just sitting around and you show him something you think looks really nice. I think most guys know that a lot of girls "plan their weddings" all the time lol
It wouldn't bother me if it was just to show me what you liked. Would probably take away some of the pressure if anything
Not at all hopefully it will be worn for life haha What I thought a woman does is drag the guy to look at the rings in the window with the excuse to replace a ring for your mother And then start looking at the ones you want God I'd love a ring like that
It's not something that should come up early in the relationship or as a specific. If you had been together with someone for a few years and had discussed marriage as a future plan I'd throw the Pinterest page in conversation and leave it up to him to find it. If he specifically asked I'd show him styles but not brands so there is no pressure on cost
I don't think it's rude untill you force him to buy the kind of ring you want. Just give him subtle hints like show him the pic, talk about your kind of ring, when you go for shopping look at the window display and point out that you like that ring etc.. so if he thinks he can afford it he will buy it , if he doesn't then don't be sad at least he is proposing you.
let say that the roles were revered and u buy him the ring
would u like he told u i want that ring
u dont now his budget or how did work to get that money u ungrateful bitch
An engagement ring is a ring he's chosen for her, and it symbolises his desire to spend the rest of his life with her.
You telling him what ring you want, even when would be suitable to propose (and it happens) completely goes against the gesture
Seems nothing is sacred anymore, everything loses meaning
And he should only be proposing if he knows her well. So he isn't going to choose someone completely left of field. She needs to relax and enjoy the ride.