As a woman would it be considered rude to show a boyfriend the kind of engagement ring you want? (Page 2)

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Hello I would appreciate some input; Is it rude or just ridiculous too show your boyfriend the kind of ring you want if he was to ever propose? For example, I have a page on my Pinterest filled with engagement rings which I would love in the future, therefore would it be rude to introduce this to a future boyfriend? Or should I just let him pick the one he likes the most? Most of the rings I love are from Tiffany & CO and are pretty ridiculously expensive therefore I don’t want to impose something upon any man. Of course I would introduce this only after we have discussed marriage and have been together for a prolonged amount of time. I’m a 20-year university student and I have never had a boyfriend as of yet. Thank you for the input!

May10th1994 · Answer

I don't think it's rude. I have engagement, wedding, and honeymoon pinterest boards! My boyfriend knows my favorite gem is emerald and I want a vintage style emerald ring with a gold band.

sarath1997 · Answer

nope.. lol my sis she dream of me giving her a Audi in her marriage and call the richest photographers in her marriage... lol no limits to get dreams... so no problem with showing him your dream ring

takaveng · Answer

I think its a little rude because when picking something out for someone the object should remind you of them its the thought of how he feels about you and what you represent to him showing him what you want takes away the feeling from him having to choose

hahahmm · Answer

You can't mention an engagement ring before you have a proposal. Sorry, it would be tacky as hell. Like a guy telling you you need to take a bath over the phone before he even meets you. Lol

GoldFan1001 · Answer

A little rude its perfectly normal for girls to want to get married most dream of it since their what 5? But when you start nagging him and taking him ring shopping etc he will feel pressured and pushed into marriage. If you love him what difference does the ring make? Just be glad he asked to marry you and if you make a big deal like its the wrong type, diamond etc he's gonna think your a gold digger. In other words take what you can get.

Anonymous · Answer

its a nice thing u have some whozat (topic) to talk on dates. #collectionOfRings.
FOR ME...
THIS STUFF SHOULD BE DISCUSSED ON FIRST MEETING OR DATE.

probably not later..
it will make me feel poor.
it would have taken time for you also to understand that it's just a interest.

it's not like, I love the girl less. but it can be a huge pressure.

well, you must tell him in a casual way. #shareInterest

m0t0rcyclist · Answer

not rude at all, and you're lucky, I have to take my girlfriend to the zoo so she can experience the kinda pet I will have when we move in together

Barrabus_the_Free · Answer

Yeah, that's more than a little rude. As well as demanding and entitled. I hope any woman that pulls that shit gets dumped immediately.

dannymexico90 · Answer

I hate it when a women does this crap. Your missing the entire point. It's sweet because your man decided to do it himself. When you force it, it becomes meaninglessness

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Nope, i would never think it's rude if a girl wanted to show me what type of engagement ring she wanted. I want her to be happy and like the ring that she wants.

Jersey2 · Answer

It was my gift, so I picked it out. It was also a surprise. I dont think I woukd see it as rude if she picked it but I woukd see that as a red flag as to who I am marrying... controlling, particular, anal, not trusting me to come through etc.

rajatoct · Answer

yes u can show ur fav ring to ur boyfriend but only after discussed marriage and prolonged time spent together but not in the beginning as it will have negative impact on him. First let him know u well.

ChromAzonyx108 · Answer

You would be assuming that the guy is interested enough to want to buy an engagement ring.
Also, I wouldn't recommend bringing it up too early in a relationship.

I wouldn't say it's rude, just presumptuous.

Litza · Answer

I don't think it's rude as long as you both want marriage and you stay within his budget range.

JustADude20026 · Answer

Are u getting engaged? Or is this just you hoping he will. At ur age it's pushing it to hope he proposes.

kolas · Answer

not at all... its a matter of how open you are... if you are gonna spend the life together... you ought to know each other well.. why not

LotusDragon666 · Answer

not really, as long as you know that you and him both are at the stage to start considering marriage and engagements.

Daltron · Answer

if you are at the level where he might propose, I don't see how it's rude. I wouldn't be offended if she showed me her dream ring

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends on how its done. And what you want. It is rude to give a budget, like 20k or fuck off but if you like something particular nothing wrong with letting him know.

Say_Hey · Answer

Uh, from Tiffany & Co? Yes, it is. You don't have to say it's from there. Just maybe show him the style you like. Live within your means.

Hidden_P · Answer

I don't think so. If he's going to spend money on something you will wear your whole life you have the right to show what you like

Hollislaing4 · Answer

I don't think it's rude but I wouldn't come out and say it. I'd bring it up randomly and be like hey babe don't you think that's so cute and then move on. So then he knows the style that you like.

deraz24 · Answer

I dont think so people drop hints all the time, as long as its in the price range it shouldn't be a problem

wittymilf · Answer

I work in the jewellery industry and most guys who come in feel really lost and nervous if you haven't at least given him a few ideas.

peachykeenjellybean · Answer

nope bad idea... the engagement ring gets changed after the engagement has already happened and been accepted

siddharthmeyan · Answer

why the fuck does it even matter.   I would not be interested in a girl who does that.  And if my girlfriend did that, I would be asking for a fucking huge diamond ring for me. A fucking HUGE ONE

DanielleMarie98 · Answer

I don't think it's rude. Just don't do it in the beginning of your relationship, some men are kind of afraid of commitment.

MrSelfless · Answer

It will be best thing to happen because I will be able to gift her something she wants of her own choice. If her choice is too expensive for me to afford I would honestly tell her to wait until I. Sufficient to get that for her.

slatyb · Answer

I think you should think about other priorities besides enriching the Tiffany and DeBeers companies.

TheTurkishDelight · Answer

Unless it's serious i don't think it's rude, never hurts to drop a few hints. Us guys could use all the help we can get :P

AlexBlack007 · Answer

It's not at all rude. But just be open to his choices too. Who knows maybe you'll like the one he picks. 😊

JamesCX · Answer

let us play the logic game. How many hours would you have​to work to pay for that ring that you love? Would you throw that money away to buy it yourself to give it away?

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Don't show the guy the type of ring you want unless he asks how you would want your ring design to look like. Cause if you go out of your way it is kinda pushy and sort of disrespectful

BigDogBDog · Answer

My girlfriend showed me many rings she would like, i didn't find it rude at all, if anything it helps.

genericname85 · Answer

not "rude" but sure a little bold. i mean if she wants straight up the most expensive shit, then i´ll assume she´s a gold digger and might even consider ending things with her.

foxmental · Answer

rude? no! but unless you're sure he's going to propose to you, it might scare him off

Nasefm · Answer

in fact it depends on how you both are intimating your plans and desires, it's rude if you're a fresh couple, or if you agreed a plan to engage after longtime and sure not rude if you already agreed that it's time.

JosyJosy · Answer

It depends. I can't be like 'I want this 10k diamond ring or I'll be soooooooooooo disappointed and will most likely reject your proposal

Phoenix98 · Answer

If you have actually talked about marrying each other or fooled around with the idea then I think it's fine.

litty · Answer

Not if they don't mind materialistic women. If you're not happy with what they choose, then they'll feel like nothing will ever be enough

Sam19XX · Answer

No. But you know, make sure the price is acceptable. So you won't make him feel bad if he cannot afford it.

bcsteve · Answer

been engaged twice and of course it is, a rings a ring, men know what a typical engagement ring is and the assistant is there for advise. women shouldn't care, its what it symbolizes.

Kaylyne · Answer

Just remember that it's not how much a ring costs, it's all about the guy proposing to you.

adamjanovic · Answer

I don't think so. He would probably find it helpful and it would be better than him getting you something you don't really like.

fenixx0083 · Answer

"rude" isn't the word I'd use, but times are so weird, and there are *so* many ways to take that the wrong way...

WriterAndPainter · Answer

Let him pick it. It's from his heart and hat makes it special. Or be like me and don't require one. It's just for show anyways.

Nice_Guy_Last · Answer

Nope. Glad my wife did, because honestly killing the surprise to ensure there won't be a lifetime of disappointment is worth it.

mgk204 · Answer

well as a guy perspectice. It depends , If you are in serious relationship then there is no harm in telling your expectation for your ring and others but ask this to your boyfriend only after some time of being in relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

honestly I would never. but honestly my boyfriend could get my a ring pop or even nothing and I wouldn't be upset.

pooper89 · Answer

I think it's fine as long as you don't show it to him before you become serious

GorillaOne · Answer

No I think it's good. That way we know what to get without disappointing anyone.

BanterBlitz · Answer

No it's just common sense. Men don't have a clue what to buy for women so I expect he would welcome your input.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Buying engagement rings are a waste of money. But no it isn't wrong to ask for what you desire. Ask and you shall recieve.😊

lemowill · Answer

nope, better to buy one you like and appreciate than get something and you be disappointed

_moo_ · Answer

Get one of your mates to jokingly mention your Pinterest page to him!

dnbfilmmaker94 · Answer

I think it's good to talk it over and compromise on what the couple can afford.

Arya_Christ · Answer

give him the outlines of the ring you would like and let him choose..

ZeoCaliburn · Answer

Well I think it depends on the guy. If it was me, I'd actually be happy since I know what my girls want and there's 0% chance of upsetting her.

icybear · Answer

no, it would actually be helpful. Just don't be showing a bunch of $10,000 rings he can't afford. that will make him feel like he can't afford your affection and love.

Regular1 · Answer

You can show me all you want, you're not getting one from me.

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