Why do some guys lash out when angry, then apologize later?

[Anonymous]

When they get angry for whatever reason they hurt you then after awhile they reflect on their actions feel bad and then come back to apologize? why not try to control your reaction? especially if it's a small matter?

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11 h

I know women do this too. But it's more common for men from what I've seen ig

[AngryCarl3]

Research shows a strong correlation between violent offending and childhood trauma. Studies indicate that the vast majority of violent offenders have experienced severe early-life adversity, such as physical or sexual abuse, emotional neglect, or exposure to domestic violence.

I already knew that. If your man is beating you up you need to get out of that situation.

[genericname85]

I think it's momentary poor emotional self regulation.

[Asker]

yeah true

[genericname85]

We're all human. It happens to anyone. I think that's just obvious if you have empathy. Not justifying it. Just saying what it is.

[Asker]

gotcha

[dudeinohio]

Some guys need time to analyze things. If something they don't like is abruptly brought up and makes them angry, they will lash out. If they are given time to sort things in their minds, they can control their reaction.

[knallpilz]

For the same reason women do it, I guess. People tend to lash out when they're hurt.

I almost exclusively know this from women, though. Bar the apologies, though. :D

[beenherebefore]

These are highly emotional Man who don't know how to deal with their emotions and frustrations. A Man who never learned how to control their emotions is dangerous to society.

[DishLady]

If they apologize you're lucky. Many don't even do that much. They just act like nothing happened at all and everything is fine.

[NoDecision]

It is not just men who do this. Many women do the same.

[Nikki1989]

Some people are loose cannons. It has nothing to do with gender.

[Anonymous]

😆 You think women don't do this?

[Asker]

They do. I've just seen more men do this

[Opinion Owner]

Well of course you do. You're looking for it in men.

[jahaims]

Emotional immaturity