Is my manager trying to apologize without actually saying sorry?

[Anonymous]

I had a bad argument with him (I swear I thought about quitting the whole day because he was so annoying) and the next morning we met at a Starbucks by coincidence and when I wanted to pay he payed for it and gave me a car ride after some days even suggested to met there in the morning again. Why can’t he just tell me he is sorry

Updates

3 h

by the way, I did realize I was wrong and apologized to him but he just said it’s okay and not worry.. but at least apologize for telling me that I’m always complaining

[HollyK21]

How’s he supposed to know he hurt your feelings if you don’t communicate it? He may not even be sorry for what he said, or realized that stating what is a fact to him (that you complain a lot) was so hurtful. Instead he may have made those gestures as a guy, even just as your boss. My old boss bought me different things without me asking, whether it was a snack or even breakfast.

[bowenw]

It sounds like he is trying to apologize for something. Without knowing what the argument was about it's difficult to know which one of you was wrong.

[There_Is_Rehab]

You need esoteric training. Sit and feel with your heart "it is objectively wrong..." and marinate in it. Do not use your intellect. Use your heart.