My manager keeps correcting me in front of others?

[Anonymous]

sounds like silly examples but you know when lots of small things add up.
my manager used to compliment me in front of other people..

now she non stop in very mild small ways puts me down in front of others.. but times these small things by like many examples where its starting to feel off. considering she never did this before either.

like for example today i was chatting to a new person in a different department i had never seen before. my manager from a different floor saw me and came over.. in a friendly banter way i said to my manager in front of the girl she's so great.. my manager corrected me in front of the girl and said "she has a name" and acted like i was being so rude. anyway i laughed it off. but she keeps micro critiquing me in front of others. It is really really really starting to piss me off.

Why is she acting like this! And how do i handle it. They are so small I cannot say anything. but she never used to be like this. and the power imbalance means I cannot just ignore her or do it back to her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, that sounds so annoying! For your manager to change from complimenting you to constantly micro-critiquing is super weird and not cool at all. A few thoughts on why she might be acting that way and what you can do:

- Jealousy - Maybe she sees you're good at your job and likes by others and it makes her insecure so she puts you down to lift herself up. Petty behavior.

- Personal issues - Could be stuff going on at home making her cranky and take it out on you unfairly

- Power trip - Managers sometimes like lording their title over others even when it's unnecessary.

As for handling it, I'd privately tell her something polite but firm like "I've noticed a change in how you communicate with me in front of others lately. I'm doing my best and feedback is fine but public critiques make me uncomfortable. Could we chat privately instead?"

That way you're addressing the issue without blaming. And document anything else she does just in case you need to involve HR down the line. Keep your head up - don't let her petty behavior get you down! You seem awesome at your job.

[In_Trance]

Easy solution. Try stfu
Stfu is 100% effective; there's nothing to critique if you don't say anything.
Again, the solution is stfu

ask your doctor if stfu is right for you

[serious_miss419]

That’s not a necessary work environment.
Quit