Is my boyfriend emotionally cheating with this girl he’s fixated on?

[Anonymous]

How would you define emotional cheating and does it always have to be physical to be bad? Obviously guys look at other girls, but if he keeps looking at the same girl in a charged electric kind of way for over a year, always seemed to stay close to her and spends a lot of time messaging her…is it ok or not? Before he seemed to try to control it and distance himself, but the past month he’s been leaning into it more., when he talks to the girl he seems to know things she hasn’t told him so only way would be if he’s read her conversations with friends on social media. He has a girlfriend, what gives..

[HollyK21]

Ma’am, you’ve got to work on your self esteem, and your self respect, because lacking in these areas is the only way you should ever allow a man to disrespect you at this capacity and still stay. You admit that this man is not only fixated on another woman, but pulling away from you in order to better focus on her… what sort of mindset must you have to where this is justifiable? I just hope you can find enough self preservation to leave this loser before he gets a chance to leave you, because that would absolutely be “adding insult to injury”.

[ManOnFire]

So this is from a woman's perspective of "emotional cheating," because women know that's what women do. Not that men don't, but women largely do. I can't really tell if he is, but based on the way you describe it, it sounds like you must have some experience with emotional cheating yourself.

[Anonymous]

Emotional cheating is hard to define. I'd say it is generally investing too much into some else. What you describe would be more akin to physical cheating, and I would view as unacceptable with a girl who should be platonic. Ideally, you shoul be the girl most of his energy goes to.

[jahaims]

Try dating someone mature

[MasterKS]

sounds so may be soon it be physical.