I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about two years now. He’s basically like my best friend because I can tell him anything and we always talk about stuff.
There’s arguments and stuff but that’s normal. we don’t argue over anything irreconcilable. Anyways so he works at his apartment complex and he has this one manager who he’s told me is really pretty.
I didn’t think anything of it and just took it as an observation because I’m a pretty secure person. He’ll tell me when someone asks her out on a date and he even told me she used to be married to a woman lol ( she does like men though too ).
Lately he’s been talking about her more. The other day on the phone he brought her up and how she told him and all the employees to clean up after themselves and my boyfriend seemed really upset about it and was basically telling me it wasn’t his fault and why was she being so rude to him. I feel like he told me about it almost for reassurance or something.
Then he was like “she’s a really clean person” and I was like “nice” and he was like “yeah the way she dresses and her office is really clean and nice and organized”.
Today on the phone we were talking about managers again since I was about to go into work and I jokingly was like “I feel like you always have a problem with the managers at every job where you don’t like them” and he was like “that’s not true I never said I didn’t like Sarah ( who is the pretty manager I’m talking about ) then he was like “she’s a good manager and she really cares and treats me well. I like managers that care about me” then I told him that’s good she probably cares about all the employees and he paused for a second.
He’s also mentioned in the past how her and the other leasing agents wear really short skirts and dresses and don’t do anything to help and he seemed like it bothered him.
Should I be concerned about him?
There’s arguments and stuff but that’s normal. we don’t argue over anything irreconcilable. Anyways so he works at his apartment complex and he has this one manager who he’s told me is really pretty.
I didn’t think anything of it and just took it as an observation because I’m a pretty secure person. He’ll tell me when someone asks her out on a date and he even told me she used to be married to a woman lol ( she does like men though too ).
Lately he’s been talking about her more. The other day on the phone he brought her up and how she told him and all the employees to clean up after themselves and my boyfriend seemed really upset about it and was basically telling me it wasn’t his fault and why was she being so rude to him. I feel like he told me about it almost for reassurance or something.
Then he was like “she’s a really clean person” and I was like “nice” and he was like “yeah the way she dresses and her office is really clean and nice and organized”.
Today on the phone we were talking about managers again since I was about to go into work and I jokingly was like “I feel like you always have a problem with the managers at every job where you don’t like them” and he was like “that’s not true I never said I didn’t like Sarah ( who is the pretty manager I’m talking about ) then he was like “she’s a good manager and she really cares and treats me well. I like managers that care about me” then I told him that’s good she probably cares about all the employees and he paused for a second.
He’s also mentioned in the past how her and the other leasing agents wear really short skirts and dresses and don’t do anything to help and he seemed like it bothered him.
Should I be concerned about him?
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I don’t think this necessarily means he has plans to cheat, but I do think it means he is attracted to her. There’s a reason he keeps bringing her up. It’s not always important what he’s saying so much as his tendency to keep bringing her up as a topic one way or another. She’s on his mind. It’s ok to develop a crush in a relationship and it doesn’t always lead to cheating. You should evaluate your relationship with him and think — does he seem happy with you? Does he treat you well? Is he interested in your physically? If the relationship is troubled he might consider cheating. If not… it’s still always possible that he could cheat, but it could just be a crush that he will not act on and might fade in time
Ask yourself this: if she were a man would you feel differently? What if she wasn’t an attractive woman? There was nothing notably concerning about anything you said regarding their interactions, so it seems like you’re overthinking superficial aspects and that’s what’s triggering your insecurities. I can’t tell you how to switch that off, but what I can say is that if he was gonna cheat, there’s nothing you can do to stop it. So why worry about the inevitable? Don’t worry about this until there’s actually good reason to worry.
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