Why do guys feel threatened by other guys?

[Choc-minti]

Why do guys feel threatened by other guys in relation to their girlfriend

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Well if you're talking about other guys hanging around or talking to someone's girlfriend, then I can say that not all guys are threatened by other men.

Mainly if a guy feels threatened, it's either because he's insecure about himself and the stability of his relationship, or simply he's insecure because he doesn't trust his girlfriend. This could be because he hasn't gotten the confidence he needs to keep from getting threatened, or he is insecure because of some kind of history that makes him nervous, or he could just be a paranoid controlling jealous type of guy who likes to mark his territory like an animal.

I mentioned a history being a possibility. This could be things like him being cheated on before, or having an ex up and leave him for another guy, or maybe his girlfriend was not particularly good at making him feel loved in the past. These could be possible. Other possibilities for a history, might be some kind of second or third hand experience. Like maybe he's seen a lot of bad relationship in his friends or family that have tainted the way he sees things in relationships. Maybe his folks split up because one of his parents was cheating on the other. Who knows what it might be. Still, some kind of history could have damaged how he sees relationships and has become insecure.

If the guy is pretty young, he may just be new at this and hasn't developed any real confidence in himself or the relationship. Or maybe he's too young to know that this is not how you're supposed to act. Maybe he thinks this is what you're supposed to do. Maybe he is too new to this to know better, and hasn't developed any trust with his girlfriend.

If any of this is insecurity and selfconscious crap is the problem, then one way to go is to try to reassure this guy, and make it clear that she's not the cheating type, how she's not going anywhere, and the very strong point that this kind of behavior is not cool, and how he needs to trust her, or this will never work. Because if he can't get over it, I know it's just going to get worse.

If he's just a punk with jealousy issues, with no good excuse, then the only way to go about it is to tell him to back the hell off, and stop treating her like property, or territory, or she'll end this. Because no matter what anyone tells you, jealousy is not about love, affection, or anything good. It's always something else. It's always something bad, and if it doesn't get a swift kick in the ass, it will only get worse, and only get abusive and controlling. It needs to end. Period.

Anyway, not all guys are like this. There are quite a few who are secure, and trusting enough to comfortably just let their girl make the right choice. Because not all girls are cheaters. Not all girls are bad enough to trade up the second another guy shows some attention. Not all guys are like this.

I hope this helped.

- PS - Pretty much this entire post can be gender reversed. Food for thought.

[Anonymous]

If a guy is insecure, then he will feel threatened.

Insecurity basically boils down to the guy thinking that other guys are better than him, and will be a better match for his girl, and that she will see this and dump him.

Fortunately, not all guys are insecure, especially since such insecurity can also manifest itself in extremely nasty controlling and aggressive behavior .

[anthony8x]

Possibility of cheating cause girls are easily influenced and often times don't know what they want.

Also most guys just want sex. LOL

Personally I could care less but that's just because I don't really get too attached to the girl anyways. So whatever happens, happens

[2248576]

Girls are judged as whores if they want sex.

[KCruz812]

because guys know what guys really want. If a guy can't have something or a girl, they will try even harder to get. And a guy friend is still a guy and unless he's gay he still thinks about getting with you. Girls can get taken advantage of very easily.

[sinful1620]

I wouldn't say I feel threatened. If my girlfriend is seeking attention from other guys, it's very insulting as though she's telling me right to my face that I'm not enough.

[krazzyfour36]

we are threatened to every reason we may lose our gal to.

[Anonymous]

Beats me. After all, it's not like a girl has ever started having sex with a guy who wasn't her boyfriend before. Oh, wait. . .

[pr3ttybr0wn]

worried another guy could take you away

[Ezmotts]

Same reasons as to why girls are threatened.