Why are guys intimidated by me? What do I do wrong?

[Lexa_Nicole]

So, ideas? To give you a description of what I look like, I'm 5'8", long brown hair, hazel eyes, and 135 lbs. I couldnt give you a measure of whether I'm pretty because I'm my own worst critic. But people do tell me I'm pretty, so hopefully that gives you an idea. Point being, multiple guys have said I'm intimidating. I try to have confidence and be friendly but seemingly they take it wrong. The few guys I've become friends with, it's mostly been over text first because they were too scared to talk to me in person till they knew me... so what does any of this mean? I'm just trying to make some guy friends and they run the other way 😂😂 what do I do?

[Gatman34]

Guys don’t want to be your friends. It’s either boyfriend, nothing or casual acquaintance. You obviously give or bad vibes that makes guys uncomfortable. Try dressing and looking more casual. Majority of guys don’t like the dolled up look. It makes women look high maintenance and that’s a huge no no for guys

[Lexa_Nicole]

So what's wrong with having friends who are girls? Do guys not find value in friends who are girls? (Honest question, no judgement) I dont dress up ever hardly, like a tiny bit of makeup and that's it. So what am I doing wrong? I really try to be open and friendly...

[Gatman34]

Guys and girls that age have rarely anything in common. The way guys think and the way girls think are too different. What guys find funny is likely offensive to women. It just doesn’t make sense for guys and girls to be friends. But because of biology most guys are still attracted to girls so guys do want a relationship with a SPECIFIC girl. But friends with girls is usually a no

[one1wild00]

That your friends are wrong, that you aren't just pretty but gorgeous and you know how to carry yourself. Many guys have trouble seeing past the shell when they only know the surface to see what you are really like inside.

[Browneye57]

No guy is intimidated by any girl. Period. Well, unless you're litterally going to kick his ass.
My guess is your personality sucks. You're one of those navel-gazers - your whole world is all about YOU.

[Dchrls78104]

How is your muscle structure? Or your self-defence training? What is your personality like to those around you? What is your educational and financial background?

[Lexa_Nicole]

Muscle structure? I mean I workout. I'm 20% body fat. I'm not gonna be on a sports magazine but I take care of myself. Personality wise I try to be very friendly and open, and my friends tell me that I mix well with most people (who are girls cuz there's very few guys in my school). My financial background probably doesn't matter cuz I'm 17 but I'm top of my class at my school. I don't know if that would matter tho. So... opinion?

[Dchrls78104]

You've been told you're pretty? Maybe that's what intimidated them, if that's the best word. You say they take your confidence the wrong way and maybe that's the problem.

[Lexa_Nicole]

Huh. Maybe so. Sorry for the hard question, just really stumped...

[R4vedave]

Could just be your attractiveness that's intimidating

[FrenchyRomain]

because you're 17 and at that age guys are NOT confident and not manly

[GreatnessBack]

I concur.

[proxy678]

They are probably joking. Usually guys don't say if they are actually scared or intimidated. Especially with a woman.

[DanOh2018]

Maybe you have rbf LoL