Why does everyone always say don't worry the right girl will come along?

[anonymousbastard]

When its not really true? I hear this day in and day out, they say oh you haven't meet the right girl, she's out there you just gotta look, blah blah blah. Why can't they just say look your ugly your never gonna be good enough just stop trying that's the real reason.

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Well according to two girls on here, One thinks I'm a 5 1/2 the other a 3 wtf. I guess I really am ugly.

[shyguy89]

in a way your path is altered by who you met if they are not the one it will fall apart.but waiting dosen't always help..think of it this way the life of a young president..as a child tells all his class mates ima be president one day you know a lot laugh at them. you have to tackle everything in life people will tell you loads of stuff its best to get out there an experience it yourself. cause I found my girlfriend when I didn't want one I was so busy up to my neck in car servicing an now I'm dating my best friends sister. never knew we had chemistry. but the world is funny on how life long lessons are taught an you only get one try.until another event unfolds in your life but to hell with waiting I don't wait on no one or anything I will live long an hard until I'm dead..lol cause anyone and I mean anyone can have anything in this world they want no matter what this is the land of the free an people get rich everyday even though we need jobs..but what I'm saying is this all connects to your life go grab it man but be careful of others feelings.if you do it like I tell you. change will hit you so fast you will be struggling everyday bro-_-

[Moloch]

Because they don't know what they're talking about, or the person that told you that is a woman. As a man, you gotta make the moves in life, or you better be drop dead gorgeous. Don't listen to people who tell you this, listen to real men who will be more than happy to tell you to man up and go for what you want in life.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

This.

[KassandraDoom]

It's a thing people (I do too) say to help a person not give up.But ' the right girl will come along' doesn't mean that if you just sit pasively,doing nothing at all there will sudenly come a girl.

And you can't tell someone 'Hey you're ugly and you're never gonna be good enough so just stop trying' because everyone has a different taste.Even if someone is ugly for me there may be other people out there that find him very handsome.And from what you see out there,do you still believe that people mate judging only the appearence?I don't.

And I tell you all this as a girl that is told everyday 'Don't worry,the right man is out there you just have to wait'

[nomadia]

look its something that is said so you won't feel bad and give up. come on honesly is some1 said yo're ugly like hell and aygirl would be damed to be with you, you will feel bad and that a fact. everyone want the truth but can we really handle the truth. (i'm not sayin that you are thoes things) but honestly I believe that there is some1 for every1, I mean if my drunken ugly excuse of a brother has a family trust me there is hope for the world yet!

[anonymousbastard]

I bet your Brother acts like a Douche bag though no offense. You poor thing one look at me and you'll barf.

[nomadia]

well I haven't seen your picture so I can't say. but every1 has their faults, and good things about them that make up for the faults

[nomadia]

well every has their faults and the good stuft about them that makes up for the faults that they have. and I bet you're exaturating about the whole barf thing I bet you're good looking in your own way or prove me wrong show a pic

[anonymousbastard]

LOL be ready to have nightmares,

[nomadia]

come on I bet its not that bad

[Wendys94]

Vise versa just be your self and change by being more confident within your self, that's something a girl always looks for in a boy, you both would want to be happy and be more out there I love when a guy is opened to anything and so outgoing.

[anonymousbastard]

Sorry I disagree being yourself gets me nowhere, its just more bull sh*t girls say so guys like me, can believe its true.

[TheUglyOne]

Well, think about it. Saying to someone "you are ugly and never good enough for a woman" is a rather mean thing to say. Even I wasn't told that directly very often. More people than not want to be nice about it. They want to be optimistic about it, especially if they like your personality.

I don't believe in completely passively waiting. You still need to put effort into your appearances at least. You can't do much about your looks, but you can do plenty about your appearance. You can also work on being confident, by talking to women, even just casually. I notice lots of guys have problems simply saying hi to a woman they just see in the street or at their office building. If you can't say hi and go around looking like a slob, the right girl can come along but sees you looking like that will turn around and go the other way.

So, don't give up, just start living, stop defining having a great life means you must have a girl. Have a great life without one, a life that the right girl will make better but even without one, you live on top of the world.

[anonymousbastard]

Saying to someone "you are ugly and never good enough for a woman" is a rather mean thing to say

I would rather hear I'm ugly to my face, then have someone lead me on and make me think I'm good looking to get a GF.

[TheUglyOne]

Did they actually say you were good looking? Because I was very rarely ever told that. In my long life, I can almost count on my hands, well maybe I'd need some toes, but they would avoid commenting on my looks if they were being nice. Just say, aw don't worry, the right woman is waiting for you, or some other evasive but nice sounding comment.

[anonymousbastard]

I've only been told I was cute a few times online but never in person. But I doubt they meant it.

[kheserthorpe]

Well, there's a very big difference between 'the right girl will come along' and 'she's out there you just gotta look'.

But people also tend to try to make you feel better, not give helpful advice. Mainly because most people lose their sh*t if you give them advice.

[Brando]

You're ugly and you should stop trying while you aren't whining so much.

Better now?

[bel42]

love this.

[anonymousbastard]

Yes I am ugly don't you know how to read or pay attention.

[Brando]

Yeah, I paid enough attention to know that you made a post pissing and moaning. So once I told you what you wanted to hear someone say, you're pissing and moaning about that now.

See how you can't be pleased and consequently, why it's probably a chore (that kills any chance of getting close to someone) to hang around you?

[anonymousbastard]

Listen dipsh*t first off I wasn't being serious and second you have no idea how I am in person.

[cinnamongirl]

now I'm getting old and people say that to me either. it just makes me feel more and more frustrated... I'm so sick of this bullsh*t

[KingsOfleon88]

Why should you stop trying? Why should you not believe that there is someone out there? Why do you feel your ugly? These are all things that seem to be crossing your mind, and things that you believe. I know what it's like to think negative, you have to change your perspective on things. If you start thinking more positive, you'll change your outlook my friend.

[anonymousbastard]

If god wanted everyone to have a partner no one, would be single & there would be no divorce's. I'm in my late 20's and never had a Girlfriend no matter how confident I was, no matter how nice I dressed etc. And I thought confidence was the #1 thing women look for yeah right, it only #1 when the guy is good looking or jerk or both.

[KingsOfleon88]

Dude, maybe you're saying something that turns them off without even realizing it. Just because you haven't found someone yet it doesn't mean it isn't going to happen. You're still a young guy, I don't know what you're worrying about.

[anonymousbastard]

99% of the time I never say too words to them, but yet I'm always getting dirty looks go figure.

[KingsOfleon88]

Dude, it's all in your head. How do you know she wasn't thinking about something else when she just happened to be staring at you at that particular time. I can recall countless of times where I'm speaking with someone and my mind seems to be preoccupied with something else. You say you didn't even say anything to them, and you're already internalizing and saying they are giving you dirty looks.

[anonymousbastard]

Believe me I can walk into any store at the mall and, when I do I never get an hello but when a good looking douche bag walks in its hi is there anything I can help you with. Me I walk in and get ignored.

[CrystalMinds]

Because sometimes it's true and it's a bit of encouragement that you shouldn't lose hope. Be glad they say good words and not what you THINK is true.

[paintthesilent]

well if you make an effort to meet girls you might meet one, if not you won't that's just how it is...

[Tripz]

It is true, you just need patience and the right amount of effort.

[Yeahhbro]

you are right, you have to find what you want, or else it will nevee come to you

[britannny]

It doesn't matter how ugly you are. Or even how terrible your personality is. SOMEONE out there will find you attractive. Or at least will be willing to settle for you, lol.

[britannny]

But this "Oh poor me, I'll never find anyone because I'm ugly!" attitude you have won't get you anywhere, for sure. It's not making you happy, and it CERTAINLY won't make attractive girls like you. Just sayin'. My best advice is to suck it up and move on with life. Maybe you'll find someone. Maybe you won't. But either way, learn to be OK by yourself so you can be happy.

[anonymousbastard]

Seriously why even try, if I'm ugly to every single women? And that's easy for you to say your like a 10. We both know the only way ugly or below average guys get dates is when their rich.

[frustratedchump06]

tell me about it, pisses me off