Choosing to stay single in order to avoid heartbreak.

[Anonymous]

After my last two relationships ended in real heartbreak. I've chosen to stay single, although I would like to date again. I honestly don't know how to get back on that wagon.

If a man is interested in me. I automatically back off and see uninterested when I truly am.

Any advice?

[zagor]

There are a lot of good reasons for staying single. That is not one of them. The first day I skied I fell twenty times and felt like an idiot and swore I'd never do it again. Now I look forward to the winters just so I can get back to it. You need to learn from the bad experiences (like not pouring yourself into a relationship full-tilt before you know someone reasonably well) but don't give up based on them. If everyone thought like that there sure wouldn't be 7 billion people on the planet.

[Anonymous]

Youve already answered your own question;

"If a man is interested in me. I automatically back off and see uninterested when I truly am."

So I would say, turn off the auto pilot and take control, say yes to that guy who's asked you out twice and you keep turning him down- you never know what might happen! What have you got to lose, if you don't enjoy the date then don't date again. simples! Besta luck with it!

[Anonymous]

Dont do that to youself!

i was raped in my last relationship and truat me the last thing I wanted to do was ever date again and I almost let the most amazing guy walk out of my life. Do not do it. grab life by thw balls and go for it! Just say yes next time and just date until you find someone you mesh with. don't let the past ruin your future.

[Anonymous]

Go to counseling.