Why Being Skinny Isn't So Great After All

[Anonymous]

Heyo it's me here to tell you to not aspire to be a size 0.

Speaking as someone who is that small (and due to my genes, I probably won't even be able to be more than this) it's not as great as it seems.

It's a lot of first world problems like never being able to find clothes that fit always too big, too long, too much waist, etc to the point of of my clothes from children's sections I want them to have a snug fit.

I get a lot of shit about being so skinny and I don't understand why. Women starve themselves to be this skinny, and some of the same people who I know do that, are making fun of me.

I'm not at all saying I'm what anyone should aspire to be. But I also don't like being called anorexic, a skeleton, "freaky thin twig". I hate being told to be "beef up" and that I need to eat more. "Eat a burger", they say because "men don't like bones".

I eat so much, I probably eat more than the average teenage boy, and I can't seem to break 100 lbs. That's no achievement. I want to gain more weight. I'm tired of being called names and people putting there hand around my wrist and going "ew you're so skinny" and I'm tired of my doctors thinking that I'm sick simply because there chart says I'm unhealthy.

I almost had to find a homecoming dress in the kid clothes because the 0 found in juniors was too big (luckily we found another that fit perfectly)

So basically what I'm trying to say is don't aspire to be a size 0 (1,2, etc.) because once you get there's it's not going to be that much better. If going on a diet makes you happy do it. If exercising makes you happy do it. But never do something to compromise your health, not for anyone. I understand some may want to change their weight, and that's okay but I'm just stating that of you get here, you're still going to have problems. People will find ways to make you feel bad about yourself no matter what, and until we find a way to change that we must accept ourselves for the way we are and ignore what others say about our bodies.

[redeyemindtricks]

"It's a lot of first world problems like never being able to find clothes that fit always too big, too long, too much waist, etc to the point of of my clothes from children's sections I want them to have a snug fit."

^^ You are under 18 right now, so, yr fashion options are limited. But...

• Remember -- A good tailor/seamstress is yr BEST FRIEND. (:
Just about any piece of clothing can be taken in, or made smaller.
Almost NO piece of clothing can be let out, or made bigger.

• Learn to shop international brands!
Even if you're in the middle of the US (where, yes, all the clothes are FUCKING HUGE)... you can still get on the internet and order better-fitting -- and more fashionable -- clothes, made for real adult women, from European and/or Asian brands.
To start familiarizing yourself with random Euro brands, take a look through the selection on yoox. com. (It'll take a while at first -- it's a HUGE site, and not particularly well organized.)
Shopping for Asian brands is better done by actually going to Asia (srsly), and then finding the brands online once you've had the chance to become familiar with them.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you!

[redeyemindtricks]

Yr welcome (:

[Anonymous]

GOOD problem to have. When you get older and your metabolism slows down you won't have any trouble filling in.

All the childish taunts/jabs you are getting is just INSECURE fat chics who are extremely jealous. This whole PC "fat acceptance" movement is 110% bullshit. Be happy with what you are.

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

*Terrible problem to have smh

[COMMODOREII]

I understand how other people around can judge you for who you are and do everything to hurt you. I am a guy who is overweight. I never have been this big in my life. So I know I must get back to where I was. I let myself go, cause I felt bad too. I was engaged, and my fiance cheated on me, and decided to go marrry someone else. She used me, abused me, and took advantage of me. I have alsways been kind of big, with a pot belly. But everytime I would go get checked out some doctors would tell me to lose weight, or diet.

It wasn't until I moved to North Carolina and started working at a hospital there. I made an appointment with a dietician, and she told me that new research had come out showing that the old ideas of obesity, and ideal body weight was out of date. She even informed that the BMI or Body Mass Index which is a mathimatical calculation to determine bdy weight, and obesity is inaccurate. Also another doctor I met, there also informed me that judging by my skeletal structure of my body, I was always going to big. He obviously told me that If I wanted to, I could take care of my pot belly, and tone up, but if I do dont forget that muscle is heavier than fat. So weighing yourself is not always accurate as well. You might think you have to lose weight, and at fist you might lose weight, but then you will balance out, and start to gain it again, due to muscle mass. He also told me that by severely depriving yourself of calories or "diet" will actually cause your body to go into starvation mode. Meaning you will lose weight at first, but then whenever you do eat, or decide to go back to your normal eating routine, you will gain a lot of weight far more than what you started with. The best way is to make life changes in your eating routine. For example, when it comes to bread, dont eat white sandwich bread, opt for an artisan bread, or sprouted grain bread. It has more fiber, and more of the original nutrition your body really needs. You will find by making changes to your eating routine, that you will eat less because you are getting the nutrition your body needs. When you eat junk like white sandwich bread, its full of air, and just like eating empty calories.

Anyways, back to you. The best thin to do is always love yourself first. Understand that you are unique, and find people who will love you for you, and treat you right. Those haters are just jealous, and dont let them win.

[StewieRH]

I agree it's not all it's cracked up to be though I am no where near as skinny as you, I do get called it sometimes.

This past year I have had my Mum and boyfriend concerned that I'm looking a bit skinny and should eat more. Like my Mum tells me I'm losing weight, tries to encourage me to eat more and says there'll be nothing left of me, my boyfriend says I'm like a skeleton as I'm so boney and also once called me "Twiglet" because I'm "Skinny like a twig".

A few weeks ago I had a woman who I hadn't seen in a while that I shared a taxi with ask if I'd lost weight and told me I was looking well, 2 weeks ago I saw one of my aunties and she told me I was "Skinny as hell" and when I saw another auntie on Saturday who I hadn't seen in years, she asked me where all my weight had gone too.

In one way I'm sorta glad about it - It's flattering having people tell you you're skinny - especially since a lot of people say it like a compliment..

Until you find out the reason WHY I am apparently skinny - For a little over a year now I have been getting stomach aches after I eat, you know when you eat a bit too much and feel bloated afterwards for a while? Well, I get that.. but for HOURS - even if I haven't eaten that much.

I've been to the doctors about it a lot and used to take these powder solutions that didn't really do much, then tablets that didn't work, blood tests which found I was low on a lot of vitamins (I now I have to take vitamin D capsules every day, folic acid tablets 3 times a week, and B12 injections every 2-3 months or else I become anaemic), that's not the exact cause of the stomach aches though so my doctor had to write to a gastroenterologist for advice, took ages to hear from and recently had to go for an MRI scan but still awaiting results.

The stomach aches have gotten worst so now I get them even if I've just eaten 5 cherry tomato's or something. I avoid eating hot foods and heavy meals since it's more likely my stomach will hurt with them though some days are better than others. I tend to find it easier to just snack on light foods when I can. It's annoying though because sometimes I will be quite hungry but know I'm going to be in pain if I eat - A few months back, I'd barely eaten all day but was so hungry so tried to eat a meal but with every mouthful my stomach just hurt more and more.

Basically, the reason for me being skinny is because I'm trying to avoid being in pain. It's not really a good thing since I'm also weak. It's no fun being weak

[Anonymous]

It's definitely a jealousy thing when girls make mean comments. Unfortunately, I do have an eating disorder, but it doesn't only come from wanting to be thin. Eating disorders rarely are just about striving to be a certain size. There are always bigger problems behind it that lead up to it.

I've had mine since I was thirteen and I am going to be thirty soon. I always try to advise people to diet healthy because they don't want to be in my shoes. You go from starving yourself to wanting to recover, and gaining weight then going back to starving yourself. It's an endless cycle, and usually stress will start mine up.

When I was thirteen, I was a little wisp of a girl, but I found out that my dad killed himself. He died when I was six, and I always thought he'd died in a car accident, but my mom told me the truth when I was 13. I got depressed and I stopped eating. My mom forced me to eat to the point that I gained weight, and that started the endless cycle I've been dealing with since then.

I get made fun of a lot for it. People will see me lose a lot of weight, and I'll get made fun of for being thin and that I should gain weight. When I decide to try and recover, I gain weight and I get made fun of for that. "Oh she was so thin and now she's so fat." Right now I am eating normally, but I don't know how long it's going to last. I'm still at a healthy weight, but usually when I start starving again, it's not because of my weight. Something triggers me, it could be some kind of stress, and I start again.

[AnayaWilliams]

I can relate because I myself am skinny and it's really hard for me to gain weight as well. I eat everything in the house but I am never full. Trust me, you aren't the only one and I can relate to how you feel. I have been trying to gain at least 10 lbs and I still can't. I tried a weight gainer and I've been taking it about a week now haven't seen any major improvements but hopefully I will soon. A lot of people I've met in the past tell me I should embrace my size more and a lot of them wish they were my size. I try to explain to them that being skinny isn't everything even though it may seem like it is. I used to deal with being picked on because I was skinny luckily I don't deal with anymore but when I used to it never stopped. I am naturally skinny and have been ever since I was little.

[OrangeBoy]

You can gain more weight, you just need a lot of time and patience. But i heard it takes more time than loosing fat. Not sure.

[myTake Owner]

@OrangeBoy nope you don't understand what us (naturally) skinny people have to go through. I eat a lot sometimes 4-5-6 meals a day, I'm seventeen still don't gain anything. It's just like that. My mother is the same way she's a grown adult I'm her fourties and me and my brothers and she's still pretty thin. I don't know if it's the same way with @AnayaWilliams but it's this way with me. It's in my genes, and I have a high metabolism. I don't ever see myself gaining a lot of weight 😔

[myTake Owner]

She had*

[OrangeBoy]

4-5-6 meals a day it's the standard for all people.
But it's not about quantity, but food types + food combinations.

[myTake Owner]

@OrangeBoy but did you not see what I said? It's just in my genes, and I have a high metabolism. Like with my mom. She's in her fourties. Became pregnant with me, and my brothers. Still thin. I never see myself gaining weight. And no that's not standard amount of meals for a teenager.

[OrangeBoy]

1 Brekfast
2 snack
3 Launch
4 snack
5 Dinner
Basic food rules followed by millions. Nothing from other world.

I know it's about genes/metabolism. I also know that combining the right ones in the right moments can contradict them. Just don't ask me how, but if you search in the right places you can get correct information.

[myTake Owner]

@OrangeBoy it's just doesn't gunna work for me. I'll already do all those stuff. And like I said no change sadly

[myTake Owner]

@OrangeBoy exactly you don't even know how then how are you gonna tell me if it's gonna work?

[OrangeBoy]

Because i read a lot about nutrition, food and health.
You just don't know how to eat to change your body. That's the big chalenge, people's bodies don't really behave equally to food.

[myTake Owner]

@OrangeBoy anyways it's fine I know what works for my body and what doesn't. I've accepted it. Thanks though.

[AnayaWilliams]

@OrangeBoy I eat everything in the house and I still don't gain weight it's very hard and it's also very annoying when you can eat everything but you can't put on a single pound. I was 103 lbs but apparently I lost 5.4 lbs, how I did that, I don't know but its frustrating. I tried a weight gainer supplement but it didn't really do anything for me. Being naturally skinny is okay but it gets annoying after a while. People say they want to be my size, I'm like take it. Other people say I'm lucky, really I'm not that lucky. None of my other family members have trouble putting on weight besides me. Maybe I am just bound to skinny, I have spoken to my doctor and she told me maybe my body is just built that way.

[ThatGirl19]

I understand friends and family do this to me all the time and it sucks. Shaming of any body type is wrong but still I think it's important to note that someone could call me a stick and yes it would hurt my feelings but I could still walk around in a society that would except my size. People who are fat (which I don't believe is an insult) however can be called pudgy or whatever else and have their feelings hurt but aren't socially accepted in society and are seen as lazy, unsuitable for work, modeling, etc. and because of that I believe skinny shaming and fat shaming are two separate entities that shouldn't be allowed but should not be seen as the same thing.

[ThatGirl19]

sorry *accept my size

[cavmanier]

No matter what your body looks like there will always be someone that isn't attracted to that shape. You get a lot of shit for being skinny, but you just said there are girls you know that have dieted to be thin that have criticized you. Their criticism isn't because you look bad. I bet they criticized you because of envy. They want to have your body, especially without the effort so they've directed frustration towards you. There are lots of guys that are attracted to thin women. It's absolutely the most popular body shape. That's why those girls want to look like you.

I'm not trying to debate you on this, but you are capable of gaining weight. Everyone is. You probably think you eat a lot, but a lot is relative. If you eat what you normally eat plus two or three candy bars before you go to sleep, you will gain weight. Most people don't gain weight in a week. It takes years of excess calories. You probably just aren't as hungry as the other people.

I hope that helps a little.

[doobie345621]

This is false as I am just like the girl in this post and I am definitely unable to gain weight. I normally eat three meals a day with many snacks but for approximately 8 months, I changed my diet because I wanted to gain so badly. I ate 6-8 meals a day and many many snacks in between and also had two protein shakes a day and over 8 months of doing this I only gained two pounds.

[myTake Owner]

No I actually do eat a lot. I eat about 4-5-6 meals a day, or maybe even more. And the first time I got so sick I threw up. Now I eat like this regularly havnt gained anything. I'm seventeen.

[myTake Owner]

@doobie345621 same

[myTake Owner]

@doobie345621 I feel you

[Grungenoreos]

The hourglass is considered the ideal and most beautiful body shape and its something lots of naturally skinny women dont have (like me). So i dont know what you are talkimg about because all the guys I know like tits and ass and the wide hips of a woman (without her actually being fat)

[joeb73]

i agree with what you said about only do thing that make you happy. some times being super skinny or being over weight isn't a choice. i just wish everyone could except them selves for the wonderful people they are. the people who shame others to be someone or something they can not be for what ever reason , should look at them selves and see how shallow and how they make everyone around them unhappy.
everyone that that is under 30 and reading this just realize life is to short as is , trying to someone other than your self make for a long unhappy life.

[GuysGuy]

Are you skinny (skin & bones)? Or fit (lean). There's a difference.
Lean strong muscle is healthy. Skin & bones could indicate a digestion issue whereas your system is not uptaking nutrients from your food effectively.

There's also a difference between big (ie: Serena Williams) and being fat (loose and floppy, muffin top, cellulite, etc).
Strong muscle vs. unhealthy gooey body weight which is typically toxic and cancerous at some point.

If you're geniunely and maturely concerned solely about how you look for the purpose of this post though, throw up a body shot. Crop the head and blur tattoos etc if you prefer anonymity.

[myTake Owner]

I don't know how to put up a photo of my self from my gallery... And no I'm not concerned on how I look. This take was for those who want to starve themselves to be skinny. A close friend of mine ended up in the hospital because she wasn't eating trying to get thin 😔. I don't want anyone to do that and that's the point of this take. Being skinny isn't as great as people think it is, and you shouldn't compromise your health just to be skinny.

[GuysGuy]

A thousand percent agree. Starving yourself doesn't work anyway, because weight will come back with a vengeance. Thin is fantastic... IF HEALTHY. And the only way to do that is to get fit and eat clean.

TIP : cut all sugar and wheat from the diet (get your carbs elsewhere or flat out replace with veggies), eat whole foods only (if it comes in a can or a box, ditch it), and drink half your body weight (in lbs) of water every day (ounces obviously).
Do this religiously and you'll trim out healthily and sustainably within weeks - sometimes days.

If the people around you telling you to eat more are chubby with pot bellies and muffin tops, they don't have a clue about the human body and are inviting diabetes and cancer into their lives. You don't want either of those.

Bottom line is be healthy

[AleDeEurope]

As a dude that has trouble gaining weight, and has spent his life being skinny, I understand what you're saying.
I've been told a lot of things, you could call them "mean" comments, though I just simply don't care, cause I know I'm not skinny because I'm unhealthy, I'm skinny cause that's how my body is.
I've been gaining muscle mass in the past months, but it's still complicated, cause no matter how much I eat, I still don't gain weight.

So though I know the struggles you're going through, you should embrace it, cause everything in life comes with problems, but at least you're healthy and beautiful.

[myTake Owner]

That's what I said I even ended with a quote "embrace your size"

[myTake Owner]

Lmao that's literally what I just said.

[myTake Owner]

"People will always find ways to make you feel bad about yourself no matter what, and until we find away to change that we must accept ourselves for the way we are and ignore what others say about our bodies"

[myTake Owner]

But yeah lol

[AleDeEurope]

I know, I never said you didn't xD

[Rawrzz]

Well, solidarity on trying to find clothes that fit. I have a 30" waist, and they're a lot more rare than 32, 33, 34. Hell, it probably goes up to 60 or something. Madness. And getting people saying you're too skinny. I really don't understand why people tell you to eat more. If you don't burn the fat, then it'll just make you fat. Like being fat is better than being skinny. But, I'm an ectomorph, so my metabolism destroys pretty much anything. I worked at Dominos, eating pretty much nothing but fast food, all day every day, and in 2 years I only put on 9 pounds. If I hadn't have damaged my metabolism as a teenage drug addict not eating anything for days, then I wouldn't have put on any weight, at all.

It's also hard to put on muscle, because I have to eat so much more to put on a couple pounds, because my metabolism just burns everything I eat. That kinda sucks. But, my muscles get dense, they don't grow.

But. I like being skinny. It gives me mobility. Always liked my size.

[Gommers]

I hear you man, I used to have to buy 30x34 pants and it was impossible to find them. Once I put on some weight from lifting found that 32x34 are much easier to find.

[Rawrzz]

@Gommers You have long legs. :O Err, I guess you're taller than me then. 30x30 is ideal for me, but I usually end up getting 32x32. But how does lifting increase your waist size? o. o;

[Gommers]

Lots of core work. LOTS OF POWER CORE WORK. Front squats, weighted russian twists, weighted crunches, core focus deadlifts. Stuff like that. Your core should be part of every lift you do focusing on keeping it tight for balance and support for your back. You naturally build abs secondarily at a much faster pace than if you just focus on them isometrically and work them to death. The body adapts better in groups and it just so happens that the core is useful for all kinds of lifts.

[Rawrzz]

@Gommers Alright, good to know. ^-^ Thanks

[redeyemindtricks]

@rawrzz You should start buying European jeans.

Check out the men's section of yoox. com (the same site I recommended to the take owner).
You should wear size 44 or 46 in Italian brands, depending on the brand (Yoox will attempt an awkward conversion of these into US sizes, but, go with the tag size -- which it will tell you when you click on a size option).

In most European brands, there are still at least a couple of sizes smaller than yours. In French brands (Saint Laurent, Dior Homme) you would actually be wearing one of the BIGGER sizes available, hahah. I don't think French dudes do a lot of squats.

[Anonymous]

I'm almost 40 and weigh under 100 I wear a 14 in girls most cases others 00 or 0. But I hear all the same things always have but unfortunately I found out I did have an illness when I was 28. And never took it seriously. I believe now I have permanently damaged myself. But I'm on a strict gluten free diet due to celiac disease now. And they said I should be gaining weight with no problem now. But I'm still only 95 lbs. I hate it! But I will admit. I would much rather be this way then have a serious weight problem. The rest of my family all has weight issues. I have seen them all struggle. And unfortunately it's just genes I guess all of my family (parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, siblings) are average 250+ lbs. So I guess I should've known something was wrong with me.

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

You do have a weight issue, just on the other end...

[Azara]

you dont look skinny you just look slim thug not much muscle tone. skinny is when your bones poke through. maybe people think you're skinny bc so many people are fat.

anyhow i doubt you couldn't gain weight if you tried. thin people who just have fast metabolism could eat more than they burn itd just be a commitment. im sure if yo ate 3000 calories a day you'd gain weight. but maybe im wrong. if yo really want to gain weight try it.

anyhow in my opinion, think being skinny is awesome. it feels great being light everything is so much easier to do and stamina id fantastic. other than guys liking big butts and breasts, i see no benefit to being heaver. and i wouldn't gain weight just so guys can imagine fucking me.

i dont like being called anorexic but i also wouldn't like being called anything else either. people call people names bc it makes them feel better. not bc there is a reason for it. they will find an excuse no matter what. just tell them to fuck off.

[Hasaboyfriend]

I'd rather be skinny and unhealthy than fat and healthy :( I'm too fat and have a super slow metabolism. I've literally been fat my whole life even my doctors were concerned with how tiny but fat I was as a baby. I was too short but I had too high of body fat when I came out of my mother's womb and I've been fat ever since. id love to be skinny for once. I eat and excercise healthy but I'm still the same size, never gained never lost. :( I wish I could be skinny for just one day, even if I died the next day from starving to death, I'd take so many pictures of myself and actually feel beautiful.

[Lauren_Odair]

I had the same problem but I found that drinking 2 glasses of lemon water in the mornings really helps

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

Trust me, I'd rather be fat and overweight than ever be super thin

[EllieLexis513]

Gotta be honest, I don't know a single girl who desires to be a size 0. Everyone I know wants to be like a size 6 or 8, but then again, we're in our 20's. You mentioned a homecoming dress so that tells me you're around high school age, so your size will change probably in the next 5-10 years, just give it time.

[Izzex3]

Eh. I'm happy being a size 1/2.
Yeah, sometimes very few people have tried to give me shit about it, but the insults don't really seem like insults to me because I think I'm just fine.
I've never been seriously shamed for being small.
My sister is 25 years old and is a 00 and also has trouble reaching 90 lbs. It's so hard for her to find clothes, lol. The only negative thing I can think of is that people might think that they can bully you because of your size, but that can also be a good thing because you can surprise attack if you can stick up for yourself.
But yeah. I used to be chubby when I was little.
I'm guessing it was puberty or something because I did absolutely nothing to get to my current size and I'd rather be this size than my old size any day.

[Dim_121]

Amen girl. I'm a naturally skinny dude because I have a high metabolism however my friends are always telling me to eat something. Women want a man with meat and muscles. I have been working out for a year. Now one can tell unless I jokingly life up my skinny female friends. No one ever tells they to eat. Oddly enough of of my skinny size 1 friends seems to get pleasure out of seeing me eat for some odd reason. No one seems to want to actually date a toothpick male or female.

[oldanddecrepid]

You don't have to worry... look at your mom or your dad and if they broke a 100 lbs you will too someday.

Everybody has a high metabolism when they are younger, but things change and it slows down. Unless you keep up with the slow in metabolism you will see changes.

If you have children... you will likely see changes.

[myTake Owner]

Yeah, but my mom is very skinny like me. It has to do with my genes I think. She had me and my little brother and she's still pretty thin.

[candyaurora]

Oh yeah I feel you. When I was younger (in my teens) I was also quite skinny and slim. People, family and friends used to make rude comments about my weight like "Real men like women with some meat on their bones!", or "you will always look like a child" or "you are flat, nobody likes this!". I just tried to ignore them and their rude comments (it hurt my self esteem a lot!) and now I have -not to sound arrogant- a enviable figure! Just ignore people.

[AdamThomas]

People will always give you shit. Which one is healthier though, a slim woman like yourself or a woman carrying a lot of excess fat? Despite what some people say, who do most men find the most attractive - slim women or fat women? Ignore the bullshit.

[DarkHumorRUs]

But you are more easy on the eyes than an overweight hairy dude like me.

I don't go to the pool or water parks because I know I look bad.

I have an incredibly slow metabolism or something, because I've eaten waaaaaay under the amount of calories I was supposed to in the past few days, and been keeping up a calorie deficit before that, but I've been stuck at the same weight (and look) for weeks.