Stop Skinny Shaming: I'm Thin and Beautiful...And That's Okay

[RetroDreamerXD]

Leave us alone. We have a right to be thin and proud of it. We have a right to not eat pork and be proud. We have a right to reach for the water bottle instead of a diet soda and be proud. We have a right to be proud of our figure. We were born with a healthy body, and we have the right to maintain it. And then show it off if we so please.

Just because our BMI's aren't off the charts doesn't make us sickly.

Sorry, not sorry that I'm not fat. Sorry, not sorry that thin/skinny is the ideal of beauty. I guess I can truly say this, Healthy = Beautiful.

Being able to run without shortness of breath in the first few feet because of my weight is beautiful. Being able to jump is beautiful. Being able to touch my toes is beautiful. Being able to lift at least half my bodyweight is beautiful. Being able to survive in nature is beautiful, Etc, etc.

So yes, paste pictures and fill commercials with girls who look like me. Thin, running, laughing, eating, jumping, smiling, and modeling. It's the ideal image of beauty.

Because Healthy = Beautiful.

And we're not apologizing for it.

[ConsultantIsBack]

There's always someone jelly ready to cut down others. Fit guys get fitshamed too lol routinely basic pink anon bitches on gag do it lmao. Attractive celebrities too, you can have a perfect body but there's always going to be someone ready to hate on you.
You just gotta be the best you can and redeem all the benefits and who cares about haters giving up opportunities in life :)

[Unapologetic-1]

Haters gonna hate LOL

[ConsultantIsBack]

@Unapologetic-1 haha yeah fr

[Grungenoreos]

I love your... Opinions lmao

[ConsultantIsBack]

@Grungenoreos Thanks :)

[CHARismatic110]

Sooo you tell people to stop skinny shaming while fat shaming. Oh, ok. How bout we stop body shaming in general k? You don't need to bash others to get your point across. It's unnecessary. Oh and I'm clearly not thin but I can run and jump with the best of them. And the only reason why I can't touch my toes is because of my boobs.

[Sunflower19]

This!!!

[RetroDreamerXD]

How'd I fat shame? By being happy that I'm not fat? By taking pride in the fact that I'm physically fit?

[CHARismatic110]

And you can be proud of that! By all means, be fucking proud! But if you don't see anything wrong in the way you wrote this then that's a problem. Oh and for the record, I don't eat pork either. Never have. So that's one more X off the list.

[RetroDreamerXD]

Props on not eating pork.

Honestly, I don't see anything wrong with how I wrote my take. It's just a matter of how people take it and interpretate it.

[CHARismatic110]

It comes off as very bitchy and condescending.

[RetroDreamerXD]

It's just a matter of how it's taken.

[CHARismatic110]

True, and that's how I took it.

[Grungenoreos]

I eat pork and I am far from fat.

[CHARismatic110]

@Grungenoreos ok.

[DivaMonae]

Tell em'!

[CHARismatic110]

@DivaMonae 😘😘

[Realistic07]

I can agree with your statement to a fault. Yea it is true that people need to stop shaming others for apperance but the reality is simply that others should not judge others. Your statement was that " Sorry, not sorry that thin/skinny is the ideal of beauty. I guess I can truly say this, Healthy = Beautiful." But that as you know is not true in every case. But thinness is not inherently the ideal beauty people are beautiful when they except themselves and even larger people can be beautiful also thinness dosent always equal health in many cases medically and psychologically thinness actually equals non health. I mind you that its not in every case but for bulimics, anorexics, protean deficient, and those who suffer from some rare issues thinness is the equivalent of non health. That being said though there are many whom are thin naturally due to habits formed or simply just luck of the genetic draw but in no way are thin people any more beautiful than others. Even with that being stated the issue really comes down to self image and how people perceive themselves as to the world around them. People who do struggle with weight both in the thin concept and in the large concept often are plagued by their own minds and often have feelings of low self worth which creates self hate and in turn creates blind judgment/ resentment to those that are different physically. Scocial bias also plays a roll in creating negative tigmas both for the thin and for the large and not only relating to weight but also to race, gender, sexuality, and general scocial status. Society can be in many ways to many different people which is why we must grow to except one another beyond the superficial things such as in this case pertaining to weight. The other issue is the concept of malace we create malace by acting better than others or being overly prideful when the reality is we actually often more than not envy tose who are different. Thin people may envy larger people for being able to eat what they may without so much worry over the gain large people often envy thin people because of their ability to lose weight but often these are simply blind assumptions. The reality often more than not is that those who are thin work very hard to be and stay thin and those who are large are often not large by choice simply due to genetic faults, or habits that have developed from young age by their parents there are struggles on both sides.

[Realistic07]

The sad part is when we something negative said about us people often seek vengeance which in turn creates more malice and more problems for both sides. Untill people learn to take the words and realize that they are said do to a person just growing tiers of the own struggles and untill we learn to take the negatives as strength and insted of acting in anger we act in love for the one that hurts us untill that the changes will never come and society will stay judgmental. I have been insulted for being me plenty of time! es but i do not spread that hate I simply try to understand the mentality of those that do hate so as to help them in their own struggles and in turn I help myself by becoming stronger in who I am and even often gain apologies from those who spited me and a new friend. So why hate when things are already so difficult for everyone insted seek understanding and in turn love for others as well as love for ones self. Well that's my two cents in it anyways.

[Grungenoreos]

Damn. Thats a lot. Anyways I am skinny and often considered a twig that can be snapped in half. But at least I am healthy. I make sure that I consume all my vitamins, protein, carbs, etc. To stay healthy (I am nutrition obsessed.) At least I actually lift weights, squat, and can run a mile in under 7:21 without getting wheezy and exhausted. But ya apparently no one would ever consider me sexy because I dont have nice tits and ass. I have nothing... So i ain't surprised no guy has ever thought I was sexy. Maybe cute, but thats it. I look like a 12 year old with boobs and a face of a 16 year old

[Realistic07]

@Grungenoreos well that's a bummer and a real shame because thin women can be just as sexy as larger women and visa versa. People often misconstrue sexyness with some kind of body type and the reality is that all women are beautiful in my book ad all women can be sexy and radiate sexuality. Keep in mind sexy is a concept that is more so of mindset more than it is of body type. Any one and this goes for guys to can be sexy because sexyness comes from confidence and personal strength and that often radiates outwardly which is what sexyness is the outward representation of ones personal confidence and allure. So anyone can be sexy as long as hold those traits at a high in the moments in which they mean to do so. I'm sure you are plenty attractive but you can't put yourself down like that because it's in the attitude about yourself. I'm sure if you were just a bot more comfortable and confident with yourself you'd hit that sexy note you would love to have.

[Realistic07]

Often more than that though that confidence comes with time, age, and experience so just give your mind some time to develop itself.

[Grungenoreos]

Thing is I was very confident once a upon a time. My parents sugar coated how beautiful I am and being 12-14 I liked what I saw in the mirror. But that changed when I was always constantly bullied. I was often called ugly or just okay looking by both guys and girls. No guy I liked liked me back and girls and guys included would say that I had no ass like it was a bad thing. I never knew it was or that it even mattered at that age or why guys liked butts and breasts. But then I learned why and how the more wider your hips are in comparison to your waist and the bigger your bum (in proportion to your body) the more attractive your body is. I won't go into details but science backs it up.

[Grungenoreos]

I like my mind though. I love learning. My mind is something I am confident in. I like learning about logistics and being rational. I like math and science. I also love the history, philosophy, human behavior studies, etc. My mknd is still developing and there is a lot more to learn but my mind is confident in all that I have learned

[Realistic07]

@Grungenoreos baby girl I'm going to tell you straight there is a lot you need to before you have real confidence. To your parents you are their angel their beauty their love in no way will you ever be flawed. So parents tell you those things and build you up and make you feel good almost like holding gold. Then you grow up a bit and realize that others can be cruel hearts, and hateful, and only want to bring you down so you think the gold you held is fool's gold and you toss it asside. The hard part about confidence is that it's not that you don't know what it is the hard part is identifying real confidence from fake confidence. People look in the mirror to see themselves and they look at their body and judge instantly they say to themselves I'm not good enough, or not pick about just these stupid little details, or try to find flaws for what that's not confidence that's not loving yourself. Then there are people who are afraid. Part two coming up one sec.

[Realistic07]

Their afraid to look inside for the answers afraid to ask themselves the questions because they fear they may not like what they find if they look. In turn and time that fear becomes anger, sadness, pain, and if let go undelt with at times death. Those fearful people often become insecure in themselves and in turn to fill the whole in their hearts lash out at others, make fun of others, hurt others, kill others, crush dreams all in the hopes to fill the whole and for a moment just forget that they feel empty because they won't face themselves inside. Highschool and your age group there is a lot of that insecure kids that just want to fill that void, just want to be seen, or heard, or just not hurt for a moment and with that comes gossip, and insults, rudeness, and pain. There is truth in the saying misery loves company and it dose because being miserable sucks so why not spread the suck they say. Third part coming up.

[Realistic07]

What's really crappy is that good people like you get caught in the crossfire of their insecurities and get told that your less than, or not beautiful, or ugly, or fat, or to thin. Hell they will get at anything they can just to spread the suck around and that creates more insecurity and more suck. That being said a confident person knows not to listen to the words of others, knows that confidence dosent come from what others say or what their parents say or even what the world says confidence comes by looking inside and finding out who you are beyond what others may think. That journey can be scary sometimes but when done creates this amazing quality to a person, and it's that same quality that begins to leak out like a wild river in to an ocean, and suddenly people attract to it like a moth to the flame. Suddenly the problems just aren't so big and the world is a smaller more manageable place to be even how others perceive that confident person the old opinions fade away. Part four

[Realistic07]

Suddenly that confident person is amazingly beautiful and even sexy, and perceived as smart, or funny, or good. But the truthfully confident don't let that go to their heads they just give thanks for who they are and finding themselves. You are beautiful, and smart, and funny, and kind, and good, and when your ready to be even sexy. As for science study better because beauty is different all across the world from tribes who think long neck are beautiful so they add rings to their necks to elongate it, to places and culture's that admire breast, or butts, or hair, or feet, or obesity, and yes even thinness. Beauty historically is truthfully in the eye of the beholder which means beauty is inside and what we as people make of it. You are beautiful beyond what you may think and all you need to do is look inside to find it after that others will know you are because you'll radiate it like a flame radiates light. Part five

[Realistic07]

That's confidence and if you use it welland, and learn to forgive, and let go of the past pain, and even help those that did you wrong you'll see how fast things change. It takes time though so don't be so hard on yourself and don't listen to others opinions of you because you are beautiful and all of those good things you just need to find it in yourself to know it's true. Take time to grow and mature I'm sure you'll find your way.

[Realistic07]

Hey I would continue here but just add me and I'll follow you so we can message if you want because i want a bit more time to talk with you and help you in any way I can or even just get to know a new soul. just know what I say is true and you'll be fine.

[DivaMonae]

If there was a MH for mytakes you deserve it 👍

[Realistic07]

@DivaMonae thank you for your complement but id rather not get a reward and know i helped someone which is the great thing about the mytake system as it is. being able to help one another is humanity's last great gift and if we did it more and expected less or even nothing in return as humanity we would probably not have many of the issues we see in the word today and ultimately not have young people who feel so broken, lost, and beaten by the world. We wouldn't have so much hate that we could fill the ocean with it or so much sadness that the world only ever looks at the darkness in humanity

[Realistic07]

its a hope and a helpful hand that can cure that, but i fear at times there are so few hands willing to reach out and touch faith just to help one another and that is when as humans and as a world we really do fall sadly and in the great words of an amazing mind "This is the way the world ends. Not with a bang but a whimper. (T. S. Eliot, The Hollow Men)".

[CosmicallyCombined]

I’m not even thin or skinny and there was a time during college where I interned at a very prominent corporate business as a contract specialist. I was on a team full of six women including our boss and one man. When I first got there, my boss and one of my coworkers would CONSTANTLY make comments about my body referring to me as “the skinny girl.” The thing is: I am FAR from skinny. I have hips, a**, and tits but because I am smaller than them with a smaller frame than them, they automatically categorized me as skinny. My former boss was very obsessed with body image because she was chubby as a kid in addition to being a Cancer survivor who had a double mastectomy and a hysterectomy so femininity and body image was constantly on her mind. I empathized with her but still her comments were unprofessional and inappropriate. Like one time, I was walking to my cubicle with a large sandwich from the meeting room and she said, “Gosh, that sandwich is even bigger than you!” Another time she made some random comment like “No brownies for the skinny girl!” when the male on our team brought in some brownies from his mother in law. The other woman, Tammy, referred to me as “little girl” although I was a grown adult so I had to tell her, “I’m not a little girl. I’m a grown woman with life experience. Stop calling me that.”

So you do have a point. There are a lot of females out there who do not take care of their bodies and do nothing about the excessive fat accumulating on their figures then try to make subliminal, condescending comments towards women who aren’t as big as them. Those women need to stop worrying about our bodies and fix their own. Focusing on my physique isn’t going to fix a bigger woman’s struggles when she’s in the dressing room.

[RetroDreamerXD]

Thank you for understanding. I'm glad you didn't let any of the negativity get to you. Just keep doing you keeping your head up.

[DivaMonae]

Agreed and focusing on overweight/obese women isn't going to fix a smaller girls struggles.

[CosmicallyCombined]

@DivaMonae Passive aggressive intention? What’s the point of your useless comment? If you were being passive aggressive and attempting to be subliminal, me simply sharing my experience doesn’t mean I focus on the struggles of overweight/obese of bigger women. Nor does it mean that smaller WOMEN (not girls, WOMEN) try to focus on overweight/obese women in order to fix their problems.

The gist is that overweight/obese women or females with larger frames who can’t meet their weight goals should stop fit shaming and obsessing over the physical blessings that women who have less body fat possess.

[burlen]

I have no hate towards skinny girls nor do I consider them less-deserving of affection. However, I am more attracted to girls with wide hips and thick thighs like the ones shown in the pictures below.

By the way, skinniness is not fitness, and fitness is not healthiness. You can be skinny, that does't mean you are fit. Likewise, you can be fit, that doesn't mean you are healthy. That's basic Physical Education 101 taught in week one.

Can I see more of these, please?:
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[Aloneyloneloner]

Perfect example of skinny shaming.

[RainbowFanGirl]

Yep.

[redeyemindtricks]

Uh-huh.

And I bet you think a naturally slim girl would actually look like THAT if she gained 30 or 40 lbs, too. Ahahahahaa

Are you familiar with the phrase "nerd-soft"? Or, to a lesser extent, "dad bod"?
THAT is what we naturally slender girls would look like at the weight of the girls in these pics. Trust me, it ain't pretty.

[ThatRaccoonGirl]

Just because he likes curvier girls, doesn't mean he's skinny shaming. It's like saying I like apples and you automatically assume I hate oranges. Everyone has their own ideal type. Skinny people just have to accept NOT everyone thinks skinny is beautiful.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[RainbowFanGirl]

@ThatRaccoonGirl Exactly, and if he liked skinny girls, it wouldn't mean he was fat shaming. You basically summed up what I wanted to say. :)

[burlen]

@ThatRaccoonGirl Brilliant. Well-said. Thank you for standing up to the bigots.

[Grungenoreos]

This makes me feel bad because I know I will never look like these women. I would kill to look like them. I have a body of a 12 year old boy with boobs and it sucks because no one thinks you are anything more than a 4 unless they count your face. Then I would get a 6. Thing is I am healthy though. I haven't gotten sick in for ever, I follow a good plan to make sure I get all the vitamins, calcium, protein, calories, carbs, fat, etc. I need. I work out regularly which includings sprinting and lifting wieights as well as squatting. At 5'2 a good weight is 104-130 and I am 114 pounds... Sucks because I know personality is what matters most but I dont want to be with a guy that can call me sexy without lying. I dont like any sugar coated bullshit.

[Grungenoreos]

I have yet to meet a guy that thought skinny was beautiful. All I get told is (by guys and girls included) is that guys don't like that shit and all my research points to the fact that the waist to hip ratio is important when it comes to physical attraction. I am not talking being skinnier but simply having a waist to hip ratio that is closer to.7 or smaller. U know hips 10 inches bigger than your waist? Mine is 9 1/2 but it doesn't look like it because of the way my hip bones are set

[burlen]

@Grungenoreos I agree with you remarks. Just as there many guys with interest for girls with wide hips & thick thighs so too are guys with interest for girls with slim figure. As someone who has dated both types of female figures, slim girls are very manoeuvre in and off bed compared to their wide-hips counterparts. I'm sure most guys agree with this assessment.

[Grungenoreos]

Would you rather get with a girl that was very sexy looking, with wide hips and a big bum or a girl that was small and easy to maneuver around in the bedroom? Be honest.

[Grungenoreos]

I am trying to gain weight in hopes of being curvier. 130 I believe is my weight limit. I ain't skinny. I am in the middle of my weight zone at 5'2 (im 114 lbs) but imma see what adding 12 pounds will. I am now eating 5 meals a day with snacks... So far i only gained 8 ounces. I ate a lot to begin with sooo. Plus I have a very healthy fat percentage... It just doesn't show like its suppose too.

[burlen]

@Grungenoreos Visually, I'd rather prefer a girl with wide hips and thick thighs and a pretty face. That's just my preference. However, if a skinny girl has a pretty face while a wide-hips girl has a less pretty face, I'd go for the skinny girl with a pretty face and cool personality. Do not get so anxious about amassing weigh. There are millions of guys who like girls of your figure.

[Grungenoreos]

I suppose I am either looking in the wrong places or I am just simply in a region where curvy is very much idealized and desired.

[DivaMonae]

@Aloneyloneloner
He isn't skinny shamming it's just his preference. He didn't day skinny women were ugly or below women with curves it's just his preference and everyone has one.

Now I can agree that if women like that were all you see on TV then that is skinny shaming. But it's not and women that are skinny are also showed and are seen as beautiful. It's what he likes just like some guys like skinny girls, some like athletic girls, some like overweight girls. As long as you're not putting someone else down it's not shaming.

Saying skinny women are beautiful is perfectly fine because they are but saying they equal beauty simply isn't because they aren't the only ones and he QA was speaking for everyone. The opinion owner never said that curvy or thick girls equals beauty that's the fine line between the two.

[burlen]

@DivaMonae Thanks for putting some sense into these narrowed-minds who cannot tolerate the preferences of others.

[Aloneyloneloner]

I'm not narrow minded you just have ridiculous expectations

[Nathaniel1316]

"Sorry, not sorry that thin/skinny is the ideal of beauty. I guess I can truly say this, Healthy = Beautiful."

Thin people are not ideal beauty. Beauty is the very own perception of the person viewing it. In your eyes thin people are beautiful. In my eyes thin people are beautiful. In another's eyes larger people are beautiful. In a friend's eyes people who have no meat are beautiful, see my point?
Healthy is beautiful, but skinny doesn't mean healthy.
My friend is skinny and he can't even run to his male box.
I'm on the "at risk of obese" part on the BMI scale, but I run often, exercise, and I have more muscle than body fat. If my friend and I had a fitness competition he would surely lose and it has nothing to do with his weight.
Also BMI's mean Sh** to me for the simple fact they only do height and weight.
A 5'3 athletic trainer who weighs 175 and 85% of that is muscle would be considered obese to a yoga instructor who is 5'11 and weighs 123 and 35% of that is muscle she just carries her fat well.
Assuming both have healthy life styles neither are unhealthy, but the BMI chart considers one Obese and the other Underweight.

I prefer thinner people when it comes to dating, I encourage self love and body positivity and in no way condone that being overweight in a none healthy way.

But a basic BMI is shit and Skinny doesn't mean healthy.

[funny_strange_man]

@Nathaniel1316 All the BMI takes in account is height and weight regardless of activity level.

[Nathaniel1316]

@funny_strange_man I know that's why I don't care for them. They can most definitely be helpful and shouldn't be ignored, bit they also shouldn't define if you're healthy or not.

[funny_strange_man]

@Nathaniel1316 here is my argument against BMI. Take 3 guys who live in the same neighborhood on the same street take the same route to work and from work. They work at the same place doing the same job. They start work and end work the same time. Guy 1 eats Los of bacon with breakfast, goes to places like in - N - Out Burger, Checkers, McDonalds for lunch and if he brings his lunch it includes twinkies, chips, oreos pop etc. When he gets home has a big dinner that includes lots of fried foods, 12oz steak, lots of starch etc not all on the same da. Sits in front of the TV while having dinner. Guy 2 eats oatmeal, cream of wheat with fruit, sometimes has bacon with breakfast. Lunch might go out to have fast food once in a while but for the most part brings his lunch which may include swiss rolls, oranges, apples, carrots, chips, juice etc. When he gets home has a sensible dinner which may include, salad, shrimp, rice etc. He may or may not go for a walk after dinner but depends on if he

[funny_strange_man]

feels like it or not. Guy 3 eats oatmeal, cream of wheat, egg whites etc with fruit may have a cup of tea or juice. For lunch brings his lunch each day which may include fruits and vegetables, water, Mediterranean wraps, nuts, yogurt, etc. For dinner has lean meats and lean fish with vegetables, rice etc. He mainly likes working out by going on hikes, swimming, bicycling, lifting weights etc. Guy 1 eats unhealthy and does not go out of his way to exercise/workout. Guy 2 eats somewhat health and works out once I'm a while. Guy 3 clean eats and exercises/worksout on a regular basis. All of their BMI's are the same since they are all the same height and weight. That is why I do not go by BMI at all.

[Nathaniel1316]

@funny_strange_man Yes, I agree with that I said I don't think BMI is a good way to determine health the way OP claims.

I believe I stated BMI doesn't equal healthy just being in normal range.

[Grungenoreos]

I would rather be curvy tbh but apparently I have a good bmi and I know its accurate because I am athletic and loooove exercising and am obsessed with eating healthier which is eating MORE of all the good stuff... But damn my shape sucks. I look like a 12 year old boy with B cup boobs. At least I have the highest mile score in my class as well as for push ups and the pacer test

[Nathaniel1316]

@Grungenoreos I feel like you do enough exercise in one day that's me for two years. Just kidding, but no it's great that you eat healthy and do so much work also don't worry about your body you'll fill out and if you don't that honestly doesn't as long as your happy with yourself because a partner you want in life will love your body either way.

[DivaMonae]

Preach 👏

[sdistotallyme]

Thank you! This "fat acceptance" movement is just plain asinine. Im noticing more politically correct commercials with "large marges" in bikinis and I make a mental check point NOT to support that company that's bends over to be PC. Sorry but not "every" body is beautiful.

In my experience big people can either be cool or are insecure loudmouth dbags. They use PC protection to badmouth and bully fit people in a pathetic effort to make themselves feel better. I've also met big people who have awesome personalities and I accept those people wholeheartedly. However it's rare to find big people who are in between.

I know some people are more genetically predisposed to put on the pounds. However that is to a certain EXTENT. I used to be a pro MMA fighter and I've met heavyweights who were big in the midsection but still VERY athletic. They moved fast, had good cardio and really did train hard. The word fat doesn't even cross my mind with those guys. You could just tell by how they walk. However many other heavy people really are just lazy. Time for fat scooters...

[DivaMonae]

Yeah I agree with you everybody isn't beautiful and we shouldn't act as though it is that's why it also applies to saying Healthy=Beautiful because you can be as healthy as you want but it won't necessarily make you beautiful and the same goes for being obese. Your face isn't the rest of your body.

[Grungenoreos]

@DivaMonae true. Not everyone really is and I see plenty of healthy people who aren't actually beautiful. But I think everyone is beautiful in the essence that they are all beautiful in their own way

[vonasaurus]

i agree with one statement in this whole take: healthy is beautiful. but healthy and skinny are not mutually exclusive, and women of any size can be beautiful.

now, before you go putting words in my mouth, i think of weight loss in terms of health. on top of the obvious toll that age and injury take on anyone, i have thyroid issues: i'm on a first-name basis with the staff at my local blood clinic, have to watch what i eat more than the average person, and take pills every day to keep from blowing up like a beached whale. but i've lost almost 20 pounds since my birthday in February.

for the first time ever, i'm seeing results and, of that, i am proud. that said, i will never shame another person for not doing the same. weight loss is hard work, and i'm more than happy to provide encouragement or help if someone asks me for it. but, at the end of the day, it's not my place to put someone down.

is fat really the worst thing you can be? what about shallow, vindictive, cruel? an obese person can lose weight, but you can't fix someone who's ugly inside.

-von

[DivaMonae]

Very wise 👍

[Fibbett]

Did it ever occur to you that out are projecting your insecurities on to a stupid ad? The point of programs like that is for people who want to look like that, or at least in the general area of that: this ad is NOT FOR YOU.

Where does it say "if you don't look like this, stay away from the beach, tubby!". It doesn't. This ad a IS NOT FOR YOU. The world doesn't revolve around you.

Why show that woman? Because of course they're going to use their best results to what their program is capable of.

I'm sorry, but it's WRONG to say that the bar a MUST be moved down to your level. If you really are happy with the way you are, why do you seem to have so much contempt for people who want to push themselves further? How can that possibly hurt you?

I'm sorry, but as someone who's life has improved so much since I got into fitness, I'm sick of people acting like there is something wrong with improving my life. Like somehow, me wanting to push myself is offensive to them, because they're concerned that they'll be insecure or something.

If you really, truly meant what you said about being happy the way you are, you wouldn't be upset. Because this ad would have NOTHING to do with you.

[DivaMonae]

Took the words right out of my mouth 👌

[BellePepper]

You know what would be REALLY amazing? If people could write a body positive take that didn't put down ANY body type. You cannot sit here and say "Omg u guyz! I'm so upset people are mean to me about my weight and how I'm perceived" so instead of saying "we should accept ALL bodies and individuals" you're just saying "You need to respect MY body but fuck all those other people"

Like if something makes YOU feel angry and upset *why* would it be okay to make someone else feel angry and upset? I do not understand.

[RetroDreamerXD]

I'm not dissing other body types. I'm just saying I'm happy that that's not my body type. I'm proud of my body type and I don't need people who differ coming along acting like a bitch and hating.

You're welcome to write a take on accepting all body images. No one's stopping you.

[BellePepper]

You're not? Really? Because it sure reads like you are. Oh? So because of hoe YOU have chosen to behave I'm a bitch? That's really logical.

YOUR take is supposed to be about accepting all types. That's what you're trying to tell people so why aren't you living up to what you're telling people? I don't understand. Why can't you be proud of yourself without tearing other people down? Are you not tall or strong enough on your own?

[RetroDreamerXD]

I'm not calling you a bitch. Let me clear up some things for you.

1. The bitches who judge hatefully because I'm not their size.

2. My take is supposed to be about what I want it to be about.

3. My post is titled: "Stop Skinny Shaming..." Not "Hey let's love each other yayyyy world!"

4. People have a right to be proud of what they've got, fat or thin. And I'm saying people aka bitches shouldn't hate because they got what they want.

[RetroDreamerXD]

I'm also not tearing anyone down. If I wanted to, I could easily. Me tearing others down is me saying" All y'all ugly except for me." Which is not what I said at all. Me being proud of who I am is tearing you down?

[BellePepper]

Really you're not? Because " I don't need people who differ coming along acting like a bitch and hating." sounds and AWFUL lot like you calling me a bitch.

Is this how like you're not shaming people for their body types but you really are? If you have a problem with what you're saying to the point that you cannot stand up for your words, you should not be saying them.

[RetroDreamerXD]

That's irrelevant. Everything I've said I mean. And I'm standing by them.

I honestly wasn't calling you personally a bitch. Why would I? You did nothing to me. I was talking about the bitches who come along who aren't like me (body wise) and they criticize and make it seem as though I shouldn't be happy to be me.

[BellePepper]

So you're upset that people are mean to you then you want to be mean to them?

[DivaMonae]

So blunt and so awesome ✋

[Synh6416]

I get your point but this take was horribly written. You make it sound like there's this war on skinny people when you and I and every other woman know that a fat woman has it way harder than skinny women. I'm not fat or skinny, but I've been severely underweight and I know I didn't have it nearly as hard as fatter women.

Also, if you did any bit of research, you'd know the BMI chart doesn't mean shit. It's a chart invented in the 19th century to calculate the ideal (not healthy) weight of white men and white women. Your BMI can be off the charts, but BMI is bull because it doesn't take into account muscle mass or ethnicity or metabolic rate, all which determine how much fat on your body is a healthy fat. You sound very high and mighty when you have zero reason to be. My BMI is 30 and I'm 5'3, but I played soccer for 17 years and ran track for 4 and did marching band for 6 and I still play sports and go to the gym. My dietician calculated mine and it came out that all that combined with my muscle mass and ethnicity meant that my BMI is actually a healthy one.

Also, Beauty=Healthy, but Skinny does not. So just because you're skinny doesn't necessarily mean your healthy just like being 20 pounds overweight doesn't necessarily make you unhealthy. I run perfectly fine at my weight, too, and I'm not 140lbs. If you really were talking about 'beauty', you'd encompass all women, not just the skinny ones. But you're not. You being 'skinny' doesn't make you beautiful, either. It's your personality. And if this Take reflects any part of your personality, I don't think I could necessarily say I find it beautiful.

Yeah, I know, you don't care. But hey, just my opinion.

There's no shame in being skinny.
There's no shame in being fat.
There's no shame in being yourself.

[ManOnFire]

This is a joke, right? It's "plus size" women that get shamed more than anyone else, while skinny girls with thigh gaps and flat chests are glorified as the most beautiful women, and make it on TV and magazine covers far more than real women with meat on their bones.

[RetroDreamerXD]

That's the equivalent of saying men getting raped is a joke right? No it's not a joke. Believe it or not it happens. Bullying and harassment and getting made fun of is real. It happens.

[ManOnFire]

But not nearly to the degree that "fuller" women have to face. Your argument is like a rich person crying about how hard it is to be rich. I generally try to be civilized here, but this one really did it for me. This is just bullshit.

[Aloneyloneloner]

Not a joke. Skinny girls are ALWAYS getting put down. Every guy I've ever known wants a thick curvy woman who is at least moderately chubby

[Aloneyloneloner]

Guys get shamed a lot too if theyre skinny

[RainbowFanGirl]

Why do people feel the need to put overweigh individuals down in order to bring skinny people up?

Agreed.

[funny_strange_man]

You make it seem like women who are skinny, toned, muscular, chubby, bbw, ssbbw are not real

[lumos]

"Real women"... pffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff

[Amanda2]

No I am slim with curves and I get comments on my weight A LOT. Even if I remain the same weight, I lose a few, I gain a few. People keep commenting on it.

[Grungenoreos]

@Amanda2 same, people always comment how my body isn't that great and I need to gain weight... Its depressing. I dont date guys in high school simply because I dont need the negativity that comes with immature boys who are so fuckin shallow and care so much about tits and ass

[Grungenoreos]

Not to mention that I have a good fat percentage of 22% and am in the muffle of my weight range for my height... I don't know whats wrong except that maybe Ill be one of those women thats sprouts out more in their twenties. I heard stories of jt

[Amanda2]

@Grungenoreos it's sad, but that is the reality. Hopefully these people will grow up soon

[zombiebabe]

true

[RainbowFanGirl]

I'm overweight and I don't eat pork. I'm overweight and the only thing I drink is water. I can run, jump, and do everything that you can, all while losing weight in the process.

I'm sorry, but this take was not well thought out. You could have executed this take is a much better way. From my perspective it seems that you are bringing down fat and overweight people in order to bring skinny individuals up. I never understood why people feel the urge to put down other body types in order to bring others up. And I know, overweight people do it too. Both body types have the potential to be attractive...

You could have did this take sooo much better. :( I got fat-shaming vibes. Sorry.

[Grungenoreos]

I am skinny and this take didn't do much for me because science and the guysin my life are proof that curvy is sexy. Not the fat kind of curvy. Its just i am thin (naturally!!) and have very little defined curves. I make sure my 5'2 self consumes at least 2,000 calories a day (i use an app that scans product bar codes and all the nutrition shit) and does booty and hip exercises... But nothing 😳

[RainbowFanGirl]

@Grungenoreos I have that app too. :) Bkth body types are beautiful though.

[DivaMonae]

What is there to be sorry for she's not sorry for offending anyone and you managed to say what you had to say without shaming someone in the process...

[RainbowFanGirl]

@DivaMonae I just felt like there was shaming that's all. :P

[fuqthegovt]

Skinny shaming? I didn't know there was such a thing unless you were a scrawny guy. Fat shaming I'm all for since I find it disgusting and gross and good fodder for jokes. But a skinny girl? As long as your ribs are not showing and your hip bones don't look like they are about to pop through your skin (my second wife was anorexic) odds are I will think you look absolutely delicious. I'm one of those guys that don't care much if you have a small butt and boobs (though I won't complain if you gain 20 lbs and it all goes there).

[RetroDreamerXD]

I feel like it's really just fat girls hating making it seem like its a bad thing that some girls are thin/skinny fit and glamourized.

[DivaMonae]

So you take pride in making fun of a fat person? Do you enjoy putting down unattractive people or even better how about an anorexic girl?

It's one thing to disagree with someones life style or to be concerned about their health. But you seriously feel good about yourself putting someone else down... Good for you 👎

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

Skinny shaming happens to girls all the time and I myself have experienced it. If you don't have enough ass and tits, and if your BMI is below 20, it seems you're "too skinny" to guys smh.

[helloitsmethere]

This made me feel better. I am so tired of people thinking I don't eat or have some kind of eating disorder just because I am skinny. I am sorry I have a naturally fast metabolism that can't slow the fuck down? YES WE HAVE INSECURITIES TOO! Also, don't give me shit about how I am not allowed to have insecurities because 'I have the most praised body'. Skinny isn't what it seems and I have gotten a ton of shit for being that way. I'm actually afraid of being in a bikini because of some comments made by a group of guys a few years ago...

[RetroDreamerXD]

Thank you for understanding. And you shouldn't be afraid, because you do have something worth being proud of and if people want to dis you for it then oh well, keep doing you. Hurt people hurt people, especially if you've got something they want.

[DivaMonae]

Yeah you don't deserve any of that... But oversight people don't either and I don't think the as seems to get that.

[pavlove]

I do agree its the standards of beauty but i'm not sure if its the standard of sex appeal. kate upton, kim kardashian etc. seem fat to me by what i consider really thin but people seem to think they embody sexy (bad examples but you see what i'm getting at)

i think what it comes down to is that most people don't care as much about your feelings because you are thin and beautiful and most aren't. That's why you have to be thin and beautiful for you because we are living in an age of self esteem where if you make some feel bad and their self esteem goes dow--instead of aspiring to be more like you in this area they want to tear you down to their level and to feel the way they feel.

[adrianalima0]

LMAO if you think Upton and Kardashian are fat. They are as healthy as it gets.

[Oram52]

@adrianalima0 Kim Trashian dude really? Which part of her is original anymore? Lol

[99percentangel]

@Oram52 Kim may not be original but she's healthy and beautiful.

[pavlove]

@99percentangel see and this is our nation's youth (she's 17) girls are now aspiring towards a much thicker frame than when i was a kiddo and its being justified as being more "healthy" but if you look at the fittest women and female athletes they do not have nearly as much fat on them

[NedfromtheNed]

Agreed, pavlove

[99percentangel]

I'm seriously dying 😂😂 on how you think Kim Kardashian is fat I mean look at her i.dailymail.co.uk/.../...ke-a-24_1457340473349.jpg

[99percentangel]

I'm skinny, but that doesn't mean I'm going to fat shame people who aren't fat but thick.

[Grungenoreos]

I am healthy and in shape. I run and and I lift weights. Don't forget squats... Haha but I don't have curves and people ( guys and girls) notice that and comment how I should gain weight because I look like a 13 year old girl, body wise I mean. I make sure I eat all I need to, following this great eating plan but nothing. Sure I never get sick. Sure I can run do 26 push ups, sure I can run a mile without getting wheezy or a side stitch but I really wish I was curvy. Not the fat kind. Apparently its a scientific fact that the closer your waist to hip ratio is to.7 (10 inches apart or more) the more appealing to the male population you are. I am unfortunate to be deemed as completely non attractive body wise. I mean unless you dig chicks who are very short and small with no ass. Yet to meet someone who does. By the way I have a healthy weight. I am not underwieght.

[Oram52]

@Grungenoreos Hip to waist ratio has nothing to do with being curvy. Even slim body type can have same ratio. I don't like curvy bodies, I prefer slim, so do many other guys. Doesn't mean even curvier girls have an ass.

While your comment about being skinny, YOU'RE 17. Soon your body will change and hips will open up, in essence having a woman's body. You're younger than my sister and worried about hip to waist ratio.

You should be glad you're thin and not struggling with weight problems. Your body will become curvier really soon. Don't worry about it.

[Grungenoreos]

@Oram52 I haven't grown much at all in the past few years. I first got my monthly a couple weeks after I turned 12. I don't remember when exactly did I become 5'2 but all I know is that I got measured 5'2 in my gym class at the end of 8th grade and since than I basically been the same height. Big deal I am a quarter of inch more lmao at 17 1/2. I also can fit lots of my clothes from the past 4 years. The only exception is a bunch of my jeans from a year ago because a year ago I lost a bunch of weight and was fitting a size 1. I am back to how I was before I lost weight which is basically a size 3 and 4. Still not curvy. Funny thing is my waist to hip ratio is a.72 because its nine inches and three quarters apart so that isn't bad at all... Except it doesn't look like it and I think its because of where and how my hips are set. I have low set hips and a high waist... Low set hips as in the widest part of my hips are around the bottom part of my butt cheeks and my upper thighs.

[Grungenoreos]

I always thought the hip to waist ratio was what meant you were curvy or not. Science backs it up. I mean hourglass isn't the ideal body shape for no reason.

[Oram52]

@Grungenoreos Hourglass doesn't have to be curvy, the way guys mean it. Hourglass depends on genetics not size. And you mgiht not grow taller but your body will become more mature in next few years. Easy way to put it from a girl you'll become a woman. So don't stress or worry about it.

[pavlove]

@Grungenoreos i don't know why it's the ideal just because most women are hourglass ( i guess?) from a man's perspective, toothpicks tend to feel the best, look the best in dresses you buy them or they buy themselves, and just generally are capable of that runway model appearance that "curvy" girls aren't. It's like sort of chubby girls figured out a way to convince all girls to add a little fat to the ideal

[Grungenoreos]

No. U have to study more about the science behind it to know... I forget exactly what is is. But only 8.4% women are hourglass. Its when your hips are at least 10 inches wider than your waist and chest is at least 9 inches wider than waist. That gives the hourglass look because u go in and out the right way and is curvy unlike those fat girls that claim to be curvy just because they have bigger curves when really its how small your waist is in comparison to actually have that complete hourglass look

[pavlove]

@Grungenoreos ok NERD

[99percentangel]

@Grungenoreos funny how he calls you a nerd just becuase you're smarter then him and he's dumb smh.

[Grungenoreos]

Lol i am not a nerd. I dislike school just as much as the average person. I get As in some subjects, Bs in some, and sometimes get a C. Different years are difcerent too. Im your average student practically though. It is way easier to find out about body shape statistics and the science behind the female body and attraction. Its google hun.

[Grungenoreos]

Lmao @99percentangel right? Just because I know more about wha we were discussing doesn't make me a nerd. He just called me that cuz he felt dumb.

[Grungenoreos]

Curvy isn't being fat. Its a shape. A girl that is naturally curvy will still have her curves if she lost 30 pounds and became anorexic. Shell just look more pale, bony, and sickly. Being fat doesn't make u curvy. Its the width of your hips in comparison to your waist despite how large or tint you are

[pavlove]

@Grungenoreos @99percentangel you pesky teenagers...

[Grungenoreos]

Lol i am only a few months shy of being an adult. And I am just saying the truth. The reality is most guys to fund tooth picks like me "attractive".

[Grungenoreos]

To find out you do is a complete shock. I get told i should put on more weight and not by fat people. Fat people aren't curvy. Its all about proportions

[pavlove]

@Grungenoreos it all depends on how you define fat and tooth pics typically are tightest in my experience so I don't get how they're not the ideal

[Grungenoreos]

Its cuz we are smaller. So tell me, whats your definition of a tooth pic? Mine is someone who has no arse and basically has no defined waist despite being thin because their hips dont really go out much at all. I think fat is when you care excess fat. You can be skinny and fat though it isn't common. generally when you carry excess fat, your belly protrudes quite a bit and you are "chunky". It won't mean ur curvy. Skinny girls can be just as curvy. Its all about how defined ur waist is by the width of your hips

[Grungenoreos]

I dont know but apparently wide hips is a guy thing... I wouldn't understand why its ideal. All I know is that no guy i know would ever say big hips wasn't sexy. Maybe a flat arse or a big stomache but never wide hips

[Grungenoreos]

Having wide hips doesn't make you fat lol its the physique and shape. Wide hips is bone. Sure fat girls get widee but thats just fat, flabby skin. In fact the ideal isn't fat. its slender but curvy. The waist when it is defined. A waist doesn't look defined when ur hips basically dont go out much

[Grungenoreos]

I been told i look like a guy before. Not because of my face but because i have zilch curves. Omg dont lie and say u dont like curves. Curvy women aren't fatties. The ideal is hourglass when the woman is thin. Say a bust of 36, 24 inch waist, and 36 inch hips. Thats skinny and hourglass because of the width of hips and breasts in comparison to the tiny waist... But I guess its true some guys like my body type like u say u do. No ass or hips lmao

[pavlove]

@Grungenoreos This: 2.bp.blogspot.com/.../supermodel_alinacariu.jpg

Not this

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[pavlove]

@Grungenoreos the difference is subtle i guess but first girl to me should be ideal

[Grungenoreos]

Lol well i am neither. Im tiny and petite all over. I been told by some dudes on here that they think im a guy... Not surprising cuz i got nothing. Guys in real life have also told me I am way too skinny and that guys dont like their women like a stick... Fuck my life cuz i been consuming plenty of calories and exercising to change that. But nothing is happening. Yes I have a flat tummy and nice legs but I look nothing like either of those girls. I look like a 12 year old boy with a little boobage if you dont count my face.

[Grungenoreos]

The girl you think is more ideal is also curvy. she's got nice boobs and hips that go out

[pavlove]

@Grungenoreos yeah but to a point and I think a lot of guys would still choose Kim body

[Grungenoreos]

Ya well I am neither the first or second of each so sucks to be me. I got the body of a 12 year old boy with a little boobage. I guess ill learn to live with it and be single.

[Grungenoreos]

Oh and im not underweight. Im healthy but tiny and well i got no boobs or hips

[Grungenoreos]

By that I mean they aren't even worth mentioning since its all haedly even existent

[DivaMonae]

I very do much so care about the QA's feelings but she doesn't really seem to care about others herself. How about saying we all stop putting each other down and instead of doing the exact opposite.

Fighting fire with fire gets us nowhere.

[pavlove]

@DivaMonae nice sentiment but a little unrealistic

[babylips14]

All of the Kardashians' bodies=fake. Let's be realistic. They have millions of dollars to spend on liposuction, butt injections, and other procedures to give the illusion of a "perfect image". Very few Hollywood people nowadays are naturally beautiful. JLo is one of the few people who have a naturally curvy figure and a naturally beautiful face.

[Grungenoreos]

@babylips14 agree

[adrianalima0]

Kim Kardashian is healthy. I do not find her to be beautiful in any way however.

[Maxemeister]

"Because healthy = beautiful"
"Just because our BMI's aren't off the charts doesn't make us sickly"

I think you've antagonized and called unhealthy more than half the people on the planet and embarrassed skinny people everywhere. I don't hate skinny people. I hate people who r like this. This doesn't represent the skinny people opinion.

[RetroDreamerXD]

Your opinion.

[Maxemeister]

You called skinny healthy. Which means you're criticizing not only the overweight, but also AVERAGE SIZED PEOPLE. And calling them ugly.

And our BMI's aren't "off the charts" just because we choose to not starve ourselves and permanently ruin our reproductive systems.

But then again, might just be my opinion.

[RetroDreamerXD]

I said skinny/thin because those are the terms people use relatively to describe people who are not fat and overweight. And healthy is beautiful.

[Maxemeister]

Healthy CAN be beautiful. But also, did you know that someone can LOOK skinny and actually be fat and obese? Yeah, it's being fat on the inside.

Skinny is used to describe not average people, but people who are smaller than average, which unless that's your natural body shape, that's just ridiculous.

[RetroDreamerXD]

Healthy = Beautiful

[Maxemeister]

Really? So cutting out necessary food nutrients and carbs just to get your "goals" is beautiful?

Then beautiful is bullshit.

[RetroDreamerXD]

Obviously, if you are starving and you're weak af, then you're not healthy.

Hence Healthy is Beautiful.

[Lalala124]

Dude, you aren't listening to her.

[DixieforLife]

I totally understand your opinon and support what you say not what the mytake said

[Maxemeister]

@Lalala124 What do you mean, I'm not listening? I'm not a fan of what she's been implying. If you make a myTake, then you'd better check your facts god damnit else you're definitely subject to criticism.

@DixieforLife ALRIGHT! AMERICA!

[RainbowFanGirl]

I agree... Putting down overweight people doesn't help...

[Maxemeister]

@RainbowFanGirl And this time I'm on your side! Cmon! Let's hurl some bricks!

I'm always down for a good debate!

[Grungenoreos]

It is true though. You can be skinny but fat on the inside. that was me. I used to be thinner with more fat percentage and very weak. Like the kind of weak that couldnt go more than one lap on a track without feeling so horrible and couldnt even do one push up. Not to mention I actually had slightly bigger boobs at 104 then I do now at 114 . I am 5'2 by the way. I lost fat even though I gained weight

[Maxemeister]

@Grungenoreos Indeed. Fortunately, you don't seem to flaunt your body like she does so good on you!

[Grungenoreos]

Well... Thing is I dont flaunt it because well... I dont like my body. Apparently I still have no ass or hips even though now I am at healthy fat percentage and weight. Yeah I wish I looked more curvy tbh cuz science backs up why its ideal and what makes curvy more appealing. I believe it. All the boys flock towarsds the curvy girls at my school, single ones I mean

[Grungenoreos]

I am 17 but tbh I pass as a freshman. Its not just my height cuz I have a girlfriend who is 2 jnches shorter but looks my age cuz even though she is thin and fir, she has a booty and hips... And boobs...

[Maxemeister]

@Grungenoreos Well, look at it this way:

You're fucking 17 lol

Our bodies r all over the place under like 22. You can easily shape your body. Body types are genetic, yes, but with determination you can shape yourself as you please

[Grungenoreos]

Yeah its genetic. In my family we stop growing early. My Dad stopped growing at 15. My Mom at 17. My grandma on my Dad's side stopped growing at 14. My grandma on my Mom's side finished growing at 16. My Dad's sister finished growing at 14. My only female cousin on my Dad's side stopped growing at 13. Umm yeah... We stop growing early. My grandma specifically remembers herself being an hourglass at 14 when she finished growing (like the girl in the top, but with a smaller waist).

[Grungenoreos]

But yeah I still have hope. I have some members in my family that didn't fully develop until about 19. But its not the majority. Most people in my family grow fast and finish shortly

[Maxemeister]

@Grungenoreos Muhammad Ali has just died

:o

[Grungenoreos]

Wait what?

[Maxemeister]

@Grungenoreos It's true. He's dead.

:'(

[Grungenoreos]

I was just wondering why you changed the subject.

[Maxemeister]

@Grungenoreos Because that is news worth knowing lol

[Grungenoreos]

Yeah. Thats awfully sad. Reminds me... Maybe I should start praying for a woman's body cuz genetics wise, my family tends to finish growing earlier and I hope that isn't the case. 🙏🙏

[Maxemeister]

@Grungenoreos Do u think someone will answer your prayers?

[Grungenoreos]

I have hope lol

[MadeInAmerica]

I had no idea that only skinny/thin women can only do those things and others who are not fat and are considered healthy but have some shape to them can't do those things. Good for you for enjoying being skinny. Beauty is from within and based this I don't see much of it for other women not in your BMI class.

[RetroDreamerXD]

I said skinny/thin because those are the terms people use relatively to describe people who are not overweight. And healthy is beautiful.

[DivaMonae]

Yeah just ignore the part where he said beauty is within...

Regardless of someone's size they aren't more or less deserving.

[AleDeEurope]

Amen! It's crazy how they want us to glorify fatness and unhealthiness, and shame being thin and healthy. It's ridiculous.
What's even worse is that people are falling for this, giving power to fat women (it's only fat women that complain about fat shaming) who think they can threaten people if they don't accept fat and unhealthy bodies. The company that made that beach body ad has received bomb threats and other violent threats... ridiculous.
www.cnbc.com/.../...-over-bikini-billboard-ad.html

[DivaMonae]

No it's not people that are healthy also have an issue with fat shaming just as well with skinny shaming or any method of shaming.

Do you honestly think anyone has a right to put down someone elae more or less?

[AleDeEurope]

@DivaMonae But did I ever say that it's ok to shame others? :/

[DivaMonae]

Yes in a way you did you said "it's only fat women that complain about about fat shaming" as if they shouldn't like it's acceptable. Skinny women are the only ones that complain about skinny shamming but you didn't care to say that.

And also your beginning sentence is encouraging the QA while you never once mentioned that she did exactly that or say that it's wrong. So yeah you did.

It's one thing to agree that people should be healthy but she went beyond that and did the exact thing she said she wishes people didn't do to her.

[lumos]

You're right that skinny shaming is wrong but this take was executed very poorly and I feel like you're no better than those who shame thin women, due to the passive-aggressiveness in your take.
Plenty of thin people eat unhealthy, have no stamina and are not agile. You're stereotyping both thin and overweight people in this take.

[VicarioVivere]

There was a ton of venom in this take. Quite ironic.

[DivaMonae]

Bravo 👏

[Grungenoreos]

True!! Everyone is different. There are healthy, thin people and healthy and not so thin people. There are lots of thin people who dont eat healthy and aren't agile or in shape. And there are plenty of average weight and thick people who are agile and in shape. It all boils down really to fat and muscle percentage. A thin person can be smaller than a fat person but still be mainly full of fat and have less muscle than the fat person. It happens

[cinderelli]

How about stop shaming anyone... skinny can be healthy and a little chubby can also be healthy.. as long as you're eating right and taking care of yourself.. Fat people need to stop shaming skinny ones to feel better about their lazy asses.. and skinny people need to stop shaming anyone who's slightly big just because skinny is the beauty standard.. cuz it's not.. I am a naturally thin girl. and I seriously don't work for it.. I eat junk and sleep all the time because of my school.. but that doesn't give me a right to shame people who are not thin like me.. I am happy with my body.. and I let other be happy as well.. 😊😊✌

[DivaMonae]

👏👏👏

[cinderelli]

@DivaMonae thank you.. ☺☺

[Mesonfielde]

Ah, you're proud of being thin?

Can I be proud of being white? I mean, it literally takes just as much effort.

[RetroDreamerXD]

Hell yeah. Nothing wrong with having self-esteem.

[RetroDreamerXD]

But people have a choice of their weight.

[Josht11]

seriously it takes effort to eat proper nutrition and diet it doesn't take effort to be fat and have you never heard fat and proud criticize the landwhales.

[Mesonfielde]

@Josht11 Honestly I think it takes more effort to be fat than not.

I barely do anything to not be fat and yet I'm not fat.

[Curmudgeon]

You are YOUNG. Tell me how easy it is to maintain fitness when you get my age. Hint: It isn't.

[cavmanier]

What you said doesn't make sense. 2/3 of our country is overweight or obese. Very few people want to be overweight or obese, yet they are.

I think many doctors here often don't even tell patients to lose weight because they realize the odds of that happening are almost zero, even though it often puts their mortality as risk. It's an epidemic that there isn't a current remedy for. Mrs. Obama made childrens weight management her main focus as the first lady even because of how dire the situation is.

[Mesonfielde]

@cavmanier Hah, that's because the USA puts high fructose corn syrup in everything.

We don't have that sort of thing, so we aren't as likely to be overweight.

[cavmanier]

You probably have a better diet over there. Here it's pretty bad, at least at most restaurants and fast food places. A lot of people are busy and don't want to cook.

[ManOnFire]

@Mesonfielde Nice one!

[Mesonfielde]

@cavmanier I think it really is the lack of high fructose corn syrup. We still have coca cola and stuff, but that has sugar instead of corn syrup too. The worst thing is indeed McDonald's buns.

[Grungenoreos]

Where are you from? I want to got there. Also I hate being skinny because even though I am in shape (I work at it) I have very little curves. It seems boys my age really care a lot about big butts and ass and hips. They want flat stomache with big curves... Funny because I am 114 pounds at 5'2 and thats a good weight for my height (weight range 104-130). I have a 22% fat percentage... And people say I must gain weight... Oh well. Hopefully I will get curvier in my 20s. I heard of it happening. For now, no boyfriends for me. Too much negativity. Apparently I am not that attractive though my face is considered "cute". My body is ehhh.

[cavmanier]

@Grungenoreos You may think extremely curvy is what all guys want. I used to think pretty much all women wanted or preferred guys with very muscular bodies too. Right now the curvy body ideal is shown a lot in pop culture. It's a trend. That doesn't mean all guys or even a majority prefer the very curvy body, just like in reality most girls don't want very muscular guys. A lot of guys find your body attractive like it is currently. A lot of 17 year old guys are cautious (even brainwashed) of dating other 17 year olds because of their reputation and what others will think. In a few years, most guys won't care much about what their friends will think (because of no more high school) and they will start to interpret your looks based more on your looks instead of what your reputation is and what their friends will think.

[Grungenoreos]

@cavmanier I won't believe it until I see it. As for now I guess I should get used to being called a twig with no ass, a 12 year old boy with boobs. Funny because I really do try my best to take care of myself and develop my curves. A lot of women in my family are hourglass. It is a scientific fact that the waist to hip ratio is what really makes the female body more attractive. The closer it is to.7 or below, the more beautiful and feminine the figure looks... I won't go into detail but hourglass isn't the ideal body shape for no reason (even though apparently only 8.4% have it)

[cavmanier]

@Grungenoreos Do you know your waist and hip measurements? I bet there's a decent difference at your weight.

[Grungenoreos]

@cavmanier They constantly change. My waist always tends to flucuate between 25 and 26 1/2 inches. Trying to gain weight and getting it to go to the right place is hard since it out of your control. Anyways right now I am a 35-25 1/2-35. I dont look like it though. I am very skinny. One of my friends who supports my type of body posted up a take on how skinny girls can be curvy and what it looks like, one girl was my shape and damn did that photo get a lot of hate. Stick, too thin, tummy too flat, not curvy at all, looks anorexic, looks nasty, has flat hips, needs a sandwhich etc. People liked it the least.

[Grungenoreos]

@cavmanier oh and my hips flucate a lot too. When i was thinner, my hips were also smaller. But basically I am the same shape. I was initially 36-24 1/2-33 a year ago. I went to 36-25-33.75 in a few months of trying to get healthy (i was weak af and the skinny kind of fat)). Now I am 35-25-34.75 on an empty stomache. When i am full like now I am 35-25 1/2-35... Its weird but ya it changes a lot. Surprisingly a lot of people still think im not curvy

[Josht11]

@Grungenoreos can this thread just end pls.

[Mesonfielde]

@Grungenoreos You spend way too much time measuring yourself. That cannot be healthy.

[Grungenoreos]

Lmao this was over the course of a whole year actually. Also we get measured in swimming fitness every 2 months.

[Grungenoreos]

But i will admit I am very insecure. But i think I have a right to be. I have always been the loner and have had quite a few heartbreaks. Ya sure, they should be nothing. But to me they aren't because they were guys that mattered a lot to me. I now realize that its okay to be single and stay single. Im in the process of accepting myself as I am... Im not quite there yet of course

[Grungenoreos]

But ya in my aquatics and boating fitness class we get measured every two months. i started it last year so thats how I know what measurements tend to be a lot of the time. We have measurements goals and well thats just how it is in this class