This is a simple and quick mytake about, well to me I feel like calling it depression but I have been getting a lot of hate for doing that so lets call it a case of the blues . Cause I have been through it and still have it on occasion....
I suppose the question is why does it happen to me, did I do anything wrong? That is a yes and no question. No in the sense, that we cannot always control the variables of life and yes... well let me tell you
1. You need to stay busy
If there is anything I have learned the best way to get depressed is by doing nothing. Sure it is a great thought. I mean who would not say, would you like a month off from work, would you not take that? Of course anyone would! But I can guarantee that you will get depressed before the month is up. I can't explain it, but it just happens... For those that don't work, if you are not busy, it can be danger to fall into this, and you need to find something to stay busy with.
2. You need meaning and purpose
You could just go through life and just take it as a series of goals and just do what you feel like you should be doing. But why are you doing it? What gives you that drive everyday? It is something that is worth reflecting on and can help you to live each day to your fullest
3. You need friends and family
Specifically, you need people. I get that not everyone has friends or family but even without family, friends can be earned. Look around you, look at your workplace, on the bus, in your neighborhood. Potential friends can be anywhere. Here is a source that I have found extremely helpful meetup.com it works and it shows you people meeting up in your area with similar interests to you. The connection with people is important and it can help you when you need it the most.
4. You are important just the way you are
You may not think you are worth anything to people but you are, in more ways than you know. Just starting with age and gender, those two are important to others that share that with you. Then go into ethnicity, similar interests, similar problems.. etc the list could go on, my point is that every person has something to give back to others. You may not see it in the moment, but that's maybe because you were not looking for it. You would be amazed at what things people could need you for if you took the time to think about it. And it may not be easy to tap into places where you can help but they are out there, in volunteering and meetup.com or even just on the bus or street.
5. Your appearance does not matter in the grand scheme of things
Your appearance can attract people at the start but I will say that appearances have always tricked me. Sometimes pretty girls are not as fun in person and people that are not as attractive just happen to be the most interesting people I have met. It's about the person on the inside not on the outside. Don't focus on your appearance, focus on cleaning what's on the inside and sometimes sometimes, when you clean what's on the inside the outside will naturally clean itself too :) and a great quote from a classic song, I think fits perfectly here. "If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife So from my personal point of view Get an ugly girl to marry you" I don't take the word ugly so much as not as attractive as others. Remember that attraction also comes with the inside too.
In summary, learn to know the value of yourself and what you can do, because everyone is important, if you truly know your worth and your purpose in life, it is very very hard to get depressed
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