How could I learn to love or at least like my body? I'm so self conscious it makes my life very hard?

[Anonymous]

I've never really liked my body or looks. I mean sometimes I have good days when I think I'm fine but lately I've felt really miserable about my looks. I don't really wanna see anyone because I'm afraid everyone thinks I'm fat and ugly. I've gained some weight recently and it has made me very insecure. Although I didn't like my body when I was skinny, either. Now I'm just really self conscious and don't wanna go to the beach or be physical or anything like that. I'm dating a really nice guy but I'm afraid he would be grossed out by my body if he sees me naked. (He's always saying I'm gorgeous and he likes my curves, but I don't really buy it)

Anyway I would like to know if there is something I could do to learn to at least like my body? What could I do? Any help is appreciated :)

[cheeseburgermafia]

I don't think your problem is your body, since you said that you didn't like your body when you were thin either. So it's all in your head.

When you're with your man, remember that he's chosen you. Not the skinny things. Not even the average-weight girls. All those other girls are looking at you, wondering why he's with you. They're thinking up excuses to make themselves feel better, just like back they did back in high school. They're thinking vile things, like 'she's gotta be putting out for every guy she meets.' Strut past those girls with a grin, like you can see TP stuck to the heels of their shoes. These girls are jealous as hell. Enjoy that feeling.

If that doesn't work, here's a self-confidence shortcut that may work for you. Head to chaturbate or any other free webcam site, and find a model who has your body type. Read what the guys are saying. The internet makes you anonymous if you want to be. Those guys have no need to hide their true feelings. It's the same things that some guys are thinking when they look at you on the streets, and you can be damn certain it's what your boyfriend's thinking when he looks at you.

[Nico21]

The first thing I would do is working out, but don't get obsessed with it. Maybe your boyfriend is telling the truth and your body is just fine for him, but if you don't feel comfortable with it, you should do something about it. In fact, working out will not just change the way you look, but also the way you think about yourself, and that will make you sexier.

[akk4zd]

Look at yourself in the mirror every day and instead of focusing on what you don't like about yourself, focus on what you DO like. Say to yourself out loud every time, "I'm beautiful. I love myself." Stick with it for about a month and see if it changes how you feel.

Basically, it's rewiring your synapses and neural networks in your brain which will help you change your personal belief about yourself. Reminds me of an experiment they did where they gave women a patch and told them it had a drug in it that would make them feel prettier. It had nothing in it, but all of them said they could feel it working. Beliefs are a powerful thing. Imagine what all of that negative self-talk ("I'm fat, I don't like my body" etc.) is doing.

[RBT-RS]

I think you just need to trust your boyfriend when he says you look gorgeous :P