I even had trouble accepting it when I was skinny.I mean I feel the same inside. But while I was trying clothes on at target. I had trouble finding the right sizes and what was flattering without looking like a little girl.Even while I’m showering. I feel fine and think I only have a little tummy pooch. That once I put on lotion 🧴 and get dressed, I feel good.
But I as tried to take a selfie 🤳 on my iPhone. I look pregnant with rolls all over. My back, and butt. 😳🙈
How can I accept myself as I am?I’m 5’1 weigh 160.6 bra size 40 A or B cause of different fabric Jeans 12-14.
How can I accept and learn to love my thick/chubby body?
Look I am not fond of being the one to point out the obvious but if you feel reluctant to accept the current you, that is fine. You can use it as fuel to improve in whatever way you want. Looks, education, fitness and so on.
I absolutely think we should love ourselves but that doesn't mean satisficing and a rationalized compromise is the way to go.
Of course if it is just you wanting to accept things as they are then.. when I, and probably you, meet someone we don't criticise them in every way. We just accept that they are who they appear to be and that is fine. Well that is also how most will approach us. If you meet someone you think is pretty your thought will likely just be a variant of "this person is pretty!" and not "this person is pretty but geeh their index fingers seem a little knottier than average". Others do not criticise us as hard as we do ourselves.
Well, the first step is understanding nothing last forever especially if you want to change it.
Second, understand that even in this form, you’re still attractive and hot to someone. You just want to widen that net through some hard work and lifestyle changes.
Last but not least, while you’re putting in that work for a better body or even if you don’t want to put that work in. I highly recommend doing this, look yourself in the mirror and acknowledge your flaws and notices your strengths and still say “I’m a sexy person but I can be sexier!”.
I did this when I gained weight then lost it but the ability to still say I’m attractive regardless is a good feeling to have.
Get plenty of exercise. You will be surprised how much better it will make you feel. You may not lose weight but you will look better as well. I dated a girl who was a competitive swimmer. She was just big all over but she knew that she was beautiful.
I literally dated chubby girls pretty much exclusively without even realizing but I knew a few girls who were sweet but also slightly overweight but they were fun to hang out with so the extra weight never bothered me. The guys who are bothered by a little extra weight are almost always disappointed years later because everyone gains weight later one way or another. You sound critical of your own body but I can guarantee you that you’re not ugly or unattractive.
You don't just get over your body, unless you have therapy or you spend your life with someone who daily tells you how great your body is and shows you how much they enjoy it. So I assume
