I have really big thighs and they won’t slim down. Am I wrong for yelling at my mom for giving them to me?

[Anonymous]

Okay so all of my live I’ve been a chubby girl. A chubby girl, a thick teenager and now a thick, chubby young woman. We’ll I’m still a teen but 18. I’ve never been slender like ever. I’m middle school, most of the girls were either stick skinny, or slender. I’ve always been jealous of slender girls. Even curvy slender girls. My two sisters have slender legs. The women on my dads side are slender, we’ll most of them. Why am I the fat one? I got bullied by this one girl for being chubby. I got called an ugly fat cow by some boys and they flat out time me that they would never date a fat girl. I cried. I thought guys and men love thicker and curvier women. I used to yell at my mom for giving me these thick thighs. She has them herself. I would say, “Thanks to you mom, my thighs are way too big and I look fat! Most girls have skinny legs. This is all your fault!!!
My mom told me that just because someone has thick legs doesn’t mean they’re fat and don’t ever yell at her like that.
She said, “I got them, your grandmother has them, most of the women have thunder thighs and you got them. You inherited it from my side of the family. When you get older, you’re going to love your thick legs. Most men LOVE thick legs on a woman. You don’t want thin legs. You can tone your legs but you’ll never get slender legs, that’s the truth. You’re sisters got the slender genes from your dad’s side. You’ll have to learn to accept it.” It isn’t fair that my sisters can eat a lot and still be slender and I have to work my ass off to get fit. I’m when I eat too much I gain weight. Am I jealous of my slender younger sisters? Of course I am!! They told me they are jealous of my thick thighs and guys LOVE it better and don’t like slender girls.

[Oliverlogan263]

You have a lot of understandable feelings about your body and shape. Here are some things to consider:

1. Yelling at your mom was unfair. She didn't intentionally "give you" thick thighs - genetics are out of anyone's control. Focus your energy on self-acceptance.

2. Having thick thighs doesn't make you "fat." Body shape and weight are two different things. Many women would love to have your curves!

3. Some men do prefer thicker legs, while others prefer thin. Everyone has different tastes. Focus on finding a partner who loves YOUR body.

4. Comparing yourself to others will only breed envy and unhappiness. Focus on loving your own shape and working on body positivity.

5. You can tone and strengthen your thighs, but you likely won't fundamentally change their shape. Make peace with this - self-acceptance is the goal.

6. People who bullied you were being cruel. Try not to internalize their judgments - they don't truly reflect your worth.

7. Your value doesn't come from your thigh size! You are so much more than just your physical body. Focus on who you are within.

8. Talk to your mom and sisters openly about how their comments make you feel. Seek their love and support in embracing your shape.

9. Consider talking to a therapist if you struggle with extreme jealousy or body image issues. You deserve to feel good in your skin.

I hope some of this helps! The journey toward self-acceptance can be a long one, but focusing on mindfully embracing your unique shape and talents - rather than changing what you can't - will likely bring you the most peace and happiness.

[Anonymous]

Hahahaha, actually no. The fault that her thighs are wide is her mother's, and yes, unfortunately they won't lose weight, in my city there are also many women with the same body.

[Asker]

Really? Well most girls and women have it anyways

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, most of them are like that, that's why when I see a young woman with a slender body and slender legs it's a delight to my eyes.

[Asker]

I guess I wouldn’t be if you saw me, but my sisters have slender legs but told me they envy my big things and told me most girls wish they had bigger legs.

[CrimsonAngel09]

You are 100% completely wrong.

We can't control how our bodies grew out as we get older.

[Asker]

Well I still am jealous of my slender sisters but they told me most men love big thighs on a woman and I have no idea how many girls are striving to get thicker thighs and curvier bodies and not every girl likes being thin. They don’t like their bodies. I would LOVE to have their slender bodies! Are they kidding me? That pisses me off!

[AaronKrieger]

This sounds like some sort of troll or catfish post, but yeah it was retarded of you to do that.

Due to your own insecurities, you disrespected your mother who I am assuming has sacrificed/done a lot for you and doesn't even body shame you like a lot mothers out there do. She cannot control her genetics and married someone even who'd decrease the odds. Also, you are chubby, which is your own doing and at the age of 18 you have no one to blame besides yourself.

Anyway, I am not even sure why this is even a bad thing. Generally, you want your fat distribution as a woman to go towards the lower part of your body, since it's healthier and conveniently more attractive.

[Bairavaa01]

You have my sympathies. Even if you seem to hate yourself, always strive to be the best person you possibly can be.

For examale, focus on fat loss.

Giving up and making excuses will only make you a wretched failure, indeed you do not want to be that.

[MementoMori777]

You sure you aren't kinda exaggerating it, it's impossible to be everyone's cup of tea, just sayin

[Asker]

Whatever

[jshm2]

Yeah, it's your problem to deal with, not your moms. She's done her part.

[jahaims]

They can slim down. You choose not to slim them down.

[Asker]

What’s that supposed to mean? I just said that I have to work my ass off to get them and my sisters don’t have too since they’re naturally slender!

[LazerBean]

Yeah, it's stupid AF do say something like that.

[Asker]

We’ll it’s the truth!!! I can never have slender legs thanks to her.

[DerekC321]

Big thighs are sexy and hot 🔥

[Asker]

I don’t care!! I never understood why me and guys love HIGE thighs in a woman. Even my sister said they wish they had big thighs and trying to get thicker legs. I thought they’re crazy.