My mom overfeeds me.. Help!!?

[Anonymous]

I'm 13 years old but I'm using my 19 year old sister's account. I, like my sister, have bigger thighs and curves. I am the same clothing size as her, not the ideal size of a 13 year old girl. I weigh 145 pounds, and 5'3. Most of my weight gOes down into my thighs. I have been trying to get to a healthy weight by excercising more and not eating giant portions, but my mom took notice and said that I am "beautiful just the way I am" and "don't need to lose weight". But I fewl like I do. And she said that if I lose more weight because she's going to start weighing me every week to make sure that I don't lose anymore, she's going to take away my privileges and send me to a councillor. And tonight at dinner, we had pasta, and she gave me a huge portion that my brother, who overeats, also got. He couldn't finish it, but I had to, because my mom also said she is going to make sure that I eat every meal. I feel so fat, ugly, and sick right now. I can't talk to her about it, or I will get in trouble. Can anyone help?

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+1 y

Thanks for your help everyone. I talked to her and suprisingly she understood. I don't need anymore answers now.

[Azara]

thats child abuse. force feeding. your weight is not even very healthy and she's forcing you to against your will. its a violation of your body.

iof she wants to send you to a councilor,. be sure to tell them she's force feeding you.

i would refuse to be force fed. lose weight if i saw fit to do so. let her take away mtg privileges study super hard with all the extra time i have on my hands. exerciser in my bedroom if I'm locked up. get healthy then never task to her again once I'm an adult. thats me.

if you try talking to her hope it helps/ though it doesn't sound like a person whole believes in force feeding is going to care about how you feel. but gee it a try. speak calmly with dignity. its your biopsy you're a young adult she should;d not be treating you like a baby.. Actually svn with babies mothers dont force them to eat once they are full.

by the way pasta isn't even healthy. if she's concerned for your health she should provides healthy food.

you're going to have to stand up for yourself in this situation.

[lexicorrine]

You really need to talk to her about your feelings... If you're not feeling good personally, she needs to respect you, and you need to take action and tell her exactly what you feel. Or else she'll never understand. She probably doesn't want you to fall into the category of the teens who starve themselves because they feel like they are too fat.

But it doesn't sound like that is the attitude you have. Which is good. But you definitely need to talk to her about your feelings soon, or else this will contnue, and get worse. If you tell her, im sure she will understand. But this isn't something that should continue. Just have a calm respectful talk about the situation

[QueenB1203]

She can't make you eat.. you can literally refuse it. If you can't stomach to overeat, thats so normal! I used to eat a lot, last summer I went from 125 to 139 pounds! I'm 5'7" it was still "thin" but I noticed it. This summer and right now I can't finish my meals like ever! It's the age and hormonal changes you go through that make you not want to eat as much as you could, and you need to tell your mom that you are satisfied. If she does take you to a counselor, tell the counselor that you are completely fine, no emotional issues, your mom just thinks that. Eat how you want, it's your body, but just do not starve yourself.

[Lumanos]

Sigh, I hate hearing parents do this. Look, you are plenty old enough to know if you are hungry and what is 2 much. Explain it to your mother you would prefer to get your own portions and for her to not focus so much on your weight. You are old enough now to handle this stuff without mother forcing it down your throat. Should you find yourself in a position where you are given to much, eat what you want and don't eat the rest. If she wants to punish you for it, explain your stance and take the punishment. If you have drive and determination, she will cave before you do.

[Azara]

Agree 100%

[bizmarkee]

You need to seek help outside of your family. My advice is to talk to a school counselor whom you trust. They are required by law to help you. This doesn't sound like abuse but then again it could be. Get help now if you're not comfortable.

[Nick_Chevalier]

Talk to your sister, or your dad about it and get them to talk to her about it, really I think it is something that happened to your mom while she was a child and is trying to cope with it but is hurting you instead.

[Asker]

My mom is single and my sister lives in England.

[Azara]

its not her job to sort her mother out. its her mothers job to provide a safe and non threatening living environment.

[Nick_Chevalier]

Azara, I never said that it was her job to sort her mother out

[JustinCaseUDontKnow]

You need tell her that she is going to kill you with kindness be bold
tell your school nurse to help you, I know from experience with weight issues

[shacodraco]

Just tell her you can't finish the rest and that's that. Your mom sounds super ignorant but she can't force you to eat it if you don't want to. And if she does try then tell the police.

[lilithgentry]

You should tell her straight up cause what she is doing is damaging and even if she sends you to a counselor I don't believe any counselor would side with your mother on this

[Bubblesi]

My favourite line is: "Mom! I am not fucking foie grais Duck! Stop Stufing me!" :-D Hope it Helps

[RationalMale]

You could try showing her medical information on the internet proving that yes, you are overweight and trying to get to a healthy weight.