Why don't young girls notice me anymore?

[Anonymous]

I followed many peoples advice and started going to the gym to become more attractive to girls. I'm now at ~200lbs, 11-12% bodyfat, yet it seems like young girls don't even notice me. Actually even my age is rare, it's more 30 year old's and even older.
Thank you very much those that said that lifting is a good idea to get girls.

[Xseed]

Women, i feel, dont really know what they want out of a man until they are more mature. younger women, 20s dont really appreciate things like hard work and loyalty in a man, but rather would be more interested in his looks, money, materials, and his popularity despite him being an asshole or a bad guy in general. of course there are always exceptions and there are definitely women in 20s who are mature and actually care for the qualities in a man that matters. I wouldn't let it bother you if younger women aren't looking at you, chances are they might be interested but are so stuck up or shy about it that they pretend that they aren't interested. but either way, find girls your own age, thats always the better deal anyway.

[Asker]

I think it's the worst deal, at least from what I've heard.

[Xseed]

depends on who says it. also depends on how old you are too. 30 year old woman who are single and have no children are amazing. especially nowadays where women everywhere are becoming more health aware of their physical appearances.

[HeyJustBeingMe]

i can't tell you that lifting is ideal to get a girl or woman to like you..
i mean you go to the gym, to work on your body and confidence.
you'll eventually learn about your own body, how it works and what not. what to eat and such.
and that about it.

a gym..(how logical this may sound in my head) doesn't tell you how to get girls.
or how to get a girls attention. i mean you can be the most irritating guy in the world with a killer body and still throw off girls with your attitude or how you talk and such... you know?

[TheStatenIslandFairy]

Probably too busy dating guys their own age.

Women in their 30s are disgusting? Really? Could you be anymore shallow? Do you really think age decides if someone is beautiful or not? Have you not seen Jessica Alba, Mila Kunis, Scarlett Johansson or Angelina Jolie? All of these women are over 30.

The fact you're anonymous shows you understand what a dumb question this is.

[TonyNoTiger]

Where does it say 30 year olds are disgusting?

[Asker]

They are famous and rich, they are not the average woman.

[TheStatenIslandFairy]

Did you read his comments on the other answers @freshgurl? And no it's not only because they're famous and rich. There are plenty of women over 30 who look as good as they do but you just don't hear about them because they're not actors or singers. I have friends in their 30s who look amazing and my own sister is 35 and looks hundred times better than I do. To say women over 30 are disgusting is ridiculous and just plain shallow.

[Asker]

But they are used.

[TheStatenIslandFairy]

They're USED? So are you! That has got to be the worst possible reason to not like a woman I've ever heard. You have some serious issues if that's the way you think about women. My boyfriend is a lot older than me, but if he talked like you, I'd break up with him in a heart beat and throw him into the East River. We're all freakin human beings here, not bloody cars. You should consider seeing a psychiatrist.

[nicko2552]

way to stick it to the man by naming celebrities with all the money in the world to help themselves stay beautiful and young besides what's wrong with liking younger women i see women wanting men at the same age or older and always discriminating against younger men what;s wrong with men discriminating older women... oh i see it's only sexist when men do it.

[MaskedSanity]

That's because women can smell douchebags from miles away.

Maybe if you didn't think of women as objects and older women as disgusting, you'd have more luck.

But that would make too much sense.

[Asker]

I'm not used, I'm a kissless virgin.

[TheStatenIslandFairy]

@nicko2552 this has nothing to do with sexism, it has to do with shallowness. Trust me, if my friends would allow it, I would have posted pictures of them to prove my point. I only used celebrities as examples because it's not like he's going to just take my word for it that my friends over 30 are hot, that's not how arguments like this work. I never said they is anything wrong with dating younger women, sometimes you can't help who you fall in love with, I'm even dating a guy a lot older than me. The saying "age is just a number works" both ways. You should just like who you like and not restrict yourself to a certain age group.

[TheStatenIslandFairy]

Now I see your problem asker. You're one of those people think virginity is a big deal. Are you religious by any chance? I've noticed it's usually the uber religious guys who are obsessed with virginity. I'm not gonna judge you for being a virgin and wanting to be with a virgin, but I still think it's wrong of you to put an age restriction on who you date, as well as don't agree with your awful choice of words. If you're christian, there's Christian abstinent dating sites who have plenty of people about your age who are still virgins looking to be with other virgins. Good luck.

[nicko2552]

@masked sanity i am not speaking about my personal experience i am saying just friends or even guys i don't know I've seen them get discriminated against for being young there's this show called dating in the dark where guys and girls date in complete obscurity like each other than pick each other at the end of the game to see each other in the light than they can meat up in a balcony or leave the number one reason i have seen that women left was because they were too young even though they were supper compatible

[Asker]

No, I'm an atheist and it makes things a lot worse. Because there are no girls my age, older or slightly younger that are also virgins.

[nicko2552]

alright he still said nothing about older women being disgusting he is saying he wants to cash in his v card with another virgin I'll admit it's a it weird but to each their own

[TheStatenIslandFairy]

@nicko2552 Read the comments on the other answers. When someone mentions older women, he either says they're disgusting or they're used.

And asker, what makes you value virginity so much then? Are you insecure about having sex with a girl who has more experience than you? That I can understand, but to say it's because older women are "used" and "disgusting" is horrible and I just wish you would understand at least that.

It's going to be hard to find a virgin who's also an atheist or doesn't mind being with an atheist because most people who don't believe in God don't see a point in waiting to have sex. I myself am somewhat religious, but the fact my boyfriend wasn't a virgin when we met was never a deal breaker for me.

Who you have sex with is completely your decision, but likes an experienced man, an experienced woman would probably be better at teaching you.

[nicko2552]

like i said it's kind of weird, but tell ya what, this 18 year old atheist will take on any of your hot friends haha, just tell their kids to get out of the house hahaha.

[Asker]

Yes, insecure. I know I will be brutally humiliated and laughed at by an experienced woman. Because I don't look like I could be a virgin.

[TheStatenIslandFairy]

Well honey, that's okay if you're just insecure. Everyone is their first time. Your first time should be with someone you care about and cares about you. A lot of girls would love to be a guy's first time, they just don't think it'll ever happen because guys start having sex really young. If you meet a girl you like, it's okay to be honest and tell her you're a virgin. If she thinks you're experienced, she might think it's weird if you don't perform well, but if she knows you're a virgin she's definitely not going to laugh. We always make things seem worse in our minds. Trust me, it's going to make her feel really good to get to teach you something and be your first.

[Asker]

I doubt that. She will laugh when I tell that even before anything happens. I've heard girls say that someone somewhere would like that, but I've never read that anyone would like that for real. (I've read a lot of female only forums)

[TheStatenIslandFairy]

Girls looking for a real relationship and a real nice guy will find it refreshing. Has any girl ever actually laughed in your face when you told her? If you've never tried, you can't really know. Trust me on this, she won't laugh. :)

[Asker]

Yes, they have. And it was when I was 17.

[TheStatenIslandFairy]

How old was the girl?

She must be really young and immature or just a bitch. I talked to my girlfriends about this and they all agreed they would find it refreshing to meet a guy who saved himself, then the sex would mean a lot more.

[abundantlyrich]

Having a nice body doesn't attract anybody. It's your open mindedness and empathy that will attract others. I've seen this question asked many times but people just *don't* get it. Its not because your not attractiveness enough but people refuse to stretch their minds a lol further if they want to relate to a higher number of ppl.

[abundantlyrich]

*Its little not lol. This auto correction function does that a lot

[matrix124]

Though many men like younger girls, most women prefer men their own age.

[Asker]

No they don't

[BertMacklinFBI]

im sure they notice you. you just don't notice it.

[Russisnlamode]

Just have to find the right people who are attracted to you i suppose there's someone for everyone ! just got to look a little harder but nothing wrong with an older woman don't knock it till you try it

[Asker]

Would you like an old rotten man? No.

[Russisnlamode]

not all old people are rotten or unattractive? take Christian Bale for example he isn't unattractive and he's in his thirties

[Asker]

It's different for men.

[Russisnlamode]

no its not look at Jennifer Aniston !

[bubbletrouble]

"The value of men goes up with years, for women it's the opposite."

Most men never hit "value", so that's where you are wrong.

But to answer your question, older people at the gym hit on young people all the time. I see it.

[MothMonsterMan]

Maybe because you're maturing and the older women are more appreciative of a guy who takes care of themselves. Young girls are shallow and immature. Man take advantage of those 30 somethings and up ladies, trust me!

[Asker]

It's disgusting.

[MothMonsterMan]

Haha you have no idea what you're missing! How old are you anyway? Your age range says 18-24. I'm guessing about 18? Because I don't know many 24 year old men who would turn down a woman in the 30s. Besides, one day, you'll be that age too. :) Believe me, older women ROCK

[Asker]

No, I'm 24. Why would I want used stuff?

[MothMonsterMan]

All I can say is you don't know what you're missing. Besides, if you're not a virgin, a girl could say the same thing about you. Why would they want a 24 year old man? When you were 18 did you think 24 year old women were old? You're 24, only 6 more years and YOU will be 30. Do you think you're going to be old then? If so, I feel sorry for you.

[Asker]

The value of men goes up with years, for women it's the opposite.

[MothMonsterMan]

Well I see your problem right there. You're obsessed with youth. Please don't be one of these old men who chase young women in an attempt to stay young. Hopefully your attitude will change when you are a bit older. You still have a lot to learn about women my friend.

[Asker]

It's just the truth. No one likes old women. If these men that supposedly like old could get young girls they would tell those old ones to phuck off in a millisecond.

[MothMonsterMan]

Well you're talking to an except right now! My girl is 10 years older than me and BANGING hot. I would love to post a picture of her to prove you wrong. She still gets asked for ID when we go out for drinks. She's mature, gorgeous, confident, and she doesn't worry about petty stuff like "Oh no why did he make eye contact with me?" In fact SHE approached me first. And yes, I turn down younger girls all the time. They're too immature, too jealous, and stupid for me to be turned on by them. With age comes knowledge and wisdom. You'll see in about 10 years yourself.

[Asker]

Yeah, of course. I'm now sitting in my 50 room mansion and writing this. Then I will go to my garage and not take any of my 10 Lamborghinis but drive a toyota prius instead.

[MothMonsterMan]

If you have all that what the heck are you doing on the internet? :) Anyway just trying to offer helpful advice. Maybe one day you'll see. I'm sure there are plenty of other men who will back me up.

Otherwise, have fun chasing around young girls when you yourself are old.

[Baegal]

Ur are disgusting :) bitch

[Levin]

Sorry, from what place. Have you bulked up from being skinny, or from other-weight? I'm somewhat skinny (though very fit), and always found myself attracting younger women easily.

[Asker]

I was ~130lbs when started.

[doireallyneedone]

This is a mistake a lot of guys make imo. Just because you're attracted to a girl with a killer body you assume its the same for girls. Physical attraction is not a big a deal for girls as it is for guys.

[Anonymous]

Oh! It happens the same to me. Always the older who seem attracted. Don't know why.
About your gym, I tell you to persevere.
I think there's someone for everyone. It just takes more time for some people. But don't be in a hurry. Be patient, don't expect you'll meet the girl everyday.
In my opinion, it's when you don't expect it, that it happens :)

Did I help you?

[SirenDep]

the gym is where you go to work out, not to find a date. but if you insist on this, and you don't like the women in your gym, then change gym

[Asker]

Why gym? I just said that I went to the gym to get muscular.

[SirenDep]

sorry I thought you meant that the women in your gym are not interested in you.

[Asker]

Oh OK

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

If you want to be healthy, working out is great. If your whole life is about picking up women, sell drugs.

[Asker]

Where did I say that. I just want nice young girls,

[NotJustAnotherGuy]

Having better aesthetics still helps you with getting girls. It's not the whole world, however. If you thought working out would get you any girl you wanted, yes you were mistaken. It helps. But it's not a solution in itself. The most important aspect of beauty is the face, then personality, then body.

If you want to a nice girl, exposure is the most hurtful, yet efficient option. Go on dating sites and/or approach good looking women extremely frequently. You'll have more failures than success, but you only need to succeed once.

[itsme_goodsamaritan]

I think you should focus on making "a" girl (someone you really like) notice you first. If you can win one, you can win 'em all!

[front2back]

Who cares? Younger women suck anyways. So whiny, entitled and nescient. Only date women within a year of your own age, trust me, it's much better that way.

Source: Me aka guy who's dated a girl about 2.5 years younger.

[Account]

They are probably too busy dating guys their own age.

[ReneDS]

Well there are some 30 plus woman who are extremely attractive

[Anonymous]

Are you specifically looking for girls younger than you? Why.

[Asker]

Because they are better.

[Opinion Owner]

You mean more naive, less intelligent, easier to manipulate and control, less judgmental

[Asker]

Better looking, not used.

[Opinion Owner]

Used? They're objects?
I'm glad you're alone

[Asker]

No, but they have experience. I don't, so it won't be a good match.

[Baegal]

They are not better @asker they are stupid little bitches good body's Lol no offense

[Baegal]

He offended first by the way

[gash_hound]

keep away from the 30 year old's... its good your inshape, don't give up.

[2pointer]

if they know u they will talk to u