Why am I turning so manly?

[Anonymous]

I don't get it. i'm tall, i grow a lot of hair and am being to go it on like the sides of my face. I have no butt whatsoever and my boobs are tiny. I'm 14 and got my period when i was 10 by the way. will my boobs get bigger? my hands do not look feminine at all they look like man hands and now you can almost start seeing veins in my arms? why is this happening? what can i do to become more feminine. like i'm kinda starting to act like a dude too. i dress like a girl, but the guys on my bus called me manly. i dont want to be like this. How can i be more feminine?

[Anonymous]

Patience >.<

And consider the possibility that fashion from the 1920s will look good on you.

Okay, more serious... Veins in the arms is true for both men and women - my gf's are probably easier to see than mine. The rest... you're 14. My gf's breasts were still getting bigger on her in her *mid-20s*! Dont' give up hope on that one :) You've got plenty of time to grow them.

In the meantime, try your best not to worry when people are mean. Don't fret too much about finding a guy, either - lots of guys like really big boobs... and then there are guys who like v small boobs. My brother likes really itty bitty ones. I like bigger ones, but I also find very small ones attractive. So you'll get attention from guys if that's what you're looking for. Just not ALL guys. But that'll be true if your breasts grow really big, too.

[Asker]

well, the guys weren't trying to put me down. one of them has a crush on me lol. they just said that because the things i say aren't very ladylike. with like makeup and clothes and the waxing i look feminine, but other then that the manliness is getting hard to ignore. i'm like 5'4ish maybe 5'3.5 but i'm taller then most girls and guys in my grade. i have a friend thats 5'2 but i feel like i'm 5 inches taller then her rather then 1. and i wear a b cup most girls are nearing c though

[Opinion Owner]

Well, if "manly" involves not wearing makeup, revealing clothes, and waxing, then I encourage looking manly :p I will admit that I'm not a big fan of the way women are expected to conform to stereotypes decided on by people who sell magazines or beauty products.

A b cup is... significantly more than a guy is going to have :) (unless he's super heavy, I guess) It sounds a little more a case of societal expectation than physical shape, then?

[Asker]

i do wear makeup and i wear skirts and dresses not revealing clothes that too much for me. i feel like i've had a b cup since i was 10 though. i feel as if i've topped growing in that depratment

[Opinion Owner]

It IS possible you will stop at a B cup, just like it's possible you'll grow bigger.

How slim are you?

[Asker]

my measurements are 32-24-35 i m like 5'4 and i weight 107 pounds.

[Opinion Owner]

Okay, that's a nice waist you've got there (assuming google image search isn't lying about those numbers) and you are fairly slim, I think. It's possible you could get bigger boobs by gaining a lot of weight, but doing that deliberately seems... less than ideal (future heart disease, harder to exercise, less energy, and more fat). You may be taller than average for your age, but that's a figure many many women would kill for. Well, at least risk death for. But you may have B cups for a long time.

Buy clothes that accent a slim figure and remember that if you don't wear a bra, someone is probably going to try looking through your shirt (not that that necessarily needs to stop you; just be aware). If you want to emphasize elegance, do lots of dancing :)

And positive things to like about your body now: Your figure probably has very nice, long legs with clean lines. Your neck will look graceful. Being tall gives you all the benefits models look for. Skinny is still popular.

[Asker]

thank you :) yeah i d o wanna gain like 5 pounds but don't know how to do that healthy. i actually am a dancer. i do have long legs, but so skinny! thank you though you really helped :)

[Opinion Owner]

Add baking chocolate chip cookies to your hobbies? Or brownies! I must make brownies tomorrow...

[Asker]

i love baking :)

[cth96190]

I recommend that you have a conversation with your doctor, who may wish to take a blood sample so that your hormone levels can be checked. If there is a problem, far better to address it now rather than when you are older.

[Asker]

i will try that, thank you

[DaniJ]

it could be a hormone imbalance... I'd suggest going to a doctor and getting some sort of estrogen supplement, like a lotion or pill or something. I'm not really sure how it works, but I know that there is hormone therapy for transgenders, and I know there are lotions with testosterone in them (not sure about estrogen) but your doctor would know.

[Asker]

i have a vagina though so i'm not transgender and i feel like a girl like a get excited ove pretty clothes and makeup

[DaniJ]

I didn't think you were transgender, I just think that you might have a hormone imbalance of sorts. your hormones don't really affect the types of things you are into though, so you'd still like clothes and makeup and stuff. Everyone has both estrogen and testosterone, and it's possible to get them out of whack somehow.

[Asker]

okay. thanks yeah i was thinking of going to the doctor and askig for estrogen pills or something too. thanks :)

[Liveyyy]

Yeah your boobs will get bigger and you'll turn out more feminine it just sounds like you're in an awkward stage of puberty. If you wanna look feminine just wear make up, pretty clothes, and brush your hair. The stage will pass

[Asker]

i really hope it does. i hate this feeling, most girls are so delicate and then there's me

[Ricosuavemente]

Your only 14 woman's boobs can keep growing up to 25 years old, you are super young and haven't finished puberty.

[Asker]

alright, thank you

[Ricosuavemente]

Your welcome!

[Blue2]

wait your 14? if thats the case then dont worry you'll even out on your own just keep eating healthy and do some light excercise

[Asker]

i dance does that count

[Blue2]

yes dancing is a good excercise. I say light excercise because you are young and you don't want to hurt your bones doing more stressful excercises too early in the game.

[Asker]

okay thanks then :)

[Blue2]

welcome :D

[Klaatu51]

it's not bad unless you're hairy

[Klaatu51]

basically girls with big hands and feet are smokin' HOT

[Asker]

i wax the hair off so you can't see it.

[Ihav2fart]

Too much testosterone.

[Asker]

is there anything you recommend that will increase my estrogen