I tell you honestly it's her; I don't want to be rude though but I think before she become a mother, I believe she also faced the difficulties during her teenager; maybe she has no chance to live a life as a teenager as you where perhaps your life are much better? *Jealous* (well, we as female have this problem issues) or maybe too worried; or on her sight everything you preferred or look is not the way you see it? Or maybe she wants to feel what she feels before? I mean the hardship of life? This is just a presumption, not accusing. I love my mother, though sometimes she hurts me just by the way I understand your mother treats you; but I think you should sometimes make your own decision maybe it's against what she wants because 'for-your-own-good' I think what ever it is, you have to respect her and say kind words to her. I think I can suggest where you agree all she says but tell her that you can make your own decision too and ask her at least to respect your own decision ( in a good way and your decision have to be at least make her knows that it is safe and good for you)
Normal to think, not normal to say out loud. My mom occasionally references how small I was in high school, but she's not as intense as your mother. Your mother wants the best for you, but she's clearly not going about it in the right way.
If you want this to stop, and for her to understand your perspective, sit her down and simply say, "Mom, I know that you want the best for me, but your comments about my weight are destructive to both my self-esteem and our relationship. I am at a normal weight for my height and age, and though I could perhaps stand to tone up a bit, I am certainly not overweight. If you could please keep these thoughts to yourself from now on, that would be great. If you are, at some point, legitimately concerned for my health, please approach me privately, and I will listen to what you have to say."
Good luck!
I think your mother is compensating for her own insecurities. Your weight ad height are healthy, I think you mother has some of her own issues and is taking it out on you. She needs therapy because she is damaging you in her own attempts to make herself feel better.
No it is not normal, it is just her. Your not over weight, your not underweight. Your perfectly healthy, forget what your mother says. She has problems. If you have someone you trust and can talk to, please do it. It is always good to talk things out in a safe, trusted, environment.
Sadly, we can't choose our mothers. It seems your mom is having personal struggles or issues and is using you to feel better about her situation. In other words, she's taking it out on you. I would suggest talking to your grandmother or father about this situation, and hopefully they will give her a much needed talk. She might need therapy, as she doing much damage to her own child.
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Not all mothers are like that, but yours isn't the only one. All the comments most likely stem from her own insecurities about weight. She thinks she's helping you by encouraging you to be thin, she doesn't see it as potentially creating body image issues for you. Your weight is healthy though.
No, not all mothers are like that. She is out of order. Noone should treat their daughter ike that ever, no mother should ever make her daughter feel overweight either. She won't let you have dinner sometimes?! I don't know how old you are but that is actually child cruelty, even if it only happens once. If you are overweight (I don't know since I have no lcue what 130 pounds is) then she should encourage you to eat healthily and exercise, not starve you and insult you.
Your weight is normal and healthy. I don't know your mom as a person so I cannot comment on that aspect. I think that even though she has your best interest at heart, she needs to halt the comments. They're going to impact your self esteem and you will start to question your own physical beauty.
Not all moms are like this. My Mom always wanted me to see the good in myself and know I was decent looking. She never made comments like the ones your receive.
Its not normal.
But its normal for me. I have the same situation. My mom constantly reminds me that I'm fat when I'm only 113 pounds at 5'6" too. They don't realise that people GROW, at least for my mom. Or she might be compensating for her insecurities.
I think it's just her. She is your mom She shouldn't talk that way about you. If she has a serious problem about it. Then she should think of fun things to do for the both of you to lose weight. Like going for a walk, or tennis etc. Maybe the reason why she's saying that to you is because maybe she's just not happy with herself. Your fine just the way you r.
It's just her -- but you need to strengthen your personal integrity until these things are simply not wise things for her to say.
I've nvr known any mom that does that my mom might say sly comments about my weight just for fun even thought I'm only 90 lbs x.X. I personally don' t consider 130 fat and I think its a bit much to not let you have dinner even if it's not often.
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