Married secretary wants it bad... What would you do?

[Anonymous]

So I'm not too ashamed to say that I had never even kissed a girl before her. She is a secretary at my work and a fellow sports fan.

A couple of weeks ago me and her went to a bball game and had a good time. When we got back to my place (we drove to the game together) she said she want to take a hour and sober up... 20 minutes later we was getting it on... I knew it was wrong but was to drunk and horny to control myself...

Since then thou she has been constantly trying to make it happen again and again...

Should I really give a damn she is married if it's pretty obvious she doesn't care in the least bit?!?!?!?

Also I'm not interested in her in a emotional way... Just physically and she shares the same idea...

[rdabby]

Honestly this is wrong for so many reasons

-she is married, you wouldn't like it if your wife was sleeping with a random guy at work now, would you!?

-you re ruining thier marriage, even if she doesn't give a sh*t about that! that doesn't mean that you should help her with this.

-she works with you, if something goes wrong you could be in trouble, if she gets all emotional and whatever its going to turn into a dramatic scene at work everyday!

-women tend to get emotional after a little while even if both parties just want sex, at some point she might want more than just sex, you know!

-last thing which is so important, is the fact that she is your first kiss and first everything, so am guessing that in few weeks you will be most likely to fall for this girl. you will be hurt cause we both know that at the end of the day she is with her hubby and you will be alone. and don't tell me that You just want sex and you won't get hurt, because You will end up wanting more...

if you want sex then get a girlfriend and have a normal relationship without ruining marriages or getting yourself hurt.

[Lee85]

I would say... don't do it ONLY because if she does really just "share the same idea" and it's just for sex (which it rarely ends up as but I'll give her the benefit of the doubt) then that means that she still needs the emotional, loving part from her husband. If you two do take it further and her marriage crumbles because of it, she will quite possibly hate you, or worse decide that since she already gets sex from you that you will be the one to help her lick her wounds (messy, messy) since her hubby will no longer be available for that. Women have a way of turning it around, I'm ashamed to say, so be careful!

[authentic]

Very common scenario. She is using you to get some excitement/"fresh air" out of a boring marriage. Also, you being a newbie, are easier to control. You are using her as a "free prostitute", and she using you as a "free gigolo", both sides are thinking --- no responsibility, no liability, no committment. You are using her to get some sexual experiences under your belt. The word to remember is the word Karma. You pay for what you get, if not now, further down the road. But before that hit, you would of all likelihood develop some kind of feelings for her, probably in 3-6 months time. Then, guess what you would be thinking as you stare at the ceiling during night time?

To answer your question, I would sever the relationship immediately. You got what you want, so did she. To use an analogy, you never know what fire s like, now you do. The kind of fire you're playing, though, leads to you hell-fire, for you and not her (hers will probably be later).

[germanotaku]

Would you like your wife to do the same thing with another man at some point in time?

Would you like this man to simply do it with your wife and nothing else?

This should give you the answer you're looking for. If you're ignoring your own right / wrong sense within that matter, then all I can say is ... "have fun!"

[Anonymous]

It depends, are you comfortable knowing your ruining a marriage? Her choices, and yours have consequences.