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I'm just curious as to why men feel they NEED to ogle other women while with their girlfriends? Don't they realize it's rude and rather disrespectful in the eyes of their girl?
What's so irresistable about ogling other women?
Actually, so far, I haven't done it, that I'm aware. Perhaps I am lucky enough to be a guy who doesn't check out chicks when he's in a happy relationship. Or maybe I've dated so little that I haven't had a "chance" to do it. So in my opinion, not all guys do it, and not all feel the NEED to do it, and I will believe that until I find otherwise.
Actually, I think there's some confusion about it. Some guys, honestly, we don't study up on girls and learn how to talk to girls, like girls tend to do - so you're confusing oggling or pure lust for akward curiosity... Sometimes we look out of morbid curiosity. It's more like figuring out how a car works or something.
I look at Chess. sets. To me, they're artistic and beautiful (ok, so I'm a huge nerd, I know). It's not just to covet it, but to admire it's beauty too. It's like a really nice car; a work of art.
I've used this movie reference before, but it's like in the movie Some Like it Hot, where the two male characters are watching Marylin Monroe walk by. Ok, yeah., they're attracted to her, and yeah, she's hot, and they're checking her out, but they're also kind of trying to figure out how women walk or sway (partly so they can figure out how to pretend to be women themselves to avoid the mob that is after them). "It's like Jello on springs!"
Granted, if you're guy is being obvious about it, or always whistling, or getting grabby, or comparing you to her and being a jerk about it... "Babe, you need tatas like that!" then it's a problem - more than just if he looks once in a while but is really really subtle. You've gotta figure out for yourself which it is, and deal accordingly.
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I think it's ok to look/glance but nothing more than that... then it goes beyond that and you should probably have a little talk. But even so, if you are bothered, you should mention how you feel about it but never accuse him of 'cheating' on you or something really jealous sounding. Let him know you feel disrespected and what if you did that. If he's ok with it, and you actually like doing that, then do so. I'm sure he wouldn't care if he says so though... I think it's disrespectful if he is downright staring at her for a long period of time as if looking at a greasy bacon cheeseburger... while you're there looking at him like wtf. lol
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i personally don't understand why it's such a big deal. we are animals to. I would think somethng was wrong with my man if he didn't look. I also think its cool for men to watch porn...I also would think something was wrong with my dog if he didn't sniff every female dogs ass that walked by... same difference but maybe I'm weird who knows..
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because it would be extremely hard to walk around staring at the sky or the ground all day. if a girl walks by of course he's going to look, do you close your eyes every time a guy walks by?
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Most men are highly sensitized by visual input. Most women are highly sensitized by emotional input. This is why men have a hard time resisting things like pornography and women have a hard time resisting thins like fictional paperback romance novels. They target needs that each gender is most vulnerable to.
I suggest you tell your boyfriend that you tell him you think his behavior is rude, and if he wants to look at other women while in your presence, he should learn to be discreet and not embarass you in public. Tell him it would just as rude if you went over to strange men and asked them to talk dirty to you in public. I think he will get the point. Respect has to be a two-way street.
The fact that men and women are so different is one of the things God did when he created us equal in humanity, but unique and different in design. Try to learn to appreciate not denigrate the differencs. Let you boyfriend know what you like and don't like and if loves and respects you
ask him to support your requests by displaying some discretion and sensitivity to your needs. In my humble opinion:
If you step on a tack, your probably gonna wince and make some kind of noise, its instinctual. Sure, with tons of training you could learn to show no sign of reaction to stepping on a tack, but aside from monks, who has the time for that, lol? At least for me (and I'm assuming for most men) its a similar situation when a girl walks by. We can't help but glance at her. However, after about a second, I (and again, I'm assuming this is the case for most men) can and usually do look away, and can manage to not look again if I want to and try (sometimes it can take a lot of will power).
My point is, if by "ogle" you mean "look at for about a second," then I don't think you should blame the guy that much. But, it by "ogle" you mean, "looking for extended periods of time," then the guy should know that his girlfriend would feel bad, and he should control himself better while she's around. He probably just lacks will power, or lacks a certain amount of respect for his girlfriend.-
lol you girls ogle other men and even talk about how sexy some guy is to your boyfriends..."Oh Talylor Lautner is so hot!" comes to mind. My present girlfriend said that while she was talking on the phone with her friend, but it's funny she hates when I look/talk at/about other girls. Get off your pedestal before you claim men as the bad ones. It doesn't matter if that guy is some celebrity you will probably never meet in your entire life. The fact is still clear that you find him attractive and would probably f*** him if he so much as told you, "Take off your clothes and f*** me bitch!".
Ogling other women is completely natural, like looking at a car accident when you're passing it... we're drawn to it emotionally... it's crazy.
BUT that doesn't mean we can't control it.
Let your boyfriend know that you feel it's disrespectful and that you would like him to respect your boundaries. No need to be all worked up about it, just let him know your boundaries.
I hope you don't take it too personally, because I promise you it's got nothing to do with you, and everything to do with our natural sexual arc of attraction to unfamiliar boobs and ass.
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~ Robby
My Blog ( link )It's rude and disrespectful to be blatant about it, but it's just natural to do it. Monogamy is unnatural for humans. We do it (for the most part, anyway) because it's socially advantageous, but biology still controls our thoughts and urges. A man who wasn't attracted to other women wouldn't be attracted to any women, including you. Look at it this way - if he never looks, it's probably easy to stay with you because not much interests him, but if he looks a lot and still stays with you then you must really have something going on for him.
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A woman is beautiful:
A thing of beauty is a joy for ever:
Its loveliness increases; it will never
Pass into nothingness; but still will keep
A bower quiet for us, and a sleep
Full of sweet dreams, and health, and quiet breathing.
John Keats wrote it: link
And he isn't the only one: the most beautiful texts written are about women, even in the Bible: link -
Personally, I don't ogle other women. Yeah, most people aren't going to believe me, but I really don't.
As for my girlfriend, she looks at other guys all the time. Usually I just end up teasing her about it, but it also gives me insight as to exactly what kind of body type she likes. I know that I'm not the sexiest thing since sex, but as long as she's faithful, I don't mind. -
Really, it's very hard to not do that. It's instinctive. You've seen that picture of Obama checking out a French woman in a burgundy dress? The most controlled guy in the world is in front of the world's press, and he can't help it.
You can call him out on it, embarrass us, but really there's not much you can do. That's why maried men learn to wear sunglasses. - Anonymous(36-45)
I think all guys do that; it should not be a problem tho because you are the one he is with. Can't help it. It just happens. Ever see a dog bark at a car driving by? Same thing Ogling other women is completely natural, like looking at a car accident
when you're passing it... we're drawn to it emotionally... it's crazy.
Men ogle at girls and girls ogle at men, regardless of commitment. As long at they are faithful, I don't see any problem with it.
Just because I ogle at a different girl doesn't mean I prefer that girl over the girl I'm dating. because it would be extremely hard to walk around staring at the sky or the ground all day. if a girl walks by of course he's going to look, do you close your eyes every time a guy walks by? I'm sure you sometimes glance at men too but men just aren't as batsh*t paranoid about that.
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Men ogle at girls and girls ogle at men, regardless of commitment. As long at they are faithful, I don't see any problem with it.
Just because I ogle at a different girl doesn't mean I prefer that girl over the girl I'm dating. -
My boyfriend does this all the time, and it p*sses me off to no end. Look when I can't see you do it. If you're not happy with me, GET OUT! Just be ready for the child support order to be delivered and leave the keys to MY truck on the table when you leave. I'm so used to what he does, but if I looked at another guy I'd end up single. Why is it okay for the man but not the woman? F*cking hypocrites!
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the same thing that attracts the guy to you is on other girls too. now you don't want some asshole who is constantly checking out other girls of course, if that's the case dump him so he can be free to pursue them.
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I think looking is innocent. I've done it while a boyfriend was around. If it moves beyond that, then that's when you should worry. -__-
The same penis that led to you is always on the hunt for another.
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why do some women make guys feel as if they are available even if they have a bf
probably because they wanna know whether they are wanted or not
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I think all guys do that; it should not be a problem tho because you are the one he is with.
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Can you prove its "ogling"? And who still used the word "ogling"?
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Can't help it. It just happens. Ever see a dog bark at a car driving by? Same thing.
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It's so disrespectful... (goes to another question with a cuter question asker).
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