I'm losing weight and mom still calls me fat?

[Anonymous]

I was almost 170 pounds. I wanted to change my life and so I began to work out and eat healthy. I've been losing a good amount of weight and feel good.
Yet my mom still calls me fat.
It's so unmotivating.

[_feeeyaa_]

Don't worry, that's my mom as well. She calls me short, and I'm under 5 feet, the sad part is I can't really do anything about it, but you can. Don't really let your mom's words get into you, because she has expectations and standards for you. I think you're doing great and if you want more motivation, you can go on YouTube and check out workout videos. One channel I really like is blogilates, which the intructor motivates you throughout the workout! Keep going and never give up! It's like swimming in a lake, and you're almost there, but then you decide to swim back.

[redeyemindtricks]

Is yr mom fat herself?

I've known a few moms like this, and it's fucking infuriating. They are so narcissistic that they feel the need to compete with their OWN DAUGHTERS. Yep, competition. They'll undermine whatever progress the daughters are making. Ughhhhh.

If yr mom is fat herself, then, that might be what's happening here. If it is, then, sweetie, yr just gna have to shake off her influence -- probably in general, not just in terms of yr body image.

[ichot]

She has standards and expectations for you. She probably won't compliment you until you've actually accomplished your weight loss. Who are you losing weight for anyways? Don't live off compliments... Find something more tangible.

And don't expect praise for losing a couple pounds when you still have got much to lose. That's like the 'oh look at me, I lost 20 pounds but I'm still 40 pounds overweight -- progress picture' posts you may see so often.

[Dtegesd123]

is your mom Asian. Cause my mom calls me a skinny monkey when I'm 6'2 185, but my dad calls me a fatty at the same weight. I think Asian parents are just stupid.

[dipta]

One thing about family is that the construed image you had as a kid (fair or not) will be very difficult to shake off. Especially at your age.

Don't know about your mom, but maybe she doesn't do it with an ill intention or even thinks she is helping?
Well, you know you aren't skinny either at this point, so maybe you could retort "maybe, but just for now"? And try to make it more of an incentive.

I understand it's hard to change when you're already convincing yourself and, at the same time, still have to deal with outside influences. Specially someone whose opinion matters a lot.
Good luck!

[madiocre]

People will always have an opinion. Even your loved ones. Even when you reach your goal. I remember losing weight and having people give me backhanded compliments where they described how bad I looked before. Someone else was adamant I shouldn't lose anymore (when I was only halfway) someone even told me to be careful that my boyfriend doesn't leave me if I lose too much weight from my ass and tits. I think maybe people are just bad at adjusting to changes.

Try to focus just on what you think how you feel. I know it's difficult because she is your mum. She may even be well intentioned but at the end of the day it is your body and your goal. Celebrate your success and keep going. Your doing what you can and it's a long journey.

[Imafreespirit]

prove her wrong and dont give up.
Keep it up! you already made the decision of changing your lifestyle and be healthier, dont let anyone become an obstacle to reach your goal, it will all be worth it at the end

[apple24]

Yeah I know what you mean. My mom like your getting fat! And i am like mom what does it matter anymore. I just want eat and If you don't like my body eh I am okay with that.

[apple24]

I really just fed up with these society rules! I just want stress eat and cry!

[falcor101]

dont worriey if you feel good let others just roll off your back

[Anonymous]

That isn't very nice of your mother. Never known a mother to call their child such a nasty word. And no, i dont see 77kg as fat for a woman. I would be happy with my girl being 77kg.

[truthhammer]

Perhaps ur not quiet thwre yet but she should praise u for ur accomplishment.

[NerdInDenial]

Keep on going and don't give up.

[Anonymous]

At least your mum is honest with you.