Advice on this depression?

[Anonymous]

Hello I've been stuggling with depression since my highschool years. Im 20, overwieght and have had a girlfriend. Most of the time girls look at me like they are repulsed. I feel helpless and alone. I am in pain. I want to cry everynight. I wake up early everyday to workout, and I still feel like women hate me. I need series advice. I have been rejected many times and even led on by a girl who I thought actually cared about me. I need advice, because the pain is becoming unbearable. Is there hope for someone like me? am I deserving of love?

[Curious_Jane]

Of course someone will like you. If your weight is the root cause of your depression, you can loose some pounds. Eat healthy and exercise lot. Not eating anything or eating the wrong foods will cause weight gain. To go extreme try going vegetarian and working out at least 3 times at week at a gym. To be on the safe side try visiting a nutritionist for a healthy diet and go hardcore exercising with a personal trainer to target areas of the body that needs toning. If that still doesn't work, go to a weight loss clinic. If it's serious depression try talking to a physiologist.

Just remember that everyone is unique and there will be a person/ persons who will love you for who you are.

Hope this helps.

[wildchild1]

Is your weight at the root of your depression? If so, this is an easy fix. Everyone knows that a healthy and toned body is more attractive, and certainly attainable. So, stick to your work out regime, and eat carefully. Block out all of the negative feelings you have about women, and focus on the weight loss goal alone until you reach a point where you're happy with your image. This will take some time, so stay disciplined. Once you reach your goal weight, you will naturally exude a more positive energy, and women will find you more appealling.

[Asker]

its more like the feelings of rejection from over the years that resurface at my lowest points

[wildchild1]

If the past has been cruel, sometimes it's better to not think about it. Obviously easier said than done, but there are ways of dealing with this sort of thing. If it's something that is a hindrance to you, I would seek professional help. The success rates are high for these kinds of problems as they are quite common.

[TravisG]

You can use the rejections as a sign to lose weight. You can hang things up that was negative and you can use that for your motivation to lose weight. You can also research Dr. Sebi diet and that will also help you to lose weight.
Good Luck!

[TravisG]

Thanks for MHO! Glad I could help.

[Anonymous]

Are you eating healthy and drinking plenty of water? A lot of people drink their calories with juices and soda and then eating unhealthy it all adds up. I honestly prefer my guys to be on the bigger side so as long as your eating healthy and take care of yourself I don't see a problem. Don't worry about girls, the right one will come along just have fun and do things you want like go to school and get your career going, hang out with friends, go places and on adventures just enjoy life. I was 25 before I even got a boyfriend, your young and have plenty of time to find a girlfriend.

[rsstanford]

Working should be a journey to discover yourself and love yourself more. Make a goal for yourself like lose 2 pounds in a week. Then do something fun when you beat that goal. Don't worry about girls right now because as long as you hate yourself and are miserable no one will want you. So go on the self discovery to know and love yourself

[LyssaNicole]

Everyone is deserving of love. Never tell yourself otherwise. Never change yourself for anyone. Only change yourself for you!! Maybe start eating a little better. Good nutrients help you think more clearly and make better choices and deal with hard times in life. Maybe start doing yoga. If your depression is really bad then you should see a doctor and find a counselor! Hope I helped 😊

[Asker]

I've tried all those things, I just feel as though I have been hurt to much to even attempt to find self worth

[LyssaNicole]

You should try EMDR. It's through counseling. Look it up. Is very hard emotionally but works

[Anonymous]

You should see a professional. I tried to get my own anxiety and depression under control by myself for way too long and eventually it became unmanageable. There's no shame in it and I wish I'd seen someone when I was your age.

Good luck!

[Asker]

I dont really believe in anti depressants

[Opinion Owner]

It can be risky to take them at your age too. BUT There are many other helpful things. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy helped me. Also regular exercise, limiting caffeine, alcohol and sugar and meditation. A good doc will do more than push pills.

[wildchild1]

She's right. My brother was the same, and waited until he was 30 to get professional help. He had been dealing with some issues since the age of about 7 or 8. He's 33 now, and there is a dramatic improvement in his mental health.