Do people honestly think that their loved one with cancer is brave, a hero or a fighter?

[Anonymous]

Because having cancer doesn't make you any of those. It just makes you a victim.
Why do we put victims on pedastils?

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I swear I'm tired of seeing slogans like "I never knew bravery until I saw it in my mom". But having cancer never made her brave, it just made her unfortunate.

[truthbeknown]

Hmm. I know what you are saying. I also do not believe beating cancer makes you a hero or a fighter. Having cancer is bad luck, beating it is good luck. I think doctors who treat you or scientists who develop new medicines or procedures are the heros! I do get sorta sick and tired also of hearing all the "fighter" and "hero" talk. If you face cancer and probable death, does that make you brave, yes. That I agree with. But many people don't "fight" at all and beat it. Many people aren't "brave" at all and beat it. There are lots of other ways people's lives are in danger, but it seems that cancer does put people up on that pedestal.

[reptocarl]

They're facing death yet they go through their illness with dignity, grace, courage, and a positive attitude. That is brave and heroic something you'll never be

[Asker]

Yeah, because everyone who had cancer did that -_-
And even then by what messed up criteria would that make them brave or heroic?

[reptocarl]

I just told you coward

[Asker]

Facing death when you forced into that situation doesn't make you brave or heroic, no matter how you do it. Let me give you an analogy, if a stray dog got chased into a corner by a person, whether it barley broke their skin with a bite or ripped that persons' hand off, you wouldn't call the dog viscous, either way it was just defending themselves just like cancer patients, no matter how much "dignity, grace, courage, and a positive attitude" they have are just doing what they do to save their own life which is in NO WAY brave or heroic. And if you can't get this through your thick skull, that all their disease made them was a victim there's no point in this discussion.

DONE!!!

[reptocarl]

If all you can do is pick on someone with a terminal disease you're more yellow than a lemon. I know this much if I challenged you to a playground fight you wouldn't even show up you're such a pussy

[Anonymous]

I've seen you ask this before, you seem to really have something against people with cancer and keep asking it omg dude stop.

[Asker]

I don't have something against people with cancer I have something against portraying victims as heroes, and to show the world that all cancer does is make you a victim is the cause that I've dedicated my life to and so long as I see this rhetoric, I will never EVER giv up on my cause.

[Opinion Owner]

Yikes. Who care's if they're portrayed as hero's though? It isn't effecting you. These people could die, and often do, I think people just want them to feel " strong " so they can get through it as it's probably very very very scary. When people say they're brave, they want the person with cancer to believe it, you don't want someone who's very ill to be in deep depression constantly, if it helps them feel better before they pass away, then i don't see the problem with it.

[Opinion Owner]

I've never actually heard someone call another person with cancer a " hero ", just strong and brave, which like i said, is because the normal average person who is illness free can't imagine having to deal with the mental side effects of having a life threatening illness. thus labeling and calling that person brave and strong. I hope that make's sense. People with cancer aren't " heros" per say, but if they go about there day to day thing's though well sick, they very well are " strong " ( hate that word but what else is there to use? ) as being so ill can be very depressing and upsetting.

[Asker]

"People with cancer aren't " heros" per say, but if they go about there day to day thing's though well sick, they very well are " strong " ( hate that word but what else is there to use? ) as being so ill can be very depressing and upsetting." Instead of strong, here's another more appropriate word: VICTIM

[Opinion Owner]

Did you even read what i said? Yes they could be considered " victims " but what i'm saying and other people are too is that they're literally fighting for there lives and when they go about every day activities and stay positive well ill, that make's them "strong" to people.
I read your other comments, pls go and receive some kind of help. I'm sorry that your mother was abusive and happened to have cancer, but don't take that out on other cancer patients who have absolutely nothing to do with that. You seem very bitter, that's not a healthy way to live.

[Asker]

It's not that she was just an abusive person with cancer but that people said how could you say that about someone with cancer, and I could only hear that so many times before you decide to take action.
Also you don't fight diseases, you get treated for them.
And going on with a positive attitude doesn't make you any more brave as opposed to a victim. Lets say you chase a stray dog into a corner and it growls at you and you continue to approach it. Then it bites you and you say that it was "viscous" people would say that you're an idiot and that you shouldn't chase it into a corner. As for the whole "live their day to day lives with a positive attitude BS" well whether the dog gave you a nip or tor your hand open and took a few fingers, it wouldn't make it any more viscous if it was provoked and only defending itself. The same goes for cancer patients.

[Anonymous]

haven't you already asked this asinine question several times before...

[Asker]

As long as this rhetoric circulates I'll campaign against it and a long as I breather no one who posts that kind of BS will be spared my retribution.

[Opinion Owner]

Why does it matter so much to you? Why is it any business of yours how other people view people with cancer?

[Asker]

Because after my emotionally abusive mother died of cancer people made it my business when they said things like that "she was a hero for facing cancer, how could you say that about her". So I simply decided to take the offensive.

[Opinion Owner]

So because of one persons wrong doing your attacking an entire group of people? Sounds like youd really benefit from some intensive therapy...

[Asker]

1. I've tried that it didn't work
2. It wasn't my mom it was those people who had to force their beliefs that having cancer made her a hero on me, but what goes around comes around. I remember I made someone so butt hurt she left this site in tears.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow you sound like a real asshole, how can making some leave in tears make you happy.

Well on that happy note im done with you, have a nice life. Bye bye :)

[Asker]

Typical cop out, oh well.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MH lol :P

[Opethgirl09]

Oh Jesus. 😒😒

[Asker]

What do you mean oh jesus?

[Opethgirl09]

Just the ignorance of some people still surprises me sometimes.

[Asker]

Call it what you like, it's called reality and showing the world the truth that having cancer in no way makes one praiseworthy is the cause that I've dedicated my life to.

[Opethgirl09]

Congratulations.

[Opethgirl09]

You seem very dedicated to your cause by going anonymous. 😂

[Asker]

All advocates of causes that we now see as great (such as the abolishment of slavery) started out as anonymous faces.

[Opethgirl09]

Okay macho man 👌