How do I get rid of my depression?

[Anonymous]

My dream has always been to have a family. My problem is that I can't find a man. I've been in love only once in my life and that was with my ex. We were going to have a baby but I lost it. Soon after that our relationship ended. This was 1½ years ago. Since then I've been in a very deep depression. I don't know what to do anymore. I want to someone new to have a family with but I can't because I don't feel attracted to anyone and I never fall in love. There is nothing else I want in life. I don't care about career, money, travel or whatever. I want a family and that's the only thing I truly want in life. But I can't have it. How can learn to accept it? How can I learn to accept that I lost the love of my life and our baby? And how can I get out of this depression?

[raio81597]

First thing to know is that neither losing the love of your life or your baby was your fault as it seems to me. He made his choice to not want a family, and it had less to do with you than you think and beating yourself up over it will not bring a better man into your life, in fact the good ones will not stay or fail to show up until you show up, and when you do you must show up high value. Beating yourself up over this is not high value. Acceptance is a choice, you can't change the past no amount of wishing or penance will change what happened, yet doing the right thing by yourself and treating yourself better can change your tomorrow. I don't care if you were blamed or lost both intentionally, whatever happened, happened. I think your self esteem is very low and know you can really recover from this if you want to and help is available if you seek it out. You will never fulfill your dream of family if you stay stuck where you are now.

[cth96190]

Ask your doctor for a referral to a psychiatrist.
What you have written indicates that you have a problem that requires assessment and (if required) treatment by a qualified professional.
In addition to what the psychiatrist may prescribe, or recommend, I can tell you what helps me.
If you go to the US Food and Drug Administration database www.pubmed.com you will find that there are published trials which showed that a daily dose of at least 8,000mg of omega 3 (fish oil) each day will reduce the symptoms of depression.
Exercise. When we exercise our bodies produce endorphins, which make us feel happier.
Exercise will also help to keep you in shape that will make you more attractive to men.
I understand your situation. I have lived it from the male side of the fence.

[lizziepooh03]

I am think you should see someone since you indicate that you are in a deep depression. Random people on the internet are not qualified to give advice on depression so I believe you should see someone professionally.

As for how to move on, I found it easier once I realized that I was pining after what might have been or what could have been even more than what was. It was hard giving that up. It was a real as if it happened, that dream/potential of what could have been.

But with time, I did get over it. And I was able to be open to finding someone new and eventually I did find him. It does happen. You just have to open to it.

You will get there. In the meantime, speak with someone professionally to deal with your depression.

Sending good thoughts your way. :)

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

falling in love or being in love with someone doesn't mean your required to have kids, most guys dont want kids, and you shouldn't be obsessed with the idea, girls who are obsessed with wanting kids are a turn off to many guys, and wanting a guy just to have a family (kids) isn't love at all.

[Wikingguy]

I think you deserved it. Karma really exists. Do you lose the baby intentionally?

[Asker]

No I did not! And I have never done anything to deserve this!

[lizziepooh03]

Ignore him. That was someone trying to get a response.

[reptocarl]

I'm interested

[bcromartie]

Drugs.