My body insecurities are getting worse?

[Sheralston]

Okay, so I was a little chubby two years ago and I lost so much weight, I look completely different right now and I do realize that, the thing is that whatever I do and wherever I'm getting at I still have body insecurities and they're getting worse each day. I know all the talk about how I should love myself and how my body isn't so bad and I'm no where near fat and all that stuff, in fact if I chatted with someone about those stuff I know that I will 100% convince them to love themselves, but when it comes to myself it never happens, realizing that only models that have that super flat stomach and that they dedicated their life to look that good and that it's their job to look like that never helped me, it made everything worse. I feel like that inside of me two different people one that is incredibly confident and the other is incredibly insecure and when one of those takes over the other ruins it all. I did reach so many goals that I set for myself and with each goal I reach I find a problem in it, for example I wanted a thigh gap and when I did get it I felt like my behind looks so flat so I did so many squads and ate to gain weight from my behind and when I did I felt my thighs are so fat. Also my worst issue is my stomach pooch, it's the most that I'm insecure about, whenever I wear a dress I literally wear everything to try and hide it, if I see a picture from like 100 pictures of me looking bad I would cry all day, I literally cry every time I go to the pool. If one of my friends comment on someone's body I fear that they think of me like that too. Everyone around me is totally fed up with my body insecurity issues, my mom has no idea what to do, if she says I look skinny I would tell her she's just saying so, if she agrees with me that I have a problem area I would cry and tell her she's saying I'm fat, I myself am totally fed up with my issues, and that I'm aware of them but I have no idea how to get rid of those insecurities.

[dogbert444]

Ever been to one of these amusement places where they have mirrors that distort you? Some make you look 10 feet tall. Others make you look 10 feet wide! Now, that's what you're looking at! Go find another mirror that tells you the truth.

It will tell you that WHATEVER shape you are, so many guys will find you hot! If you're skinny, it will be one lot of guys. If you're chubby, it will be a different lot!

I won't tell you my preferences, except to say that, without seeing a photo, you're probably darned near perfect.

What to do? Try the brainwashing trick. Every morning, as soon as you get out of bed, stand in front of that mirror, nude or clothed, and say out loud, "I am Sheralston! I am perfect and I love myself". Don't even miss one day. The power of the brain can be used to boost your confidence in the opposite way to how it's working at the moment. Soon, you will agree, and say, "Yup! I ain't too bad, after all! I'm just fine"!

[Yanoa_Yanza]

I'm honestly curious about what you look like, because MOST people who post in the 'How do I look?' section are Eights for me

[Xfitchick]

Look around at normal everyday life people, not at the pfotoshopped anorexic models of the magazines or the superathletes that train hours a day and follow a spartan diet to achieve their goals. Everybody is different and has to live with it. Perfect bodies are only in the very small tails of the statistical curve and they are only there for a short time period.