Why don't some guys smile when a girl smiles at them?

[Anonymous]

They either have this evil look,blank look,or serious look it gets me confused. Is it because a lot guys don't like to smile?

[-StillWater-]

This is kind of fascinating actually! =)

Yep, yep, I know what you mean.

Only two guys have not smiled at me (on only one occasion - different dudes, different occasions). So 2 times I got no smile for my smile. xD Haha

Okay, the first one was this guy I once knew, who never ever EVER smiled! Once, after some time, I was just being me, we where hanging out and joking around and he started smiling! It was crazy cool! I felt like I accomplished something! From then on, he always smiled at me when I smiled at him.

This other dude (who's been looking/gazing/staring at me for over 2 years now) could stare at me, and would smile at me, but once, we where talking and he didn't understand the joke I made (I guess not everyone does) so I laughed, but he just sat there confused...with a stupid look on his face.

I guess they have to know you before they smile at you. . . (some of them)

Most of the guys here just smile at a girl when the girl smiles at them. It's a politeness thing I think.

Hope I helped

*StillWater*

[BunnyToast]

I have noticed this too actually. I usually give a big, happy smile to everyone I know in the hall. Most all of the girls reciprocate with a smile but most guys it is just... a strange look. Never anything seemingly positive, even if they are my friend. XD

[Warren]

I guess it really is a guy thing, but it is almost inexplicably disturbing to have someone smile at you before you've even said anything. That is what the wave is for! Long-distance hellos. (Welcome to the male brain.) There's a gal on campus who always does it to me, she greets me with a massive smile and I KNOW I should smile back... but I don't. I do a crappy little wave and say hello when I'm close enough, hoping she doesn't take it the wrong way. *sigh* I need a clown mask. Yes. Big smile.

[BunnyToast]

Yes, I suppose females smiling and males waving is a bridge we will never cross. XD At least now I know that it is not /usually/ with bad intentions.

[Asker]

i never tried waving cause I thought it'd be too straightforward lol. I think I'll try.

[Warren]

It seems like many girls just smile instinctively... they see you, catch your eye, smile, and keep walking. Almost like an uncontrollable reflex. As such I generally only smile if I think she is smile directly at me because.. it's me. Not because she was caught looking at me and didn't know what to do. xD And like the two guys before me I don't smile without cause, and a random smile from a random passing gal doesn't quite cut it.

It also doesn't help that it is difficult to (lol.) find the proper, ehm... smile strength. How much do you smile when you're just passing someone? A little? My 'little' smile looks more like a grimace. Big? Shit-eating grins make me feel like a clown. I can't fake a smile AT ALL. So unless I'm genuinely happy or laughing I look odd trying to reciprocate.

[Asker]

Now getting a grimace is scary lol. One day I smiled at a guy he grimaced at me and I called him a jerk. Then I end up seeing him months later he looks all peaceful and stuff. I ask remember when you grimaced at me. He says his way pissed that day. So I guess assuming too much can mess things up too.

[curiouschica]

That's very interesting...so what WOULD make you smile back? =)

[Warren]

Uhm.. someone I know giving me a reason to smile. I just don't do the 'smile as hello' thing. Feels awkward. If the smile comes off naturally, fine, but I HATE forcing myself to do it to satisfy a social requirement -- "Oh, she smiled at me so now I have to smile back. Crap." Meh no. I'll say "Hello." and leave the smiling for a later date! :D

[Asker]

or I smile when someone looks like there having a bad day,which usually doesn't always get a smile back.

[johnny_hustle]

I don't know, if a girl smiles at me I will generally smile back, but the smile won't mean anything. Unless she does a cute I want you kind of smile. I can walk by plenty of women, smile at them and say hi or hey. and just keep walking. Just being nice. Why other guys don't is beyond me.

[Ciaogirl]

i don't know! I get it all the time and I'm like uh okay oh awkward. It's frickin weird. my guy friend said its because they don't really realize what's going on and they don't process your looking at them and being friendly.. I don't know, he's pretty stupid. hahha

[curiouschica]

lol

[kidblue]

well I know with me I don't smile that much anyway...if a girl smiled at me I'd probably have a confused look because most likely I don't know her so I'd be wonderin what she was up to lol

[martyfellow]

A lot of guys thik it's somehow 'manly' not to smile, and there are some girls who buy nto that, so that behaivor ges encouraged.

None of this applies in China though, probably actually nowhere outside the US.

[Anonymous]

this used to happen to me sometimes I think guys do it when they don't think you're pretty and don't want to encourage you.

i don't really smile at people anymore. I stopped doing that recently. I live in the south so I became accustomed to doing that, but now I think it's stupid. I don't know you, and you don't know me, what is the point of smiling at each other like we're friends.

[Verimas]

I don't want to because I really don't want a girl to think/know I like her so ihide it

[Ainvar]

Cuz either there not in the smiling mood or the stupid and trying to look bad @$$.

[Jager66]

i have a hard time not smiling back at people who smile at me, I have been working really hard to change that because I really don't like smiling at women.

[likewoahhh]

why is that?

[Spacemen3]

i feel stupid smiling, if I don't have a valid reason.

[Anonymous]

lol eveil look

maybe they were caught off guard

[jkjk123]

or they could be uninterested in your come ons

[Shaun]

bad teeth