How can one cope when overcoming a horrible illness?

[dmm31888]

I was diagnosed with sepsis from a kidney infection which caused organ damage and I was in the hospital for a week and out of work for almost two months. I was told that if I didn’t have emergency surgery I would have died. I have decided I can no longer handle the career I once had due to the physical demands of the job and am trying to change careers completely. I don’t want my family or friends to judge me based on this. How do I cope?

[SecretsofKB]

I'm a nurse and my department works with patients pretty much exactly like you.

I've seen every possible manner of coping (or, honestly, not coping) with their condition. Changing your career with the reasoning you have shows me that you are honestly on the right track for positively coping with this event.

And true friends and family will NOT judge you for this, and will instead be supportive of YOUR decision to do what's best for YOUR body and life.

Coping well with something like this means you cannot let it control every aspect of your life. Somethings are it of control, but you just have to adjust and continue forward as best as you can.

Use this to make you stronger and you will be just fine. Good luck!!! I wish you all the best!!!

[TrueConfection]

My body went through something similar last year. Death was on my doorstep too. It was an adjustment for everyone at first. I'm extremely grateful that I am alive. I feel amazing now. But I'll be honest, my family is still treating me differently. I didn't have to change careers, so that is an added layer you have too deal with. I'm happy for you that you have another chance too. This is a blessing in disguise!

[dmm31888]

Hi Thankyou for the message. I’m glad I’m not the only one that went through a near death experience. My family treats me different too. Not in a bad way, just more worried about me all the time, especially my mother. Unfortunately, I have to change careers because what I was doing was very physical and hours were super weird. I was constantly pestered by them when I was out asking me when I was coming back. I had to be out of work for a few months.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately these Things happen suddenly I hope you get better with time. Family and friends supposed to support you and do their job as family and friends or else they're fake. I was amazed about some family members they were fake as hell so for some friends they were fake.

I'm such critical time you will know who's true and who's fake. As for now take plenty of rest to recover from the surgery and everything once you're fine change career don't pay much attention for what they say or judge it's your life you have a surgery and you're doing what works for you life changes up n down you will make it.

Good luck

[dmm31888]

Yes I know who my real family is and who isn’t.

[abc3643]

Why should they "judge" you? You had a life-threatening illness.

Look: Ask yourself this: What would they do if they were in my shoes?
The answer is that they'd do the same exact thing you are.
So, don't worry.

YOUNG PEOPLE: YOU HAVE GOT TO GET OVER THIS IMMATURE CONCEPT OF WORRYING ABOUT JUDGMENT. NO ONE ELSE IS GOING TO LIVE YOUR LIFE AND NO ELSE IS GOING TO DIE WITH YOU. OTHER PEOPLE CAN GO FUCK THEMSELVES. THE ONLY PEOPLE WHOSE OPINION MATTERS ARE:
1) YOUR SPOUSE
2) YOUR KIDS
3) ANYONE WHOSE OPINION AFFECTS YOUR ABILITY TO SURVIVE (like a boss at a job).

[Dburns1268]

Why would true friends... and I mean a true friend, "judge" u for getting sick, realizing you have limits and u want to make changes to accommodate. If your "friends" and especially your family do this... exile them to the island and out of your life
Don't need them!!!

[dmm31888]

Yes I agree with this. Money isn’t everything and when your health is gone, you can’t work period. No health, no wealth.

[exitseven]

I just had a total hip replacement and there are things I can no longer do. I also changed careers later in life. It was not easy but it is doable. The Bureau of Labor keeps statistics on people who retrain for a new career. Only one in ten succeed. Make sure you train for a career that is in demand.

[Fuentes]

Nobody can judge you but God you do what you can do as an adult cause health is most important fuck everything else

[dmm31888]

Yes I agree. My last job was horrible. They would constantly bother me when they damn well knew I was on medical leave asking when I was coming back. They knew well what date I was coming back. They just wanted to make me miserable and guilty because I wasn’t working

[Fuentes]

Yeah them bugging you during medical leave could be considered harassment lol so I don't know your state laws but in cali they can get introuble for. that

[dmm31888]

Aah I didn’t know that. I’m in ohio actually so I don’t know if that’s considered harassment here or not. They even had the nerve to call relatives of mine looking for me.

[jennifer_bloom]

Medicinal mushrooms - the legal kind - can help with kidney disease - do a Google search to see which kind you should take - Reishi is affordable if you get the organika brand online, other brands are good too but cost more money.

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

The other kind can help with stress, anxiety, understanding, and finding where you fit into the world and where you need change.

But, they can also land you in the middle of nowhere running for your life and/or unable to even eat a slice of pizza or explain to the helpful strangers where you live.

So, start small and definetly don't drive or leave the house/yard.

[Iron_Man]

Train Hard be positive think positive pray about it over come it

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Hope that others do their civic duty by protecting others, as well as themselves

[jimmy2]

God bless you

[dmm31888]

Thankyou

[Calgarydirty69]

suck it up princess

[dmm31888]

You’re an ass.

[dmm31888]

Go fuck yourself