Kryptonite is a fictional substance from the original Superman comic book series, and is a substance that causes Superman to become weak when exposed to it. It's the same concept as 'Achille's heel', a Greek mythology concept about a single vulnerability, which all beings have, even seemingly strong and all-powerful ones.
It could be in your mind, your relationship, or any other part of life.These are all actually Vivianite. I'm sure 'kryptonite' was based off of this.I'm not really sure what mine would be. On a physical level, I cannot handle thrill rides, adventure sports, and spicy food. I stay away from all of that stuff. It's not fun for me, it's unpleasant-stressful. On a psychological level, it might be hyperactive people who can't sit still, and even all conversation with them bounces around frantically so that you can never get in-depth with anything with them. I'm the complete opposite. Calm physically, and I like to go deep when I do learn about or talk about things. Surface, shallow stuff drives me bonkers if that's all there is. Levity and playfulness is great in between depth, but I need both. I can't be around people with no attention span or focus.
I think I'm very intolerant to intolerance coming from hypersensitivity, which might make me as guilty as the types of people who upset me. I want to cancel the cancel culture, so to speak. :-D It upsets me a lot that people are amassing to censor controversial thoughts and works of art.
On a related note, I had a little sister (we are half-Asian and half-white) who constantly got offended when strangers would ask her a question as seemingly innocent as "where are you from?" She seemed to assume that the only reason she was being asked that question was because of her biracial looks. This might have been before sociology departments started coining the term, "micro-aggression", but I think she felt "micro-aggressed" to put it in today's terms.
Yet I think that's an untenable assumption to be making and not giving others the benefit of the doubt and faulting the speaker for offending the listener rather than the listener. Even if she was sometimes correct in her assumption that people who approached her and asked her where she's from only did such things to people who looked like a foreigner to their eyes, that's still a pretty petty reason to get upset and potentially get into an argument. I only see a world where wars are fought over increasingly petty matters if everyone were to be so easily offended like this.
So, as odd as it sounds, I'm somewhat hypersensitive to hyper-sensitive people which might make me a little bit of a hypocrite. I get easily offended over the fact that they are so easily offended. :-D But I look at such people and just see a world of endless and needless arguing and fighting and stifling, workplaces where everyone feels the need to walk on eggshells, and more underground cliques forming among people with controversial opinions who just amplify and reinforce each other's thoughts to the point of turning into a mob.
Yet I also think it's a heavily censored world is going to be a world where people are slower to change their minds in a way that reduces conflict -- not faster -- since I suspect a stifled mind is more likely to simpy seek out an environment (perhaps even an underground group) and reinforce its most divisive and conflict-ridden opinions. I think it's far less likely for the stifled mind to simply change when it's not free to express itself. Meanwhile, when the mind is free to express itself in an open environment, that's when I think it has the highest probability of gradually changing for the better as it meets some open resistance without being stifled.
Interesting. I'm glad you're back. I'm still trying to interpret your latest incarnation, but not quite sure what persona it will represent.
"... and more underground cliques forming among people with controversial opinions who just amplify and reinforce each other's thoughts to the point of turning into a mob." I don't think it's the stifling causing this. It's the broadcasting which is causing this. It's creating an amassing.
It sounds fairly logical, what you're saying. But I think it's just one angle; it could go another way, also. Speaking one's mind, fully, completely, is not every human's right. It's only the internet that has made this the crowning glory, something that's either without impunity and represents full freedom, or is the marker of oppression and dictatorship or some other such nonsense. There are risks, and repercussions to speaking one's mind. I think parts of the world (and especially America) is absolutely obsessed with this idea right now. It's because the internet has separated everyone, while simultaneously providing a loudspeaker.
Females tend to huddle together and whisper these thoughts. It may be to one person at a time, or a small group. Men gather in dark bars and talk to the guy sitting on the next stool over. (For example.) Now every motherfucking asshole and entitled bitch can make a channel and spew their absolute crap out into the ether, AND gain millions of views, and sometimes followers. They're looking for their tribe - an often pathetic mini army of misguided like-minds to band together, and 'fight' the world, as only 'keyboard warriors' can.
Speaking your mind puts you at risk of 1. Getting knocked out with a good swift punch, or 2. Being ostracized. There are no stop-gaps anymore, except blocking, which is in full use, often recklessly (but that's debatable and pointless to try and dissect each and every occurrence.)
"... a heavily censored world is going to be a world where people are slower to change their minds in a way that reduces conflict -- not faster..." I don't know. We're both censored, and uncensored. I think it's a pretty equal push-pull, two opposing forces, that are each creating the presence of the other. I used to be quite clearly on one side of this. Now I am dead square in the middle, of two minds about sensitivity run amok, and freedom of speech run amok. It's fucking exhausting, is what it is.
Anyway, thanks for the thoughts. It is mentally-stimulating as usual.
I agree with the bulk of that. I think there's a big difference between expressing opinions in a civil way and a belligerent way though. When I see people though that angry mobs are seeking to cancel, like even a JK Rowling whose overall views I disagree with, I don't think her opinions are expressed in an incendiary or particularly offensive way. If there's any ignorance to her opinions, then I think people should be free to express their ignorance provided there's no hostility or inflammatory aspect behind it if only so that other people using an equally reasonable tone can challenge their thoughts in a civil discussion.
To give an idea of where I'm coming from, I love this video from an ex-Westboro Baptist church member (it's a very incendiary church where the members used to hold very offensive signs like "God hates fags!" at funerals of deceased homosexuals). https://youtu.be/bVV2Zk88beY You can skim through it but she converted and left that hate group not by being censored but by talking to people in a civil way on social media. Then she found them so reasonable and kind with their opinions and perspectives which were so different from hers that she started gradually questioning her views on things to the point of leaving that church.
If she was simply censored, like banned from social media, she might still be a member of that hateful church.
When I'm dissapointed it usually reinforces that fear/weakness, like this is what you get for reaching for more than what you have, know your place, you'll always disappoint, etc.
I know it's toxic though, and I've been trying to work at it, but it's still by far my biggest weakness!
Thanks exitseven, I appreciate you ☺️
Amanda, although we haven't known each other for long, do you think I do that thing where I derail the conversation a lot? Im pretty low energy but I do struggle with focus, and I would definitely like to work on better conversation skills. Kinda ironic that I'm derailing the convert right now but I would appreciate your thoughts.
I feel you. I have sort of an offshoot of the disappointment thing. I much prefer [need, actually] not to get my hopes up about things that are merely distant or a longshot, etc. It doesn't harm me [psychologically] if I don't spend too much time daydreaming about it, which can create an entrenched sort of desire, and which inevitably often ends up resulting in a profound sense of loss. I think without dreamers/dreaming, we humans would not try as hard as we sometimes do. And for some, disappointment doesn't incapacitate them as much as some others. [Perhaps the biggest keys/secrets to life are 1. Picking oneself up after 'failure', disappointment, loss, and 2. Adaptability: being able to adapt to whatever one's circumstances. Yet, knowing these thoroughly does not necessarily facilitate such intentions to be any easier to realize. Ha. There's a mouthful.] I just know that I am a realist [though apparently an idealist, which is a pretty big head-scratcher], and I much prefer to have realistic expectations, and be pleasantly surprised [shocked, in a good way], now and then.
And speaking of derailment [not], no way. I never for one second ever thought of you as a person who may derail conversation. No, you are a depth person; that, I believe. I think only sensitive-to-others people ask this q. That's the pattern I've seen. Yes, it's a valid and pertinent q; especially in this often over-sensitive world. We all have to try to strike the right balance between concern and listening, and the natural impulse or inclination to bring it back to the self, one's own experience of the world.
It's definitely possible that some think I do that too much. But I'm not all thaaat worried about it, because I know I'm also an attentive, deep, listener, and tend to spend hours with people, on whatever topic they want/need. I would hazard to guess you are just like this. Your observations, from what I have read, are very sound. It's difficult not to share them, you see the big picture, how things connect. Perhaps the 'why' of the lack of focus is key. Do you have too many thoughts, sometimes? Are you a more organized writer than speaker? Generally fatigued or stressed? I, personally, like low energy [calm energy.] Frantic does me in, tires me. I think there's too many people who talk too much, without breath in between. I'd like to say it's the Podcast/youtuber effect, but I highly doubt every single person in a two-some I see walking around and talking without breath, has a channel or podcast. It's just this cathartic thing people [need?] to do, I suppose, get it out. People don't really, deep down, just want to vent, and then receive silence. They do want feedback, just at the 'right' time. It's irritating to be interrupted, sure, but sometimes there are very pertinent reasons for it, such as avoiding unnecessary repetition, or keeping the real issue on point. There are worse sins, in my opinion. (My husband may disagree on that, but I'm trying to reign in, not derail, ha.) I also suspect that you are more likely to be detrimental to yourself, than others. (But let's not go full tilt here, shall we. Mustn't overstep. Armchair philosophers do have their limits...) Perhaps you need one of those terribly cliche posters in your basement next to the pipe and sheet rock and free weights, 'Dare to dream' with a fearless hang-glider. On second thought, eegh, I shudder...
Thanks once again Amanda for a very insightful response! I completely agree with the secrets of life, but it's definitely something I struggle with. I know I shouldn't internalize mistakes but I don't seem to have the same mental fortitude of others to be able to shrug it off easily. I tend to overanalyze it, but I try not to. It's hard to change your way of thinking!
I'm not sure but I think I would also be a mix of realist and idealist, but pessimistic only when it comes to myself. Working on that though :)
I appreciate your assurance re: derailment! It really means a lot to me, there's not many people I can ask something like that. I definitely feel more comfortable writing over talking, because my thoughts are a mess sometimes and I struggle to get it out coherently. Don't worry about overstepping, your opinion is always valued by me :)
Yes I need a cropped picture of a lion on black background with the words COURAGE under it in white block text 😂
You're right about kryptonite being a fictional abstraction of a real substance which is the element Krypton which has low level radioactive properties, but krypton gas is on the periodic table and kryptonite is not so it is mentioned frequently in all manner of comics and novels of the DC Superman series and the two types of kryptonite I'm familiar with in that franchise is red kryptonite and green kryptonite red kryptonite makes Superman evil and crazy but it still has a superpowers green kryptonite destabilizes his cell structure and weakens him but when exposed to human beings gives human beings superpowers so to answer your question I'd have to know what comparison you're using kryptonite as a metaphor for the kryptonite that makes Superman weak or the same kryptonite that makes humans powerful because if you're asking me to answer this from the human perspective then I'd have to say that coffee maybe Red Bull, fresh fruit, and the equally imaginary ambrosia of the Greek God's favorite food. Oh yeah also it's time to believe half the BS or drill sergeants tried to force fetus rice and push-ups yeah according to them rice and push-ups would make us impervious to nuclear detonations Soviet AK-47s and parachute malfunctions because both bounce off of us falling 10,000 ft without a shoot opening would only tickle a little bit and are almost dangerous weapon would not be a rifle but the guns swing between your legs all because of eating rice three times a day and doing push-ups all day and all night while singing "🤜🎖️CO, CO can't you see👁️, this little run🏃🏃♀️🏃♂️ ain't nothin to me😤⚠️⚠️ I can run all day, I can run all night, I can run, run, run, till I'm out of sight👀🎖️⚠️⚠️🤛" If we believed half the things they told us about what rice and a refusal to disobey company commander's orders, basically we would not allowed to die, unless he gives us authorization to do so 🤯! From the mortal sane not full of military hooah BS hype delusional team spirits stuff the Army tried to brainwashes with, which is we don't actually have to be bulletproof we just have to believe we are. HHUUUUWWAAAA💥 OKAY LET ME PUT THIS WAY IF I'M A HUMAN EXPOSED TO KRYPTONITE I GET SUPER POWERS IF I'M SUPERMAN SUPPOSED TO KRYPTONITE I LOSE SUPER POWERS IF I EAT RICE AND YOU PUSH-UPS ALL THE TIME THEN MY SUPERPOWERS DEFINITELY TRUMP SUPERMAN AND SUPERPOWERS BECAUSE RICE MAKES ME INDESTRUCTIBLE IMPROVE US EVERYTHING AND SO FOR MY OWN BS THAT I ACTUALLY COME TO BELIEVE IN MYSELF.
I think we have more "kryptonites" then we know of, as it relates to myself, I don't believe in discussing ones weaknesses so I will therefore make my speculative diagnoses generalizable as to what I think ails people and keeps them from being more productive and contented. 1. Faulty concept of leisure: When leisure is seen as the opportunity to be lazy as opposed to being a portal into doing something you enjoy (such as painting, playing the piano or simply walking down the garden path), then people will become habituated into a cycle of indefinite relaxation where their day job is seen as a task to be overcome in order to re-acquire a state of relaxation. Perpetual relaxation morphs into existential indeterminism because it does not promote continuation but stagnation even though someone may believe that the attainment of new amenities to induce relaxation fulfils ones purpose properly-called. 2. Rumination: No ethical theory is complete, which is why we should do what feels right as opposed to ruminating about our past mistakes. One should do what interests them and what will improve themselves. Ones problems cannot be solved by thinking alone, but by thinking and doing. Sometimes it does not occur to me that I can both think and work at the same time much like how the gap between moving and breathing correctly is not noticed by the novice athlete. 3. Envy-by-comparison: People ruminate over how successful they are in-comparison to other people. The type of rumination leads to one having an emotive outlook on life's probabilities. 4. Lust: The Will to receive sexual gratification can lead to frustration and rumination when one seeks to date someone to off-set their desires.
People who are obsessed with politics. I mean extreme, life consuming obsession. Judgement of every person - completely based on which political party they have chosen. It’s like there is so much more to a human than just who they voted for. So much more important in life. And the stereotypes applied by the extremists are just wrong. Most of us have a lot more in common, way more in common that should unite us. But these people go on and on and on in the most divisive way, won’t consider or respect any other viewpoint, and spew hate and bitterness constantly based on political scenarios. And if you don’t agree with them, they consider you a zero. Cannot stand people like that, don’t want to be around them.
Damn straight. 💯 It doesn't need to be this way. Being this way is a choice. How the hell do those people today think anyone else with differences ever got along? Not by digging in one's heels.
My mentality works against me a lot. Impulsiveness, forgetfulness, easily distracted, inattentive, losing things, etc. All of these are exaggerated when I'm nervous. And in my weird new work environment I'm very nervous, which doesn't look kindly on my competency. I'm self conscious that I look stupid in front of my workmates. Though on the bright side they can be overcome with enough time. I've done it before in another job position for the same company.
More good new: I appreciate the crystals. I'll maybe have one in my collection : )
I guess mine would be shallow people. But more than that, people who are so convinced that they are bright and informed but are actually closed-minded, dogmatic and self righteous. It never occurs to them that they might not know everything and that their knowledge might actually be shallow.
I learned long ago that my opinions may not be fully informed. I've been misguided before. So I constantly seek out as much information as possible without prejudice. I sort bias and bullshit from evidence. I formulate opinions (as opposed to beliefs) based on information. And I modify or change my opinions over time as new information becomes available.
So my kryptonite would probably be people who are so certain in their beliefs that they would use force to impose them on others.
Let me start off by saying, as a very sort of hyperactive woman, I apologize now if we meet in person lmao
My kryptonite though is guilt. Even if someone else is completely at fault, I still end up feeling guilt about it for some reason and start apologizing to them even if I was the aggrieved party.
Perhaps your guilt is not fully guilt, but more of a reflex to avoid awkwardness. ? Conflict resolution is a huge albatross, and I think many people don't do it as well as they should/could (myself included, but I've been working on this and much, much, better than I used to be.) Also, what if you, instead of ending up in this state of guilt, over and over, cut it off at the pass, but instead doing things consciously, actively, like setting boundaries more often with people? Just a suggestion. Guilt can be imposed by others, as a sort of oppressive tactic (often conscious, sometimes not), or it can be a mindset, purely self-imposed, and for little benefit.
I love a G&T too. What are your preferred gins? I have tried quite a few, but I think my general favourite is the basic Beefeater. I've decided I like it more than Bombay Sapphire or Hennessy.
I don't know about women, but every man's kryptonite is two things: 1. If his testicles are in the palm of your hand, he is at your mercy... willingly. 2. If you know what his fetish is and can indulge it, he will be 100% focused on you because your are feeding his insatiable appetite.
My good intentions. Sounds cheesy, but my good intentions often led to some people and friends exploiting me. Experience and time were teachers though.
That's at least a better place to be than questioning who's the sane one. Once you get back to realizing you're the calm centre (and the one who drives the commercial van full of people to the airport), exploitation is a more workable state (that can be stopped) than questioning if one brought on the chaos themselves by any unconscious action. [They did not.]
I'm not American and I wasn't personally taking offence to it; but thanks for the specification. I do think that makes the statement somewhat more reasonable. (I've read thousands of comments about this so I know it's not just you feeling this way.)
Well I started watching it in hopes of seeing lots of verifiable examples of how girls think, what's going on, but there was only 2 min of girls, and then this guy 'analyzing' and he shouldn't have a channel either, frankly. He is far from expert. See, this is the problem (one of many): anybody can create a channel now, and there are too many people listening, getting life advice, from people who have no business doling it out. Ever heard the old phrase, 'They don't know shit from Shinola'? Yeah, we need to do some forest clear cutting of about half the youtubers out there.
Darius is not an expert, he thinks he is. The videos speak for themselves though. It's just one of many examples. This is what younger women are aspiring to be. I encounter them on this very site often. They think they're hot shit. When I used dating apps chicks fatter than me thought I was too fat! LOL WHAT? They list they want a muscular or athletic guy and it's insane for them to think they should expect of deserve that. This one YTer Courtney Ryan agrees with him on a lot of what he says. At least she agrees on why there's a disconnect, just not always the reasoning. I'll say let's cut YT down sure, but remove Tik Tok and IG cancer too, PLEASE lmfao. If could list all kinds of videos of women just ratting on themselves on Tik Tok MGTOW compilations. You can even look that up on YT. The shit these girls say blows the mind.
You're right. It's remiss of me to exclude TikTok and Insta. It's difficult to not go on a tirade about the lack of critical thinking skills, seeing decline in intelligence, and rising entitlement, and fixation on ego, etc etc. But they, that's not the topic here. I'll stop now. (P. S. I've also seen a lot of footage of girls in those countries, and it ain't no picnic on the other side of the world either. Different problems, but still problems.)
@AmandaYVR yes and I'm well aware that by going there I could end up on the wrong side of a knife blade lol. I have already considered the mosquitos, the shitty humidity, the drugs and violence. But I'm at this point willing to go through all that to find actual love. Not the finite thing western women call love that's here today and gone tomorrow. You know how scary it is once a man starts making 6 figures? How he had to spend all those years grinding, hustling, being on his purpose, all alone, broke, rock bottom, often times no sleep and sick, to then have some woman who manipulated him into believing love exists in current year to then take it all away? That's why men are killing themselves in droves.
I guess people especially females, aside from work where I am paid to be around people, I avoid them like crazy especially females as I can no longer even talk to females outside of work.
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