Are muscles really that important?

Question

You hear all the time people saying that girls like guys that have muscles. But are they truly that important?

I'm 18, 5'9" and 135lbs. Pretty skinny, but I like being that way. I like being skinny, it's easier to run that way (I'm a runner). Yet I find girls often pass me over for the guy with big muscles. Should I start lifting to get more muscles?

PeterCobra · Accepted Answer

okay I have seen this "need" stated by girls all over this site and this is where I have decided to rant about it: its weird how girls are always talking about this "feel safe/protected" thing but they have no idea how to measure that in a guy. you can not look at a guy and tell if he is going to fight to the death for you or run the other way if something goes down. the scariest most dangerous dude I have ever met was a 5'8" 165 lb russian sambo instructor and former Spetsna for the russian military and has killed tons of people. the nicest most laid back guy you could ever meet. you would never know it to look at him. he moved here to the states and works on a plantation. and the biggest pu$$y I have ever know is a friend of my brothers who is 6'6 and 245 lbs. he works out and looks in shape but he once left his girlfriend at a party where a big fight broke out because he didnt' want to get beat up. and the 2 times he has been in a fight, he got beat to a bloody heap both times by guys around 150lbs. and ironically he is always cocky and running his mouth. girls have NO IDEA how to tell if a guy knows how to handle himself. guys can usually tell a little better with other guys if they are somebody you want to mess with or not. but girls are absolutely clueless. if he is tall and talks a lot of $h!t...they think he will carry her through a fire or something like on the cover of one of these cheesy romance novels. all I'm saying is: if girls are gonna make it that big of a deal to feel safe and protected, at least do your homework. that's like us guys looking at a girls and saying that because she is a little heavy that she is a great cook and is going to love to stay in the kitchen cooking for us all the time.

moloz · Accepted Answer

I'm 19, 6'4 or 6'5" and about ~155 lbs, so I guess I'm as skinny as you compared to weight-height ratio.

I started working out by myself a few months ago and I really look at least better. They're mostly recovery from my back problems, anyway and besides, helped me gain weight by eating a more protein based died (eggs, yogurt, meat, etc).

Generally, no, not THAT important. But in the ultimate end, it's just a bonus. Being a little toned is like a girl with average size boobs and/or nice ass/legs. It's not entirely a must for us guys, but it can be very nice. It's all in our subconscious, man.

Tamikaze · Accepted Answer

I personally am not into a runner's physique. I like muscle. However, I don't date bodies and I don't fall in love with a person because of their body. I think 5'9", 135 pounds and your age all put you in a category of being fine. I recall a guy telling me, before I met him, that he was painfully thin. He was not kidding. He was a bike rider and at our age, in our 40's, painfully thin is super unattractive. But that alone did not kill anything further. We just did not click in any other way.

If you like the way you are, let it be and wait for the girl who likes you the way you are, too. If you want to change up your physique for yourself, then do it. Good luck!

ShootingStar5 · Accepted Answer

Actually most girls don't like muscles on guys all that much.

Somebody already asked a similar question here and got a lot of ansers: link

This was my reply to the question...

I don't. I think super muscly guys are gross looking to be honest. A little definition is nice, it shows that you're healthy and in shape. But when you start lookin all lumpy it starts looking gross. Also, bigger isn't always better. Some muscle on the arms is nice, but so many guys over do it and end up looking like a giant tick.

Do: link

Dont: link

Sue1989 · Accepted Answer

Would you rather date a girl that's with you because she loves your heart, your personality and being with you and who thinks you're the most attractive when you feel good about yourself, or would you rather be with a girl who would only be with you if you were muscled?

If it's the latter, then go and work out. But remember - she'll be gone when the guy with bigger muscles comes along.

Apodyopsis · Answer

Funny guy > Buff guy.

Why?

Sense of humor = SUPER ULTIMATE SEXINESS.

Seriously. Funny guys have a ticket straight into my pants.

Also, the way you asked your question is quite suggestive. ''Muscles aren't important, right?'' It's like you're expecting us to say ''Nah''.

I SEE WHAT YOU DID THERE.

Okay I gotta stop psycho analyzing everything :/

Anonymous · Answer

i am 18 too,5'9" too my weight is just 120lbs but still girls ask me on date.so its not muscles but personality.some girls do favour muscular men but not all.so if you want to start lifting you may do so but there isn't any guarantee it would help.so concentrate more on the personality thing.

ALWAYSclassy · Answer

It's not very very important, but I am more immediately attracted to a muscular guy with a nice body. That being said, I have liked and dated guys who were not muscular if he is in generally good shape, cute face, good personality and we like each other then I would date him, but yes I'm more immediately attracted to bigger men.

dfg456 · Answer

Just get toned, don't need to bulk up and become a roid monkey, maybe just go to the gym and work on your muscle tone for more definition. It will make you stronger and keep you somewhat skinny as well but your muscle definition will be more apparent if the girls see it.

Anyway if the girls only care about looks... Then they aren't worth it because of tat reason alone.

Anonymous · Answer

wow you sound just like my guy.  I think yeah, make sure you can carry a girl, girls like that.

San_Diego_Rick · Answer

I'm 5' 11" and I was about 139 two years ago now I'm about 165. I can run faster now than I could when I was skinny. Remember even though you have more muscle to weigh you down your legs are much stronger if they are ripped too.

strawberrynecklace · Answer

I don't like really muscular guys at all! I like my men to be more lean and in shape, with a little bit of muscle. I don't like it when the guy is buff. I've always been that way. Just my opinion.

-StillWater- · Answer

No. They're really  not. In fact, visible muscles make me cringe. And yes, girls like to be picked up or carried sometimes, just for the fun of it. And I do mean literally. ^_^

chunri · Answer

Nope, I'd take a skinny guy over a muscular guy any day! I hate big muscles.

bryher11 · Answer

if you run,i'm sure you have a nice body. I don't like guys who have a lots of muscle on them. but for me the personality counts more

heythere · Answer

I don't think muscles are all that important. I have a fine time getting girls without big muscles. I've been chosen over bigger guys before. It's more about personality.

Anonymous · Answer

weak bod, get down the gym! girls like guys with a bit on them- its a protection thing, they like to feel safe

Anonymous · Answer

i would never date a skinny guy I need my man to have muscles

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not into muscles at all. A broad upper body works magic for me instead!

InMyHeart · Answer

no, they're not. muscles can make you look more attractive, but they're not that important.

MalibuBeach · Answer

if a guy has muscly  legs and arms...I could die! it's so hot! *.*

Anonymous · Answer

You said that you can make girls laugh, that's pretty powerful.

Cassie96 · Answer

Depends if you got a desent build it doesn't really matter.Girls just want to feel protected

bel42 · Answer

hey aren't that important.

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