I realized I had to accept the way I felt and I didn't feel like anyone wanted to be my friends or wanted to chat to me but I realised that wasn't the case when they started talking to me and new my fear of socialising was more in my head
Not sure if I have social anxiety but I just have this paralyzing sense of doubt when I want to talk to someone (i. e. attractive girl) when other people are around. There's no real sense of panic; just an inability to act and I can't seem to get past it. If someone talks to me, I can talk back without issue. But I have this ingrained belief that I'm just bothering them and they'd rather be left alone.
I used to not have it, then I did for a while. I work at a live music bar and am surrounded by a lot of people all the time and I had to get over it haha
Well I don't know exactly how you would get over it but I could think of one way to get over it fast no matter how uncomfortable it might be have sex with a complete stranger that you just met it might be very uncomfortable at first but once you get into it it won't be no more it'll start feeling good and sooner or later you'll be over that social anxiety and I volunteered to be your first victim
Honestly just get in small group settings. Not like crazy parties or anything, but just tag along with a small group of friends that know eachother really well. All you have to do is listen in and you can learn the mechanics of conversation and grow comfortable with them
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Reached the conclusion that I'd never be enough for some people. So I finally said, f*** it! And just stopped caring altogether. You get that way when you reach a certain age I think.
Its still here but once i bwcame homeless in a shelter i had to get a jobs and had to go work customer service or work in stores with a lot of people almost daily.. But yea i still have anxiety but i think for a lot of times you just dont focus on it and just do what u gotta do. Just go to work.
Have non offensive opinion a out anything and everything. Pick up the jokes communication try joining. Read body language and micro expressions. Seek permission.
When I was a freshman in high school I frequently had it. I changed high schools the following year and vowed I would have a better role in the second HS. It worked wonederfully
My biggest social anxiety is personal space especially when you are somewhere that is not crowded and you have people with their head up their ass walking right into you
Haven't. I just roll with it. There's been times where I spoke to "large" groups and surprisingly kept my anxiety under control. Still get nervous every damn time.
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I realized I had to accept the way I felt and I didn't feel like anyone wanted to be my friends or wanted to chat to me but I realised that wasn't the case when they started talking to me and new my fear of socialising was more in my head
Not sure if I have social anxiety but I just have this paralyzing sense of doubt when I want to talk to someone (i. e. attractive girl) when other people are around. There's no real sense of panic; just an inability to act and I can't seem to get past it. If someone talks to me, I can talk back without issue. But I have this ingrained belief that I'm just bothering them and they'd rather be left alone.
Seeking positive knowledge and education yourself about the issue plus analyzing yourself where you need to be strength and improvement.
I'm still coping with it today, but most the time it's just because I was forced into those situations that I eventually get used to them.
I can relate to that
I never had it that bad but I forced myself to be less shy through sheer willpower
I used to not have it, then I did for a while. I work at a live music bar and am surrounded by a lot of people all the time and I had to get over it haha
Well I don't know exactly how you would get over it but I could think of one way to get over it fast no matter how uncomfortable it might be have sex with a complete stranger that you just met it might be very uncomfortable at first but once you get into it it won't be no more it'll start feeling good and sooner or later you'll be over that social anxiety and I volunteered to be your first victim
I developed worse issues, so now basic anxiety doesn't do much
Honestly just get in small group settings. Not like crazy parties or anything, but just tag along with a small group of friends that know eachother really well. All you have to do is listen in and you can learn the mechanics of conversation and grow comfortable with them
Reached the conclusion that I'd never be enough for some people. So I finally said, f*** it! And just stopped caring altogether. You get that way when you reach a certain age I think.
Its still here but once i bwcame homeless in a shelter i had to get a jobs and had to go work customer service or work in stores with a lot of people almost daily.. But yea i still have anxiety but i think for a lot of times you just dont focus on it and just do what u gotta do. Just go to work.
Self help books. 1 2 3 rule. Try making new friends. Try to talk with strangers. Say hi give smile wave. Make small talks or long.
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Have non offensive opinion a out anything and everything. Pick up the jokes communication try joining. Read body language and micro expressions. Seek permission.
LOONG story.
To make it short, I just went for it and talked to people. Doing it too quickly to care about the outcome.
I know it seems impossible to do, but you shouldn't think about that
I had to really work on having compassion for myself.
When I was a freshman in high school I frequently had it. I changed high schools the following year and vowed I would have a better role in the second HS. It worked wonederfully
You can practice by speaking in public, having a mentor who is a good orator and social being.
Loud and aggressive music works better than anything else I've tried.
Like this?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KbXvl5HSnQ4
Less like that, and more like this:
https://youtu.be/req-oDf2ZRc
Ahh okay 🤣 that's not my cup of tea
Bold of you to assume I got over it.
I still have it, but I no longer need to act upon it.
My biggest social anxiety is personal space especially when you are somewhere that is not crowded and you have people with their head up their ass walking right into you
Haven't. I just roll with it. There's been times where I spoke to "large" groups and surprisingly kept my anxiety under control. Still get nervous every damn time.