My new boyfriend is a chain smoker. I don’t have a say do I?

[Anonymous]

My new boyfriend is literally amazing and perfect for me, we’ve been going out for 3 months but I worry about him because he’s a chain smoker (many cigs a day) and I saw him doing drugs at a party the other day. I don’t have any say do I? I’m just worried something will happen to him. But I knew he was a smoker before I got with him.

[Anonymous]

The first thing you need to do is stop telling yourself lies. He is not perfect for you. Secondly you need to seriously ask yourself why you keep on getting involved with guys that have deal breakers. This is not the first time...

I would never get involved with a woman that smoked. It goes far beyond being unhealthy, it shows they are on a lower vibration, do not truly understand the sheer gift that health is, are addicted, undisciplined and on a completely different page. I'm not surprised to hear he was doing drugs, that's another symptom of low vibration.

[Kaneki05]

You can make an opinion. But you cannot change him. So if he don't then it's your choice to leave him or not but if you are leaving him honestly I am just confused why you got with him in the first place if it's an issue for you lol.

[Asker]

Because our personalities clicked really well and I'm very attracted to him physically, I guess.

[NathanDavis]

you don't have a say no...

but you do have a choice

up to you to stick with an addict or a heavy smoker

[Asker]

Thank you. I agree.

[Red_Arrow]

He is a chain smoker, so he smells like a dirty ashtray all the time and is likely to die of lung disease. That is if he does not die from the drugs he is taking. So tell me, how is any of this "perfect" for you?

[slatyb]

You can't make him change. You either accept him as he is or you move on.

[Anonymous]

Sure you do. You can say it's the cigs and drugs or me. Then you find out what you're truly worth to him. And if he chooses you you just prolonged a life.

[exitseven]

If you really like him and can stand the smell I guess it is okay.

[Anonymous]

It's none of your business "Karen", let him do what he likes. It's not up to you to control him.

[Asker]

You’re a horrible person.

[Opinion Owner]

Why? Am I the one who's trying to control someone? No. You said he's literally amazing, so why does it matter if he smokes. If any damage is being done it's to him not you.

[Asker]

Because I worry about his health. To call me a Karen just for worrying about someone I care about is weird, rude, and “horrible.”

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said it's his choice. Do you drink alcohol? eat fast food? Exercise daily?

[Asker]

Yes I do. I try to take care of myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Well I'm sure you have things u do that aren't perfect

[Asker]

I think you're the male Karen lol

[Opinion Owner]

Why? I don't try to control my partners life

[Asker]

Because you’re coming on here overreacting.

[Asker]

And it’s not control, it’s concern. I didn’t ask “how can I make him do what I want” I asked if I have any say because I am his girlfriend

[Opinion Owner]

Lol read what you wrote Karen🤣

[34r3xeberia]

Tell hım to stop