Partner Wants me To Get Fit Before He Agrees to Have Baby With Me. Anyone else have had a condition like this imposed on them?

[TrippyStarry]

My partner wants me to get fit before agreeing to have a baby with me. He says it’ll be good for my pregnancy and allow me to better recover afterwards. He wants me to come running with him early in the morning 6 days a week. He also wants me to join crossfit. Anyone else have had a condition like this imposed on them?

[Anonymous]

You'd get far more benefit doing an Isochain routine every 2 days. The cardio in that would be superior as well (scientifically proven). Running is hard on the body and to suggest that as the method to get fit before having a baby is very irresponsible. Cross-fit is also inferior and holds unecessary risk of injury. If he's going to suggest something to get fit before having a baby, at least he should do some thorough research instead of just jumping on the mainstream bandwagon.

Isochain isometrics would build up your joints, tendons, increase your cardio more than running, treadmill or other known forms. It would create a tight core and a body that resists injury as well as build muscle with near zero risk of injury. You will also increase strength significantly and even develop protection from hernia, twisted ankle and back problems. You can build your own one or buy commercial. Running and Crossfit? SMH...

''In 2013 a questionnaire was sent out to the CrossFitters of the world, looking for information about any injuries they might have sustained from their workouts (3).

The results were published in Journal of Strength and Conditioning Research.

Of the 132 responses that came back, a startling 97 people reported having suffered from some injury as a result of their CrossFit training – equating to a 73.5 percent injury rate.

It’s also worth noting that those 97 people dealt with a total of 186 injuries, meaning that many of them had had multiple injuries.''

Below is a few of the Isochain routines. Note that he is using a chain, but it is much better to use a numbered gymnastic strap. The new Isochain release coming in March 2023 is also more user friendly. They swapped the heavy metal plate for a light weight tough plastic and the chain is now replaced with a strap. I also know a woman that uses a similar system and she simply stands on the plate doing upright row for 20 seconds and squat for 20 seconds. This works the entire body including the cardiovascular system.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/VpuuMNJQs3Q

[TrippyStarry]

Thanks for that. I will learn more about this and try to do some.

[msc545]

It is understandable that you may feel concerned or upset about your partner's request that you get fit before having a baby. While it is true that being in good physical shape can have benefits for pregnancy and postpartum recovery, it is important to approach this issue in a way that is respectful and considerate of your own needs and boundaries.

It is ultimately up to you to decide whether or not you want to engage in physical activity in order to prepare for pregnancy and childbirth. If you feel that your partner's request is unreasonable or overly demanding, it is important to communicate your feelings and concerns to them in a respectful and open way. You may want to consider talking to a therapist or counselor to help you navigate this issue and find a solution that works for both of you.

It is more likely than not that your partner is experiencing anxiety about having a baby or problems with your health, and this should be addressed respectfully and with compassion and understanding

It is also important to remember that every person is different and what works for one person may not work for another. It is important to find a physical activity routine that is realistic and sustainable for you, and to prioritize your own health and well-being. If you do decide to engage in physical activity as a way to prepare for pregnancy and childbirth, it is important to consult with a healthcare provider and listen to your body to ensure that you are doing what is safe and healthy for you.

[TrippyStarry]

I see what you're saying but I don't want to make a big deal out of it. I don't want to come across as a complainer. That's how you ruin perfectly good relationships

[TrippyStarry]

It's a bit hard to say, 'gee i'd rather not do this thing that'll be good for me and you should be okay with that'. You know?

[luxxoxo]

In my opinion if he wants you to get fit because of some medical reasoning of something is wrong with your stomach wether that would be sis, hernia or anything like this then okay I get it it’s important to take care of yourself first before having a baby that can stretch out the stomach and possibly be hurtful to you BUT if he is just telling you to get fit just to get fit then girl there is an issue.

[Charlesbrandonf]

It isn’t that bad. It’s a good habit. If a man asks his girlfriend to do drugs then it’s an issue. Fitness is only good for health wether or not it’s told by a boyfriend.

[luxxoxo]

I wouldn’t have this as a condition imposed on me in order for him to agree to have a baby with me like it just sounds unrealistic I respect that he cares but during a pregnancy a lot happens to a woman’s body it’s not simple to be fit and have that goal but also as a “condition” to have a baby then have your stomach stretched out it just seems like an unrealistic condition imposed on a woman. Same thing for men If a woman for example imposes a condition on a man to get fit before agreeing to have a baby with him it is just such a bizarre ask. “Condition”

[Anonymous]

It’s a good idea but you know your body better for example you don’t need to exercise 6x a week if you want you can do 3-4x a week
Everything in moderation or do how you feel
It’s the being healthy matters but I know healthy Pepe giving birth to autistic kids and obese women giving birth to 3 babies and a slimy women with PCOS
So don’t get to obsessed with it

[Opinion Owner]

I know being healthy matters *
Healthy people *
Skinny *

[Anonymous]

Im not going to lie I told my partner the same thing,. Reason being my co worker had a couple of miscarriages and was told by her doctor that her body lacks certain nutrients to support a fetus. I can't remember what it was called and I know my partner lacks in a lot of nutrient categories so i push her to eat more and be more active physically and mentally. Because at the end of the day its not just you your supporting but also a growing fetus that depends on its mothers health. Its a precaution is all. not trying to shame or control just worried

[TrippyStarry]

Yeah he said some of the same things. Talked about how a lot of new mums get depression and how exercise would prevent that. He also mentioned how his mum always complained his entire life how having him changed her body and how pretty she was before him. He doesn't want me to feel the same way.

[VanillaSalt]

I did the same with my ex though we’re not together anymore and she never got fit…


Attractions important. If your partners not interested you might find them leaving you one day. Furthermore the babies health and the wade of both the birth and healing process is effected by weight.

[Anonymous]

Ok I can see for health reason yes that would make sense. Plus the fact that he’s already running himself, you just need to go w him isn’t a bad thing. Now had he told you you need to do it on your own everyday at 6 am, I’d have said fuck no you’re going w me fat ass lol

[Weapon77]

That's wise. Too many things can go wrong with the child if you aren't in good health. And the more fit you are, the more your children will be, believe it or not.

[HighValue]

It's actually a valid and good idea. You should do curls too (weights). It will make it much easier on you after having the kid if you do get fit first.

[LazerBean]

We both wanted to get more fit to prepare for pregnancy, among other things, but honestly your boyfriend sounds over the top.

[exitseven]

I think he is worried that after you have a baby you will just let yourself go.

[TrippyStarry]

Life is a mystery

[exitseven]

@TrippyStarry Yes but fate favors the well prepared.

[CA4444]

Mmh why not, that’s his version of being healthy and your best physical self for the baby?

[Adaeva]

That is reasonable if he is also fit. Fit guys deserve fit wives.

[Curmudgeon]

It would make more sense for him to get you on such a regimen *after* your birth and nursing.

[artsy_dragon]

I grew being fit but that's exterme. What is your exercise normally?

[TrippyStarry]

I am in a netball and volleyball team which we play once a week.

[artsy_dragon]

That's good more than me lol. Go for a run once a week. You will over staim your self

[artsy_dragon]

Wait what's theoint of getting fit before having a baby? Just do exercise when you are pregnant. You're going to end up gaining the same amount of weight anyways

[TrippyStarry]

He thinks I won't be able to get in shape afterwards if I am not super fit before it.

[artsy_dragon]

You're not going to have the body you used to have after a baby. Yes exercise helps with fertile but not a lot. Speak to a doctor

[AsaKyo]

He does know that you're gonna gain a little weight during pregnancy, right? lmao..

[TrippyStarry]

Yes he does. He feels if I start now with fitness, then my metabolism can stay high even after birth and i'll lose weight quicker that way.

[sheikalana]

Is he aware that you're going to gain some weight during pregnancy?

[Anonymous]

Sounds offensive, possessive and controlling.

[TrippyStarry]

You don't know him so you might want to chill

[VanillaSalt]

@TrippyStarry hiss lol. A woman defending a man from a woman on here… I’ve died and gone to heaven.

[Sasha0426]

I mean, it’s fine to be fit but he needs to think how pregnancy works and what your body goes through. Did he forget he came out of a woman?

[ArtemisSilver]

Maybe you should do what he says instead of complaining to us, he's probably right.