My partner hates his son, humiliates him and now wants me to give him another baby?

[Anonymous]

I already asked help for this one, but I feel this situation is running out of control. My partner is in his 40. He has always been successful, wealthy ( self made) and extraordinary handsome. People loved him, especially women. His son is 18 and he is handsome too, but my partner always humiliates him for not being man enough, for being too sensitive ( he told him that even when his mother died. you shoulnt cry, she was a cheap whore”) My guess is that he also dislikes the boy because he had a bad relationship with the mother. Anyway, now he wants me to give him a baby. Like he told me „you should give me a baby. You are 25 and beautiful. Now its the time.

OK, I want a baby, but I am afraid that he will dislike this child too when he grows. Or I don't know what should I do. He is very dominant and I dont mind that, I am not a feminist, nor a woman who wants to be the man in the house. I like strong and strict men, but I feel I am not ready and dont know how to tell him without him getting angry and ignoring me for days

[caring__1]

As long as you continue to be his puppet and follow his instructions, he'll continue to provide you with the fame and fortune you value. If a quality connection was your priority, you wouldn't choose someone who strictly enforced his rules by getting angry or ignoring you for days and is disrespectful of his son. You're also likely to be labeled by him as a cheap whore in the future, when you're no longer young and beautiful. How do you think he'll respond to a saggy body with stretch marks? He can always buy someone younger and more beautiful. This is a person who only thinks about himself. He uses others to pump up his ego. It's your life, and your decision, but I sure wouldn't want to be any child you have with him.

[Asker]

Do you think he only wants me cuz im young? He wanted me to move in and wants me to be the mother of his child. I dont think he thinks negative things about me. And as I said he is handsome, so its not only the money...

[caring__1]

Chances are, his son's mother was young and beautiful, also. Ask yourself what you bring (of value to him) to the relationship other than youth and beauty and eggs. Always make sure there is a balance between what each person brings to the relationship. Looks and money don't make for a quality relationship, especially if we would like to see a future. Apparently, he's not drawn to 40-year-old women, so what makes you believe you'll still be around at 40?

[Asker]

Yes. His mother was young too, but so was my partner back then. I mean She was 2-3 years younger than him
I know I am not doing the right thing, I know this situation is trash, but I love him. He rarely talks to me and gives me attention. If his business is going wrong, he ignores me for days ( we live together).
I feel that if I could approach him emotionally, I would change the way he treats the boy. He said he only wants him to stop being a cunt and to become a real man. I tried to tell him its not ok but he says im just a kid and dont know anthing about life. So I should be doing what little girls are doing. I don't know what he meant, but he was sarcastic and I started crying

[caring__1]

Little girls play house. That's what he wants of you. He wants you to stay a kid, as he has trouble dealing with adults. We can influence change in others, but bullying them won't achieve the same results. He rarely talks with you or gives you attention. Dysfunctional parents talk to or at children; partners communicate with each other. How are you different from a heroin addict who says, "I know this is trash, but I love it"? Like I said previously, it's your life and your decision. Just choose something that allows you to respect yourself.

[Unit1]

Come on, use your head. If you give him a baby, he'll sure as hell will humiliate and abuse the child like crap. That's just asking for trouble.
leave that asshole. Staying for the money at the expense of 2 decades of misery for you and the child makes you wish for death.

[worldscolide]

The better question is why on earth would you be with a man who treats his son like that? that makes you just as bad as him if not worse than him.

[Asker]

I have a good relationship with him. He treats me well and he is very kind to me.

[worldscolide]

but only a garbage human would treat his son like that.. The fact that you're ok with how he treats his son shows you're the same as him. Its irrelevant how he treats you, if he can't treat his own offspring with respect, what makes you think he will treat your child with respect?

[Asker]

I tried to talk to him about his son but he told me Im a kiddo and this is not my problem. He treats me like a child too, sometimes

[worldscolide]

You want to be with a man who treats you like a child? Interesting. Again you have no business being with a man like that

[Asker]

Well. He is twice my age... almost

[worldscolide]

That's just gross to be honest.

[Asker]

Why?

[worldscolide]

Because he is old enough to be your father, and you will never truly know an adult equal relationship, you will permanently be less than him.

[slatyb]

Do not have a baby with an abusive man. My advice -- get the hell out before he starts in on you. Whatever you are getting in material goods, the price is too high.

[exitseven]

I would not even be with somebody like that. I don't care if he is rich. If he treats his son like that, how will he treat you?

[djfhsjk]

This doesn't sound like a great guy to me but I'm just going off of what you've said.

[Lone_wolf122]

" My partner is in his 40. He has always been successful, wealthy "... Now we know why you're still with him despite being a bad person

[Anonymous]

guy sounds like a psychopath. get rid of him. if he's angry at you just be careful he doesn't lash out on you not only verbally but physically as well. he's showing all the red flags of physical abuse. get out while you still can before it's to late

[Waldoe]

if you decide to be a "doormat" people will walk on you.

[Steve1071]

Leave him and report him for child abuse.

[Luckycharms12]

Why doesn't sound like a good dad