He should not encourage her to keep the child while not willing to be a present father from the beginning, money doesn't make up for the absence of a father, especially if the mother will have to be a single mother and a worker too. That is irresponsible and very superficial for him, he sounds ingenuous about parenting.
I think he should either take the decision to fix that relationship with his ex and be a proper father, or not encourage her to keep the baby and not paying for it. If you can avoid creating a broken family from the start, well, you should do it, not encourage it.
Regardless, 3 weeks is an irrelevant time, he didn't even have time to get over the habits and the daily routines with his ex, and to move on at all, yet he got you as a (possible) rebound. Don't jump into a relationship with someone who is not ready to get into another relationship and didn't even take any time to elaborate what just happened and learn from mistakes he lived. Now you did it but it's just a week afterall, I think you should tell him that you didn't envision a relationship with a man who would decide to become the father of his ex's child while being with you already, that you don't trust their status because 3 weeks is not enough to really move on, and that he is not doing a good figure of responsibility in encouraging a single mother to get that lifestyle, thinking that money repays everything.
To me this could be easily a deal breaker. You may stop seeing each other now, telling him you're not ready for this thing to manage or money in a hypothetical marriage getting used for his ex (which also means using yours for her, if you work too and share finances). Then you date other guys, then after some months you come back and see his status, if you're not in a relationship already. One week is so short afterall, you will probably forget about each other in 2-3 months completely. You didn't even have the time to create a bond made of trust, it won't be any deep wound, just an argument and a goodbye.
Time to move on, step aside. You don't need this drama in your life.
It’s understandable that you may feel uncertain or conflicted about your new relationship given your boyfriend's recent news about his ex being pregnant. It's important to communicate openly and honestly with your boyfriend about your feelings and concerns, and to make sure that you are both on the same page in terms of your expectations and values for the relationship.
It's important to consider the potential challenges and complexities that may arise from your boyfriend having a child with his ex, and to make sure that you are comfortable with the situation before moving forward. It's also important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, and to make sure that you are not compromising your own values or needs in the relationship.
If you are feeling uncertain or uncomfortable with the situation, it may be helpful to talk to your boyfriend about your concerns and to seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals. Remember, every relationship is unique, and it's important to prioritize open and honest communication, mutual respect, and trust as you work towards building a healthy and fulfilling relationship together.
Get outta there
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Yes please continue it. She doesn't want him. Trust me
Sounds like you picked a helluva guy.
Time to move on.
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