If a guy you like has acne........

[Anonymous]

Girls which one would you rather have? Okay, a guy has acne on his chest and back. And has also tried all possible things to make it go away but is useless. Would you rather have the guy refuse to take his shirt off and not tell you that he has bad acne because his is too embarrassed. Or would you rather have him take off his shirt and suck it up despite having bad acne. And I don't mean one here or there. I mean the back is covered from shoulders down to middle of the back, and then scattered acne from middle back down to waist. and chest acne.. well just on the chest. So which one would you prefer. Or the third option, have him leave his shirt on but tell you that he has bad acne. I'm going out on the limb and say the third one would probably be the more common answer. But I don't know. I want you girls to vote for which one so I and any other guy who wants to know this answer can find out what the majority of girls think. One last thing, if you leave a comment as too why, you can be as honest and as brutal as you want. I don't want know sympathy story, just the God honest truth.

Shirt on, and not tell me.

Shirt off and suck it up

Shirt on, but tell me anyways.

For the guys.

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I don't want no* sympathy

[Living-the-ADvenTURe]

When a boyfriend takes off his shirt to cuddle or make love, I feel so much closer and lovey with him. There is just something so special and romantic about it and I that he trusts me enough to show me all off himself. If a girl really loves you, she probably wouldn't mind, unless it looked REALLY gross. The best thing to do is just to talk with her about it and see what she says. She might be like me and want you to take off your shirt.

I dated a guy who used to never want to take his shirt off because he was too shy. I really wanted him to share ALL of himself with me so I eventually got him to take it off. It really meant a lot to me. Now we are not together but he is not afraid to take it off anymore, he even takes pictures with no shirt on. His body did have some acne but I couldn't of cared less.

[Asker]

I understand what you are saying when it comes to showing all of himself. I never once took my shirt off in front of my ex the 2 years I dated her. After we broke up and she got a new guy and I got a new girl, she asked me how are things going, and I didn't want to talk to her because of how we broke up. She asked me if I took my shirt off for her. Expecting me to say no, I lied to her and said, yeah, why wouldn't I? I do it all the time. Which has to sting since I never did with her

[ZenQueen]

please please take the shirt off, I'm a health nut so I could probably help cure his acne... take your shirt off and swim and lay in the sun and it will clean your pores and the sun will absorb the oil/puss and clear up your skin, acne is not permanent it is just a sign that something is wrong within your body(food you are eating) or the products you are using(too many chemicals? too dry? natural oils like grape seed clean out your pores amazingly!) and make sure you are cleaning your pores (with sweating/showers and laying in the sun) trust me! you don't have to spend a lot of money, less is more when dealing with irritated skin. I would not be embarrassed by a guy's acne, I would just want him to feel comfortable and confident, t shirt on or off.

[danndan6]

Most men think that women are as shallow as us, especially girls as pretty as you. In truth, girls are far less shallow, especially those worth their weight

[Usemyname]

I chose c because if he absolutely refused to take his shirt off I'd want to know why. But depending on the type of acne I would want him to leave his shirt on. Like if it looks like every humongous zit is going to explode a load of puss all over me because the acne is so severely bad, I would want him to leave it on. But if they are just tiny red zits with little bumps take it off. I've got a few here and there too so it's not like you're alone. Just don't be offended when I don't want to run my hand up and down your back. Was that brutally honest enough?

[Asker]

That was almost too kind. haha... I don't think I would want a girl to run her hand up and down my back because it would hurt like a bitch. Especially if she's using her nails. Just lightly touching it can sting like a bitch.

[Usemyname]

Yeah I know. I used to get it around the nape of my neck and my boyfriend would touch me there and it made me cringe with pain. But then I got that clean and clear body wash stuff and it worked wonders. It even took away little bumps I had on my arms hips and thighs. I use it with a scrubby thing (if you know what I'm talking about) and I'm sure that helped a lot with exfoliating.

[Asker]

a scrubby thing? ha ha that narrows it down. If you are talking about this link then I know what you're talking about, if not. nope not at all.

[Usemyname]

Yeah! Those! You're good.

[NothingGoldCanStay]

Try acutane, don't let the doctor under perscribe you it was not very effective the first couple times for me cause I am quite big 90kgs then I got a proper dosage for my weight for a solid 6 months and trust me it all went away. Have max 1 pimple a week and usually none. I know what you mean about the suicidal sh*t, main draw back for me was some joint pain. Plus it didn't mix well with alcohol. But it paid off, just the confidence boost you get knowing you don't have any pimples.

[upskrtcelebs]

I would not mention it to the chick until you start to get to the intimate part of the relationship (ie. the second date). Once a chick likes you, it really doesn't matter what you think is wrnog with you. I mean, you could have five testicles and herpes and they'd still want you.

[anon27]

My boyfriend has acne on his back sometimes ..usually when he's been working outside he breaks out (its not horrible though) but I'd rather he take his shirt off and get on with it, I wouldn't want him to treat me differently if I had a pimple on my face!

[Asker]

That's a good way to look at it.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, if a liked a guy enough to go out with him, then superficial things like acne won't matter. If he has acne because of bad hygiene, then I probably wouldn't be going out with him in the first place. And any girl who's shallow enough to stop liking you because of your acne is pathetic, shallow bxtch A.K.A not worth your time and energy. By the way, has the guy ever heard of Accutane? It's very effective to cure acne. It has a lot of serious side effects, but they all have a low percentage. Tell him to go see a dermatologist and ask.

[Asker]

Actually, yes I have tried accutane. Didn't work.. as a matter of fact, it made it worse. Accutane and proactive both made it much worse. And no I didn't use them at the same time haha.. I have a friend who had it just as bad as I did, if not worse and he used accutane and it worked for him really well. Although, he became really moody and very suicidal while on it.

[Opinion Owner]

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[Opinion Owner]

How long did you stay on it? You do know that it gets worst before it gets better, right? Also, some people may need more than one treatment session.

[Asker]

So... not to be a complete jackass, but what was the purpose of those links?

[Opinion Owner]

I was trying to show you some results, but I hadn't read your first comment. Sorry about dude.

[Asker]

I was on it for 2 months, and my dermatologist told me to stay on it a bit longer, and by the 4th month I said f*** it because it got worse.

[Asker]

Don't worry about it, it's fine... dude. :)

[Opinion Owner]

Well, dude, lol a normal session is 6 months long. For some, the acne gets much worst and so they have to get a second session of accutane. I think there's a two month waiting period though. It's your option, but if I were you I would give it another try. If you're anything like me, any time I give up on something or end up not doing it, I regret it and think of "What if...?" And that poop gets old quick (-__-")

[Asker]

I appreciate the input, dude, but there is no way I will get back on that. Although, I didn't have the mood swings, I did become extremely suicidal. Now, some may wonder, how can you become suicidal and not have mood swings. Simple, I stayed in a suicidal state. First month was fine, but the 2nd month, and 3rd month I was really contemplating, and the 4th month, I half-assed an attempt. I don't know what would happen if I stayed on for another 2 months, and on top it was getting worse. Not a

[Asker]

good combination. but like I said, I appreciate the input.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, whatever the outcome, I wish you goodluck and de nada :)

[Living-the-ADvenTURe]

Yeah...Don't go back on it then... Have you gone back to the doctor and asked him for medication that do not have any serious side effects? Tell him that crap stuff didn't work and that you need to find something less dangerous to get rid of your acne.

[Darkfairie17]

I would just tell the girl anyway. She is in some way going to see it. Acne isn't honestly that big of a deal. I have acne too and have dated people with acne. I have had it pretty bad, I still break out even at 22. Nothing is working for me. But I still get dates. People who won't date you because of acne are just dumb. Find a girl who likes you for you, there are girls who won't care.

Some people just suffer from it, it's a hormone thing. Because I clean my face everyday and eat healthy and nothing changes! I drink lots of water and am breaking out really bad right now. It just comes down to hormones for some ppl.

But for a guy to show me, I would feel honoured because he probably feels really insecure. I wouldn't judge or make fun, I have back acne too, not that bad, but it's still there.

[brookeelizabeth]

I don't mind because I used to have pretty bad acne so I understand. Anyways, I think whatever the guy would be comfortable with. If he wants to keep his shirt on that's fine, I understand how acne can make you feel sometimes. I would like for a guy, if he was a good friend of mine, to be able to share his concerns with me. Maybe the third one then I guess, I feel like the guy would be the most comfortable but not have to feel like they're really hiding something. but I wouldn't mind any of them.

[DallasTexasGirly]

k I use to have A LOT of acne, like no joke all over my body, and I still do but its gone down, I use clearasil and you can get it at like your drug store and it really reduced my acne, and that said, I know how it feels to have acne so its not a big deal for me, and girls can cover it with make up and I don't want guys to do that xD so just embrace it, and some guys actually look cute with acne weird thing to say but its true, when I see a guy with perfect skin it makes me fee lself conscious

[Asker]

Clearasil is a lotion style kind of prescription isn't it? If that's the case, how would you suggest me to put it on my back all by myself?

[DallasTexasGirly]

it actually comes in lots of forms and just get a loufa I don't know how to spell it xD those things you scrub yourself with in theshower, and get a cleanser and use it like that.

[Asker]

A bath sponge? If so I'm set on that. And what is a cleanser?

[DallasTexasGirly]

the ones I have are

Clearasil Daily Exfoliating Scrub

Clearasil Ultra-Cleansing Cream Wash and

Clearasil stayclear-Oil free gel wash.

im not sure if they have a body wash but I use the gel wash as a body wash because it works well. Hope it goes away,its such a pain!

[Asker]

Okay, but my question after getting all of that is... how would I be able to apply it directly to my back if I can't reach it. One of my arms is flexible and I can touch my shoulder blade on the same side as the arm I am reaching with. While the other arm (my dominant arm) can't even reach the middle of my back

[DallasTexasGirly]

loufa they come with a stick on it like a back scratcher, at the dollar store

[Asker]

They have ones with sticks? hahah And all this time I've been using one without a stick.

[DallasTexasGirly]

xD things girls find LOL

[foreveralways7896]

Honestly I would want him to tell me about it and that he is insecure about it (if you are) I would respect him better for sharing his feelings. Also I would never judge him because of acne. Its something you can't control. But I'm sure if you showed a doctor then you can improve the acne. My friend has the same problem and told her doctor. after a while all the acne is gone. Its like it was never there. Anywaaays...if I really liked him I would like his flaws also. Not everyone is perfect. I wouldn't love the acne but I would still love him.

[mirmirmir]

I would feel flattered if a man took off his shirt and revealed a lot of acne -- something he was very self-conscious of and not willing to share with many people. I would love to be that person that he could feel comfortable enough with to come out of his shell to. I'd love to hold him and try to make him feel as handsome as I think he probably is. :) I also really like body and personality quirks! :)

[Ada-Fae]

I don't think that it is that big of a deal. I myself have body acne (but surprisingly, not face acne), keratosis pilaris and I'm a recovering compulsive picker, meaning that I have both scabs and tons of scars all over. If the guy can be alright with that, I see no reason why I should reciprocate.

[Allix93]

Okay. I usually don't answer feature questions because I thinks its stupid. But. My boyfriend has the same issue as your describing. and I really could care less, I still kiss him and his body, I don't care what others think of him. He can take off his shirt if he wants, it's not a big deal. Don't worrie about it.

[queenofpeen]

Shirt off and suck it up. And bonus points if he's honest and tells me he's a little insecure about it, rather than just pretending to be confident. I'd rather he was open with me so I could tell him how *I* feel about it.

After he talked to me about it, he could keep his shirt on if he really wanted to, but eventually he's going to have to find a way to get over it, because I want him naked :3 I would be patient and understanding for a while, though.

[Living-the-ADvenTURe]

Best answer right here!

[Alanaaa]

Just tell her, if she is really bothered by it .. take it as a gift, that you found out early enough that she's a shallow cow. It wouldn't BOTHER me, I wouldn't really like it, but I'd probably be indifferent to it after seeing it the first couple times.

[imperatriz]

I chose B.

If our relationship is going to get anywhere, I will find out about your acne and I'll also see it. So I don't see the point of hiding it from me, either by not talking about it or by keeping your shirt on. Besides taking your shirt off would show that unlike others, you're confident enough to not get phased by acne and that's kinda sexy.

[Anonymous]

i have face acne I HATE it with every fiber in my being, but eating right is key. Switch to a water only and vegetables and fruits. research which are good for acne. you just have to clean your system. carrots for example are good for this. and different ones help with different things. cauliflour I believe reduces inflamation.

[sweetdoeeyes16]

I wouldn't care if he had acne everywhere. If I liked him, I probably wouldn't even see it, I'd just unconsciously look past it and to the person who I love.
However, I have dealt with acne and blackheads for a few years now, and I know how unconfident it can make anyone feel. I would definitely want him to take his shirt off, it is healthy to let the skin breathe with nature.
Confidence tip: Think about other people who you have seen with acne. Does it bother you? If not, then I don't see why other people would be bothered by yours. That's what I always think when I need a confidence boost, and it's the truth too. I hope this helps! :)

[Cyclopentasiloxane]

If I really liked him, then I would want him to take his shirt off and I would try to help clear his acne. I would research different ways to do so, like going to see a dermatologist

[AmoreRisvegliato]

If she likes you, she's not going to care. You're you with the acne or not. I personally don't care if I genuinely like someone. If you're not comfortable though, just let her know. Try to have confidence though. :)

[bigbooty-cutie]

Personally I think back acne is nasty. But if I really like you I won't care. I think you should tell the girl about your acne & pay attention to her facial expression. If she looks normal then go ahead, remove the shirt. But if she has a weird look on her face then you should leave the shirt on.

[Red_Raconteur]

My boyfriend has acne on his chest, back, and face. I don't care. I had severe acne when I was younger. It sucks and nobody wants it, but you deal with it.

[Catie101]

if I love him, the acne won't matter, no matter how bad it is

[mjmlag]

What if the acne becomes so mutated that his body becomes one large pimple?

[Catie101]

so what if? I'd still love him for him

[Corrupt_Others]

Shirt off, and suck it up. Sometimes I have acne here and there (not bad), and if he feels self conscious about his, it would make me feel worse about mine.

[raineydaygurl]

i really don't care,what ever he is comfortable with. acne really doesn't bother me at all. don't really even notice it, honest.

[Anonymous]

Honestly it wouldn't really bother me. If I like the guy, I'm willing to accept his flaws. But you can do something about it - go see a doctor, and there's a prescription. My cousin had the same problem, and it went away.

[Anonymous]

my guy has super bad acne on his back, I just suck it up and what not.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has back acne from working out. I still love him the same and think he's sexy as hell. :)

[Anonymous]

Just try to clear it up. Have you tried bar soap...the most usual soap.. ... Shower using it, not shower gel or anything else. Just soap.

[udolipixie]

Shirt on but tell me anyways

I'm a skin girl- scars,stretchmarks, and acne are a turn off.

So I'd like him to keep them out of my sight but tell me so I can bail on him.

[talishi]

i think he should take his shirt off and suck it up for her to see, maybe she will be able to help, you never know. and if she digs him that much, the acne won't be too big a problem

[acka72]

If he can accept my vaginal warts with no cure... I can deal with his acné.

[sunnydayboy]

are you joking or being serious?

[dwiller943]

TAKE IT OFF!!!
I wanna feel the bare chest and abs holding me.

[yagurlnira768]

dont care. When I like a guy I see no flaws

[Anonymous]

suck it up, it's not a big deal