My family member is obese and can barely walk outside a block without huffing and puffing. How do I convince him to exercise and change his life?

[VKN724]

As said in the title, my family member (brother) has become super reclusive and stays in his room all day. He is in his late 20s and jerks off to porn most of the time as he's told me and doesn't leave the house, and this can go on for days and at times weeks to months. He doesn't have a girlfriend or a job and says he's terrified of people but refuses to get help. Not sure what to do.

[SueShe]

Whose house is it anyway?

If it is his own house, you cannot tell him to move out to his own place. If he lives (leeches) in someone else's places, then motivate the owner of that place to give him an ultimatum to move out and get his own place. That could be an incentive to motivate to change his lifestyle.

Other than that, you cannot really do something to motivate your brother since he is not interested in changing his lifestyle. Best would be to have him checked by a psychiatrist first and then by an endocrinologist in order to determine if he has some psychological issues or if his condition is more of a physical nature.

He must realize that his obesity is likely to kill him before he reaches retirement age.

[EmmaMary]

Be completely straight and upfront with a Short, Sharp, Shock.

Simply say either do something about it...OR DIE.

Then walk away without saying another word.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Iron_Man]

Tell him he doesn’t have a choice, but to get out there and train

[exitseven]

He knows he is fat. He needs to do this for himself.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a typical g@g user.

He needs therapy.

[jahaims]

They are an addict. Addicts have to decide to change on their own.

[Avicenna]

Be direct